How do I come out to my parents?

Question

I am 15 years old.I like guys and girl,meaning i am bisexual.I dont know if they will accept me or will they still want me to live with them.I've been thrown out but where would i go now if peopl find out will they still accept me.

Answer 1

It's a tough choice. You will not know how will they take it, although, you can make an educated guess. Ask them what they think about a gay rights or a famous well-known gay person. From there, you can make a judgment. We will not be able to tell you if they will accept you or not. It's only a guess, that's all we can tell you. If they have thrown you out-- for whatever reason-- they have already shown you their authority and what they CAN and WILL do in a situation, so I would consider that before making any decision.

Answer 2

If you've been thrown out before they could do it again but depending on how much of a headache you've been for them, maybe this won't come as much of a shock ... but why do they have to know? Like a person caught cheating or caught in a lie ... deny deny deny. It never happend ... those painties I bought for you. Both sexes have good things to offer. Parents never really understand anything except for what they want from you and for you in life. Keep your life your life and just try to survive life with parents until you can move out of the house, go to college, or find a great job. Don't tell them until you are on your own two feet if ever. They don't need to know.

Answer 3

Alot can change over the years, and truthfully 15 is awfully young to make that kind of life decision. I also used to think I was bi-sexual when I was a teenager, but the truth is my hormones were simply raging, and an episode of Gilligan's Island was enough to turn me on. Fortunately I kept my mouth shut about it until I did understand who I was and what was going on.....and I saved myself alot of unnecessary misery in the process.

By the time you're 18, you may feel alot differently about things. Don't make this huge ordeal that's going to probably strain your relationship with your parents, and may also unnecessarily change the way others perceive you. Or how you perceive yourself. People make such a huge ordeal over their sexuality, when in truth it's only a tiny part of the entire picture....and again, you're too young to make any final life decisions in this arena. Trust me - I know firsthand!

Answer 4

At 15 any sort of relationship, straight, bi, lesbian, gay, even social friendships should take a back seat to completing your education, getting a job, getting your own place, getting wheels. OK I'm not saying no relationships, just focusing on what must be done! If you have been thrown out, you are very lucky to have a laptop on the street?

Answer 5

I have only just come out bi, my Mum has always been very easy to confront. It really does depend on the parents i spose, but.....I am not sure it really matters if you are bi, you don't need to tell them do you? It is perfectly normal. More people are bi than confess believe me! I am proud of it, i am married and my hubby is fine with it too but i probably wouldn't tell for example my grandparents, that would be hard. It's all about generations.

sorry sweetie, i didn't read the bit about you being thrown out. Where are you staying? I really wouldn't bother telling them to be honest but if they have chucked you out.....don't bother with them. If i can help with the reason you have been thrown out, please ask another Q love!!

Answer 6

Im going to start backwards with your question meaning Im going to answer everything backwards. First the minor issues. There are always going to be people that will except you and those that don't. What is important is that you except yourself and that your partners except you. Don't ever try to be someone your not FOR ANYONE. Not your lovers, not your friends, not even your family. It is very important to be yourself. Secondly, at 15 your parents don't have the legal right to throw you out. If they try, call the cops on them. Cops do not take too kindly to parents throwing minors out especially because of situations like this. I had a friend in a similar situation and her foster parents tried to throw her out and she was 17. We called the cops and the cops yelled at her parents. They even made her parents let her have the car and brought her back to my place for the night to stay because he was doing what was best for her at the time. Last but def. not least. Your parents love you and whether or not they are accepting of the subject they always will. Some parents have a hard time showing that love if they don't agree with your choices. They might be dealing with their own thoughts. For some parents it is just awkward. Others are concerned for your safety especially because having partners of both sexes increases your risk for sexually transmitted diseases and so on. Some christian parents worry that you will not enter the gates of Heaven. Be understanding of their feelings too though. Just as you are having a hard time coping in your life at this time, they might have a hard time coping with things too and it is very important to communicate and be understanding with each other. Explain to them that you cannot help who you are attracted to or love and that you are not perfect. I think, the best idea would be to meet for a luncheon. It makes it harder for them to cause a scene and is a more comfortable environment for you. Also, if you have strict christian parents and they try to throw the bible in your face and say you are sinning, come back with this. "Ye who is without sin cast the first stone" I dunno if this will even apply to this situation but if you need it and don't know what it means here it goes. These people wanted to stone this woman, Im not extremely familiar with the bible, but I believe she was with a man that was not her own meaning not her husband. I also believe it was Jesus that said it. It means those that had not sinned could cast the first stone but nobody could do that because everyone is with sin. Everyone has sinned and no one has the right to judge but Him Himself. I really hope this helps. I am bi myself and I know how touchy this subject can be for some.

Answer 7

Bless your heart. If you've been thrown out already for something else, chances are good they will throw you out for anything. No one should be throwing out a 15 year old and I am so sorry this happened to you for ANY reason.

There are people who will accept you. Surround yourself with them. Don't blame yourself for being who you are. And don't trcik yourself into thinking you are unacceptable. You ARE acceptable.

Bigger question than this is: what kind of person turns their back on their child.

If they do that, they chose it.

Sad reality.

Answer 8

It is not necessary to "come out" at age 15. You don't really know what you like right now. Keep your thoughts to yourself. Make those decisions after you get out of high school and in college. Good luck.

Answer 9

I am bisexual. I think that most people are if they are open to their feelings. I don't feel the need to 'come out'.

Why is it anyone's business except your own? In your future sex life you may change the way you feel about your sexuality and right now there is no need to give yourself a label.

Your life is YOUR life.

Answer 10

If you actually think that this might happen don't say anything at all.

You need a home at least till you get out of school and get a job.

love and blessings Don