2007-10-20 10:24:09 · 17 answers · asked by Amanda M 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Reality - when you realize that you want to be anywhere in the world except next to that person.
2007-10-20 10:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by Susie D 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I could write several novels about what happened in our marriage and why I finally decided to end it! I have been told that I would have many best sellers with all that happened! lol I am not saying that I was a saint--not by any means, but I did not treat my ex-husband like crap like he did to me. He had verbally/emotionally/mentally abused me and his kids, used and abused drugs and encouraged his kids to use them, lied and cheated most of the marriage and then lied about doing it and downsized it when he finally did admit to it. He also has bi-polar disorder, ADHD, and a possible personality disorder, so he was constantly yelling and screaming about anything or everything (the drugs sure didn't help him--actually made him worse). I could say HI and he would go off the wall screaming about anything and everything. He also could not hold a job for more than a few months (without work more than with work) so we were constantly having money problems. The money problems also happened because he couldn't stop spending money on stupid stuff that he/we didn't need. I would go to pay bills and the checks would bounce because there would be no money in the account--because he spent it all behind my back! Then he would blame me for spending it all!
After being with him for 20 years (married for about 17), I had had enough. I gave it my all and nothing worked. I had fallen out of love with him for at least six months, then decided that as soon as I could get the money saved, I would leave--and I did. We were divorced in 2005 and I heard that his life really went downhill from then (got kicked out of his apartment, close to living on the streets, dog died, etc). Then he got in contact with me a few months ago. He is doing a lot better since he is on meds for his bi-polar disorder and is very mellow, not abusive, etc. We are friends now, but I would not remarry him for anything. I have been that route with him and refuse to go down that road again. I will only be friends with him--something we never did before.
2007-10-20 11:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
G's you really know how to pick-em. Marriage should be till death, love each other, raise a family, grow old together... set the example for your children. Deal breakers in a relationship: Alcohol and drug abuse, cannot save money, flirts (excessive relationships with people of the opposite sex). Deal makers: love children, responsible, conscientious, considerate, willing to stand up for what is right, able to admit when he's wrong.
2016-05-23 22:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 34 yrs old we were married for 8 years. We have 1 daughter that 6. When i found out his 19 year old girlfriend had his daughter! I found out when the kid was 18 months old ( didn't no the gf even existed).
2007-10-20 11:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by carmey1173 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When i realized that she deserves better and that the relationship went bad because of my attitude for not loving her and being a better husband. Now that i've realized things and would do anything to get her back, it's too late and she's moved on. Her love for me died out and rightfully so. What you take for granted you shall eventually lose. I had to learn that the hard way.
2007-10-20 10:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by Dcloser 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
He fractured my skull in front of my 3 year old son. Now happily married to a wonderfull man, who has become a role model to my now 13 year old son.
2007-10-20 10:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by Girly1 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
the thought of just me and him sitting there, night after night, when the kids had flewn the nest! I'd be bored to tears! And i was always feeling lonely too
2007-10-20 10:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Common sense.
2007-10-20 10:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I realized that she made me sick, I wasn't attracted to her and I really had no love for her like a lover should.
2007-10-20 10:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When it was obvious she wasn't really into me and I realized I married for the wrong reason.
2007-10-20 10:30:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋