I liked my coworker, and he could tell that I do. He's not married, but I don't know if he has a girlfriend or a lives with her, if he does. I play it down that I like him, and my interest in him is slowly lessening each day
This guy talks about taking trips and talks about going places alone -- all things that he can see tug a little at my heart (I'm sensitive, but not a total fool). He says things to me as if he's on the verge of asking me to do stuff with him (whether lunch or going somewhere, like a day trip or an event close to where we live or work, etc), but then he never does actually ask me to do anything. It's like he wants to see my reaction and then keep me on a string. It's odd, and I can't explain it
What's going on here? It seems very likely as if he's playing me and toying with me. How do I handle it, and possibly stop it? And, can anyone give me a clue as to what this guy thinks of me -- on any level based on this info? Thanks
2007-10-20 14:57:17 · 4 answers · asked by advice 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Maybe he is receiving mixed signals from you. Maybe he can't read if you want to do anything with him or not. The next time he talks about doing something that you think you might enjoy, why don't you ask him if he wants some company. He may be relieved that you brought it up.
2007-10-20 15:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be playing with you, but I think he lacks the confidence to ask you out. You probably don't make it clear to him. Men are dense. I know, I'm one. Apparently you need someone to help you here. Someone to tell him you are waiting to be asked to lunch, let's say, and you would say yes. (If he asks and you can't go, make sure to tell him what other day would be fine.) My wife found a friend who knew me longer. The rest is history. I haven't gotten any better. My wife still has to hit me over the head with a sledge hammer to get the message across, or she gets a friend to tell me (like if she wants a gift). Good luck!
2007-10-20 15:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a flirt, but not sure. I like the direct approach. Just ask him if he has a girlfirend. By asking he will wonder why your asking. If he says yes, then you know where it's going, if he says no, then start some minor flirting, see where it goes. good luck. Remember this is a co worker, if things go bad you still have to wotk with him.
2007-10-20 15:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by dolly c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the harm in you asking him out? If he says he has a girl friend then say something charming....like..."lucky girl but too bad for you"....then smile and say something sincere...like yeah your a nice guy so I thought it would be fun to go on a date...but I respect your relationship. Then you could just remain friends...hope that is not too cheesy. :)
2007-10-20 15:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋