I'm 14 and pregnant. I don't know how to tell my mom. I'm over the shock of it all for myself and I want to keep it. I thought I was back in july and told her and she was scared to death ( i ended up negative). How should I break the news?
2007-10-20 10:59:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Im on birth control!!
2007-10-20 11:19:28 · update #1
No way to break this news gently. Just go in and say Mom, Im pregnant and I want to keep it. Then let her have her reaction. Then give the baby up for adoption so it stands a chance in life. Then keep your legs closed AND get on birth control, and don't breed again until you've finished your education, own your own home, and your own car, and have been in your professional, chosen career for at least five years.
Good luck.
2007-10-20 11:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, take a deep breath. I just counseled a friend through a similar situation as you went through in july. I am 16. First of all, kudos for keeping it. Secondly, why on earth didn't you learn from the last time? I'm not trying to judge you, but I hope you realize you aren't meant to be a parent at your stage in life? You can do it, but you will have to be very proactive. There can be no room for doubt that you can. Before you approach your mother, think things through. You want to present a plan to her about how you will care for the kid and continue your education, to give you and your child a better life. Where is the father? How is he taking this? If he has not abandoned you, like so many do, that is very admirable. Discuss with him your views on how you will care for the kid and tell him what he can do to help. If he is sticking with you, approach your parents together, in one big group. Yes, you will be outnumbered, but it will be better to get it all overwith, and doing it together will give you support as the parents get upset and shocked. They will be proud of you for confronting them and for standing with each other and preparing and planning like adults.
Doing this has made your dissicion for you. You have to be an adult now. Prove it to yourself and your parents at the same time by being an adult now. In nine months your pain of pregnancy will be done and you will be blessed with a child. Don't make the same mistake all over again.
2007-10-20 18:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had a scare back in July and squeaked by why didnt the two of you get some contraception. I know its too late now but I still wonder why your mom didnt do anything back then. as far as I am concerned she is partly to blame and should take that into consideration when you tell her this time.
2007-10-20 18:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh s*it! You said 14!??! Well anyway...maybe mention that time..."remember back in July?" just to ease into the subject, and then just honestly tell her what's up. Don't worry, she'll probably flip (I don't know your mom that's just what usually happens) but in the long run she'll still love you and support you all the way. Wow, and good luck sweetheart :\
2007-10-20 18:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is going to soften the blow so just get it out in the open. If this isn't your first pregnancy scare, why aren't you on something about it. HELLO. There's birth control pills, the nuvaring, and for heaven's sake, condoms! You should be on atleast the condoms unless you really want an STD too...
2007-10-20 18:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by Violation Notice 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My kids always start out with "Mom don't get mad okay". Then they tell me. I am then usually not shocked by what they say.
2007-10-20 18:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just need to sit down and tell her.
There is no easy way.
You are going to need her alot in the next few months, more than you know.
2007-10-20 18:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you should just approach her the way you did before. tell her not to be scared but also let her know that you want to keep it. make sure to tell her how you feel and also make sure to listen to how she feels about it too.
2007-10-20 18:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by aubrey <3 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be direct, be honest, be open. Don't get defensive and remember that they WILL be disappointed in you for a little while.
2007-10-20 18:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you know what you did is wrong.And you'll be more careful next time.And when you have the baby,find nurturing parents for him/her.good luck.
2007-10-20 18:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by Nelly :D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋