Be honest. Do you, or have you ever, loved on of your child more than the other? If so, why?
2007-10-20 13:37:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When I met my husband, we were both divorced with custody of a daughter each. The girls were 6 and 8 years old at the time. I was so afraid I wasn't going to be able to love his daughter (Kim) as much as I loved my own (Cindy). I wondered would either of our family's think one is treated better than the other? Every time something happened I would ask myself, If this was Cindy would I have reacted the way I did? After 2 years of this, we happened to run into Kim's biological mother. (who pop ed in and out of Kim's life when she wasn't out partying) When she said,"come to ma-ma" Kim looked at her and then looked at me. She got a big smile on her face and said. I have a new mom and shes a good one! That was it! I knew, and Kim knew, I was her mom. We have no "steps" in our family. We had a son later and all three of my children are different but much loved equally.
2007-10-20 14:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by Wondering.... 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of ways to love some one. Children may con you into spoiling them, but love has nothing to do with it.
Equal treatment is more important than equal mushy feelings. It's like equality before the courts.
You owe equal fairness, not equal rewards regardless of behaviour. Some times "tough love" is called for, and the most loving choice!!!
Trust is a factor too. If one is more trustworthy, you may have a greater level of comfort/love that has been earned righteously.
You do not owe equal regard for UNequal "character" ... just fair and equal behaviour/love within the limits of the circumstances.
When Cain murdered his brother Able, his parents did not OWE equal love and respect to a murderer.
The time to love/spoil children, is when you are a grandparent, and some one else has to do the "dirty work" of parenting.
2007-10-20 20:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NEVER! I have 3 kids, and with all honesty there's no greater love then the one you have for your kids. I love them all the same. The only thing that sometimes one of your child is usually more attached to you then the rest, but regardless the love the mother has is equal believe it or not.
2007-10-20 20:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by mexican leona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, my first child has stronger points than the second one, I really appreciate her for making life easier on me but no matter how I try, I find myself still giving them both the same treatment.
2007-10-20 20:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by lavagal.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..........you just show your love differently as each child needs different things in order to feel loved......each child has their own personalities and needs.
2007-10-20 21:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by westville sal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question, I would like to know the answer to this too!
2007-10-20 20:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by Tears are *Diamonds* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋