i already have a nice career established while i am currently enrolled in an extremely competitive college. no one knew me when i first came here, so people were friendly and i had friends. they then recognised my name and found out i was already well known in my field, and since then have been extremely defensive and wont hang out with me anymore. i am very modest compared to most and never brag. i am also always willing to help my friends when they ask for advice on their projects, but want nothing else from me and are never willing to help me out. if i walk into the room, they will cover their work because i intimate them despite my efforts to show them i am a good person. :( the only people i really get along with are the professors, but they actually have lives and families, unlike me, the youngest, lonely college kid.
2007-10-20 14:45:23 · 5 answers · asked by aleeena bee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
join clubs totally different from your chosen field,that way your no threat to anybody
2007-10-24 11:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by stumped 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said, it is an extremely competitive college and you have an established career already, so perhaps they see you as competition to them. you may have to find friends outside of the school for now and feel sorry for them that they don't let you become a part of their lives, but that is a cost just as the money you pay for the classes is. there are those of us not in your college who know that we need more people like you, willing to share and not trying to rub their successes in our faces, than them.
you may even have to be content to be friends with people online. You might see someone on here that you can be friends with by clicking on their name and sending an email or IM, including me. This is a cost of success and when you are through with school, you may find that people want to be your friends then that snub you now and you can be the one to snub them.
2007-10-20 15:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you've already stated....its a competitive college - do you really believe you can make true friendships at this place?
Seek friends outside of college where being competitive isn't as important as finding others to get along with and enjoying free time.
2007-10-21 02:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by Leu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make friends from out of campus.
2007-10-20 14:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by JinkiesNancy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
too needy... too desperate to fit in...
Just don't worry about things... real friends are (as we say in britain) like: Rocking Horse Sh i t.
You haven't intentionally done anyhting to upset these people so screw them.. They aren't worth being friends with.
2007-10-20 14:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by Edmund 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋