One of my (feminist) co-workers insists that a man who chooses to have children is "more of a man" than one who does not have children.
She can't justify her logic and when asked if a woman who chooses to have children, is more of a woman, he laughs at the idea.
To me, this sounds VERY sexist and I find it offensive that I am 'more' of a person by having a baby.
... while its obvious that she's a bit confused...
What are your thoughts?
Does not having a baby make me more of a man?
I'd love to hear different perspectives.
2007-10-20 11:50:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
"To me, this sounds VERY sexist and I find it offensive that I am 'more' of a person by having a baby. "
Oh wow! id be offended too if they called me "more" of a person!
2007-10-20 11:53:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I guess it is pretty sexist, especially since she doesn't apply it to women as well. I can kind of see where she is coming from though. Having children and raising them takes a tremendous amount of effort and courage. You always have to bring your a-game when children are involved. In this way I can understand the more of a man comment (though it should be person not necessarily just man) because you have to learn to sacrifice in order to take care of and raise another human being. However I wouldn't say that you become "more" of a person, but a different person. The person you already are grows in many ways. However it is not right to say more of a person because choosing not to have children (or not being able to which is the case for some) does NOT make you any less of a person.
2007-10-20 19:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by nygurly74 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is a reversal of a question that was posted last night.
The sex of a person isn't the main issue here. Parenting is, when done responsibly, a maturing experience, and having children nudges you toward being (it doesn't "make" you) more of an adult.
2007-10-20 19:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by G-zilla 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a man in any case. You are a different person before and after children.
2007-10-20 18:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think your "manhood" is determined by how many children you have. There are several people who are not mature enough to have children, yet they do anyway and their children end up in juvinile hall or in foster homes, does that make them more of a man...no....same for people who never have children.
2007-10-20 18:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shut the f*ck up d4!
Everybody knows that you're lying about the whole thing. This is the exact opposite of a question asked earlier:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20071019201832AAdqQwA&cp=3
You obviously lack any logic, which is evident in your illogical post. Stop reversing people's questions and making up such BS. You're not a man, you're a stupid misogynist.
2007-10-21 02:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by ArAmG 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think she cannot have it both ways. If having kids makes you more of a man, then a woman having kids makes her more of a woman.
2007-10-20 18:59:27 · answer #7 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you being less of a man has nothing to do with your reproductive decisions.
EDIT
Wanted you to know, I wouldn't have made a joke if this question weren't obviously just a reversal of an earlier question.
2007-10-20 19:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by Gnu Diddy! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have no children, so i am less of a woman? I know people with children that should not have had them.It is your own choice.
2007-10-20 19:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical feminist fuzzy logic. You're a man regardless of whether you have children or not.
2007-10-20 19:25:01 · answer #10 · answered by JD 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋