What do you do when you get mad at your husband?

Question

I yell, cuss and throw things. I also like to hit things with other things. But, he's usually not around to see me do this. What do you do?

Answer 1

Im a guy and you probably don't want to hear this but I will attempt it anyways.
The things that you are telling us would be an alarm to a reasonable person. You seem to have an anger managment issue, as well as have temper tantrums.
I think to help you better find ways to express your anger, you should seek the help of a counselor or therapist. I don't imply that you are crazy or anything bad, just that the way you express yourself is counterproductive. Even if he doesn't see these behaviors.
When you break things, it probably upsets you even more. This only causes you to react worse, and one day it will be in a very negative manner that could become violent.
Please think about this some, and think rationally. Women are usually much better at rational thought then men are. I think you would probably agree.

Answer 2

I do not yell or cuss at my husband. I have been in relationships like that in the past but, have found that just being straight up with him about EVERYTHING works best for me. I don't beat around the bush, or mope around expecting him to read my mind. He always knows where I stand on things as I do with him, this way we can always talk about things. It's so easy to get caught up in the yelling match which NEVER helps anyone, and it really becomes a habit. Talk to your man let him know why your angry, maybe even tell him what you'd like to see him do about it but don't yell and cuss, you can't take it back and although he may forgive you for your outrage he won't forget

Answer 3

I don't usually yell at him, but sometimes I will cuss and fuss if I'm just at my wits end. More often than not, I just stop talking to him. He knows exactly how ticked I am when I'm not talking. But I can't hold it in too long either, or I'll bust a gut !! lol!! Venting is healthy . But don't throw things. Why break or tear up your stuff that you've worked hard for?! Punch your pillow - or designate a certain area (outside!) that you can throw glass (cheap ones from the dollar store,etc...) That's my next project. lol ! (fixing an area to toss a glass in case of emergency) Good Luck !!!

Answer 4

Usually I try to talk about things, because I don't like confrontation or violence if I can help it. I think that throwing things, yelling and cussing is a bit childish but I don't know what your situation is. I'd say it is best to talk things out calmly after you've had a few minutes to think things out.

Answer 5

I'm with you, I cuss and yell and show my *** to. Cause its usually cause he wont listen or my fave acts like he has no clue why i'm so mad or upset which further aangers me. But I dont throw stuff or break stuff but I do want to just knock him out, I just don't get physical. But I do go off my rocker at times. But I think men cause us to do this by ignoring the fact that something is wrong or by pretending they have no clue why ur upset or mad.

Answer 6

Thankfully my husband doesn't make me mad enough to do all those things! But when he makes me mad I just tell him he's made me mad and why. If we come to a quick resolution (which we do most of the time) I just move on and I don't bring it up again. If we continue to butt heads I just go and cool off in another room. When I'm done being mad I just go find him and tell him it's safe for him to be around me again. We actually have pretty civilized arguments.

Answer 7

Haha. sounds like me.Except i hit things with my fist and tend to break anything near me that i hit. you have a bad temper like me. It makes me mad the most because he wont sit down and talk to me. Even though he is just my boyfriend. I still get really mad.


But before things get too out of control and things get bad, you should just ask him to have a talk. and try to sort things out and maybe you guys could agree on things.

marriage isnt suppose to be where you are mad at each other and do those kinds of things. even though it does happen.

most problems that couples have, is that they dont take the tim eto talk to ecah other, they just assume things, and only want to believe what they want and they dont listen to each other.

so best thing to do. when its best for you and him, sit down and hve a nice talk. if you have kids, send them away to a friends house or something, and just have it to where you two are the only ones there, and talk.

who knows how the conversation will end. ; )

Answer 8

I don't yell, cuss or scream. That is a waste of energy.
I politely tell him why I am miffed. We talk and don't spend time on each others backs.

A good sense of humor goes a long way.

Married 40 years.

Answer 9

Find out the source thts pissing you off and nip it in the but.My wife likes to yell,cuss and throw things too,but i'm always there,i think it's cool,good stress reliever,as long as it does'nt get phisical,then when the smoke clears,we talk,talk and talk about it.9 times out of 10 we end up in the bedroom

Answer 10

I usually can't stay mad at him for that long. Because the times we do get into spats, we end up laughing. Because it's just stupid sometimes about the things we fight about. We rarely get into a big fight and if we do, we sulk or mope around until one of us breaks the ice. Then we talk things out and all is well again.