I moved in with my b/f 14 months ago, at his request. I wasn't sure since I've had such bad experiences with men, but after 4 years of seeing my son thru Cancer, I felt that it was my turn to "Live" a little. I was lonely. I met Steve through his cousin with whom I am friends. We hit it off. Now, nearly 2 years later, he says he never wants to marry, and I want to be married again. Steve says it won't be with him. I pray, I cry, my 10 year old asks "momma why are you always sad?". I get very little affection. Why do men ask a woman to move in, to love and care for them, only to ignore them as if he despised them.
2007-10-20 10:12:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I say get out of there sweetheart. Your in a damaging relationship. You and your son deserve better than him! You guys have been through allot and he sounds like a jerk.
2007-10-24 10:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear about your situation. I say NOW its your turn to live a little...get out of there and find someone who wants a wife, not needs a mother! Your son has been through enough and he wants and needs to see you happy and strong! The Lord has blessed you with this time to enjoy your life with your son, stop wasting it with this loser guy who makes you miserable! Most of all, you do NOT want your son to learn this is they way women should be treated. GET OUT! If your little baby boy could beat CANCER, you can beat this!!!!
2007-10-20 17:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do women move in with men who they aren't married to? You cater to him thinking you are so lucky to have a man and then you get used. People use each other. You hooked up for the wrong reason. Get out and do it right. Find a real man, one who appreciates others.
2007-10-20 17:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by The Rabbi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he is against marriage. And ask yourself if marirage is something you really want in life. If it is, and he is not willing, then I think you know what you need to do, go find someone who shares the same future as you.
And if he is treating you like he despises you, then you need to talk to him about this. That is no way to be treated. Stand up for yourself. You are strong woman, you saw your child through years of cancer and now you are going to be weak and let someone treat you like this?
2007-10-20 17:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that, moved out. Its like the grass is greener on the other side till you get there. Don't do that to your son, if he is asking you questions then he is seeing alot. Move out and enjoy the time with your son, they are only young once.
2007-10-20 17:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by Girly1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people just don't want to get married. Yet, I think that if you really do want to get married, you tell him that and he still refuses, then its like he just doesn't want to make you happy and give you the security you need.
Consider having a big long talk with him, and if it doesn't work out, then leave to look for happiness somewhere else.
2007-10-20 17:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not all men do that. but people do that to each other when it's just not right....you're not right for each other. the real question is why do people hang on when they are in such a miserable circumstance.
2007-10-20 17:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by SpeedyGonz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and move on. Now. You're not doing anyone any favors by staying. Find what you need, for your sake and for your son's sake.
2007-10-20 17:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why buy the cow when you can get milk for free
2007-10-20 17:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by abrowneyezbeauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋