Well i'm pretty big and i know i'm not pretty because i have never had a guy like me in my school and alot of guys make fun of me. I think this guy is cute but i know he would not even look at me because i've tried to talk to him and the only girls he likes are pretty and have a perfect body. I would really aprpreciate itif someone could help me. Because latley i feel like the my self-esteem is going down. Please and thank you.
2007-10-20 10:41:18 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Walk for an hour everyday. Do it at a pace that speeds your heart up for at least 15 minutes.
You will lose about 2 pounds a week just from that if you dont eat more than your eating now.
After you lose your weight go to one of those places that does makeovers and shows you how to make yourself more attractive.
I dont believe there are any ugly people, just people who need help in how to do their hair and makeup. Some women have sisters or moms who help them.
2007-10-20 10:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You've had tons of good helpful and encouraging advice. So at the risk of repeating. You are a young person who is feeling pretty vulnerable right now and so believing that you're fat and ugly is a part of your self-esteem diminishing. But you shouldnt put yourself down, cos you're not ugly and big girls are very attractive. There is alot you can do to enjoy who you are and accept that this is you. Love yourself honey, dont let anyone make you feel inadequate or not good enough. Know who you are and embrace that. These boys are all silly, engrossed in the media's idea of perfection which doesnt exist. You're gorgeous, your natural and you are you. Experiment with new looks, and watch the fashion finding things that look good for you and have fun. We've all had crushes on boys who were not right for us and thankfully thats all it is. You will find someone who will find you special and like you for you. Hold out for that and try not waste your precious energies on someone who really doesnt deserve you.
2007-10-21 12:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by chiccigyal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie, haven't you heard big is beautiful. I bet you are too. Unfortunately, guys at school do seem to have the hots for the girls with the perfect figures, but in real life you just want to be liked for who you are. Make sure your personality shines out, don't feel a failure cos your NOT. Put your self-esteem on the top rung of the ladder, cos I got to say you gotta exude confidence even if you don't have any, make yourself get some and let everyone else see it. Good luck honey.
2007-10-20 10:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by susie h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's really that important to you, lose weight. I did. Yes it's more fun to eat; but, actions have consequences...decide which consequences you want ....and ACT accordingly. In my case my wife was becoming rather uninterested in me...asked her why...she said honey you're just a lot bigger than hen we got married...so I lost 60 pounds....now she's intrested again....sometimes too much, LOL
Self esteem??? You feel fat because you probably are fat. Ugly? A smile will improve your looks greater than anything else; but, if you're feeling depressed about being fat..then you're not going to be fat and happy. So lose the weight and get happy again. By the way, looks draw the eye faster; but, it is character that seals the deal and cements the bond between two people. If you are really huge, though, your character is in need of a booster shot.
I'm not going to stroke your ego (self esteem), nor am I going to be cruel....the truth is, If you don't like who you are...change it...the Good Lord will give you the power to change, if you really ask Him for it and work hard at it.
2007-10-20 11:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, learn how to love yourself by ignoring all your negative self-talk (I mean, who cares if you're not built like those skinny models!), and becoming your own best friend by smiling at yourself in the mirror and reminding yourself that you are a good person. In a way, you are blessed if you don't have a "perfect" body, because when you find someone who cares about you, it will be because you have a beautiful heart and great personality, rather than just for your sexy body!
That aside, I don't know the answer to your question except to say that you have as much chance as anyone to get a guy. When I was at school I had developed this huge crush on a guy who was in my classes, who commenced bullying me in high school! I never fell out of 'lust" for him, I just dreamt about him nearly every night. (I had NO chance of ever going out with him) Weird huh?
2007-10-20 10:53:13 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I had that problem a few months ago. I was overweight, didn't wear makeup and wore baggy, dark clothes to cover my body. I took a good look at myself and realized how mean I was being to myself. It's not like I was given this horrendous body or face. I wrecked it myself. I shoved at that food into my body and didn't take care of it. I have the power to make myself look good.
I decided to eat less and healthier and excercise more. I lost 10 lbs and now clothes look and fit better. I also find time in the morning to put makeup on before I go to work or go out to public places. I found time to put together outfits that would look good on me. I'm not obsessed with my looks, but looking good has made me feel better. People look at me again and also respect me more. When you take care of yourself, you see that respect returned. You and others will see that confidence shine through. It is not all about looks. When you act and feel confident, people will be attracted to that more.
2007-10-20 17:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be alot skinnier like 102 for real. now after two children this is not longer the case. and I feel for you because ppl in general are very hard on the over weight. some will even go as far to say that if you are over weight your whole life is out of control.
But really this is DUMB!!!!! There are a lot of really attractive ppl who are over weight and their lives are nto out of controll either!!! generalizing and stero typing - that the over weight are sub ppl - is hurt ful and plain stupid!!!!
Ppl say alot of stupid things but please don't incline your heart to take any of it seriously!!!
YOu know IF you compare skinny ppl with your own figure you may notice that a lot of skinny girls have a ponch in their front as well. Yes they do LOOK AROUND they too have the three month bulge just the same as me or you but their over all weight is less. I know this because as i have stated i was 102 and now that i have gained I have noticed that my figure is still preety much the same as then only more weight has been added in general. so rather than my arms or legs or trunk having a smaller circumfrence their circumfrence is a little larger or rounder but it is still the same body still the same person. I like who I am weither lighter or heavier i will always be ME afterall. and you too will always be you. so don't be down on your self just because of some extra weight that will always come and go. up and down adn fluxuate.
Be you take care of your self and take pride in yourself and this will shine through. others will notice it too.
Most ppl are realizing that the over weight are beautiful too. and they are even being used in magazines.
I believe this is a step in the right direction.
2007-10-20 10:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are pretty no matter what ,some people are just ignorant to what true beauty is, they think beauty is a video gurl or a girl with the biggest ***...and if he doesn't like you for who you are then he's no worth your time or energy. One day you will find a man who loves you for you. FYI the guys dat make fun of you are only compensating because they have low self esteems always remember Misery Loves Company and they're trying to bring you down. Just Keep yo head up and say F**K da HATAZ!!!! and remember dat you are a QUEEN no matter what!
2007-10-20 10:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by juicy_in_da_booty 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First I have to say that there are guys who like fat-ish girls. My bf constantly makes me eat more, even though Im overweight already. Yet, if you are in a situation that you really like a guy, who likes slimmer girls, then lose weight. It is NOT hard if you put your mind into it. AND it is healthier, and makes you feel sexy. You don't have to kill yourself with diets, or spend 90% of your time in a gym, but just, instead of using a car or public transport or whatever, walk. I live 45 minutes from my university, and walk to and from it every day. It has done wonders to my legs and allows me to save money from transport :)
So my advice would be - try be more active and walk more. Don't put yourself on a diet or start torturing yourself with gyms, sports you can't stand etc. Make slimming be an enjoyable process. Do it for yourself, not so much for that boy.
Good luck.
2007-10-20 10:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to understand now, but in high school nothing really matters at all. It's just what gets you through the ruff years. Besides this guy seems like an *** anyways if he won't talk to someone cuz of their looks. You don't want a shallow guy. You want someone that will bnond with you more that on a physical level. Keep in mind, You look how you feel!!!
2007-10-20 10:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by DirtyPersian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he only talks to pretty girls he's an idiot and I bet you are better looking than you think. I'm chubby, short, and make guy friends easily because I'm friendly! It's so hard when you like someone and he doesn't have the same feelings. Know what? All the girls you think have perfect bodies probably hate their bodies! Nobody really likes theirs as much as we should. Self-esteem stuff is really hard too but try to focus on all the good stuff about yourself. Do you get good grades? Do you have good manners? Are you nice to older people? Do you share pens and pencils if someone forgets theirs? Are you nice to animals? Do you take good care of your pets? There's a whole bunch of stuff I bet you are really good at too!
2007-10-20 10:45:59 · answer #11 · answered by Jane S 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋