I used to play in a rock band 10 years ago, make a long story short. i was having an affair with my drummer and rythm gutarist, ok ok yes it was wrong. because i had a long time boyfrend at that time.(who was VERY abusive) my drummer and my lead I had many sexual encounters. (seperate) No 3 somes.well I ended up pregnant. and kept the baby neither one of them knew that the baby could have been either of theirs. 2 days ago, I saw my drummer, at community mental health,(HE WORKS THERE) I hadn't seen him in almost 8 years. my youngest child has autism,who is 8. and was checking up on his meds. I almost died. I KNOW this man and he should not BE picking peoples brains.now they want him to become my sons case manager, with means (HIM) comming to my home, and spending time with his, 8 year old (possably). I cannot ask for another case manger, due to the fact they have very limited resourses. and I REALLY don't want people finding out what I had done.I am hapilly married now for 8 years.
2007-10-20 09:10:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes my husband thinks he is baby
2007-10-20 09:22:07 · update #1
and no i did not marry my ex,, he's still an ***
2007-10-20 09:22:42 · update #2
You used to play in a rock band and have affairs and you then became happily married for 8 years, a real change for you, so perhaps he did as well. Give him a chance and perhaps he is as dedicated to his new life as you are to yours and would not have any more interest in digging up the past than you do. If you don't say anything no one will ever know about the past and because he knew you then he may even be able to help you more than a case manager who had never met you before. For all you know, he has been happily married for almost as long as you as well so that all your worrying is for nothing. If you ask for a different manager, by the way, that may make people wonder more than if you just give him a chance and see what he does. Good luck to you and congratulations for changing your life and finding happiness.
2007-10-20 09:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even with limited respources, there is always (and ethically, has to be) a possibility for change in CMs. Ethically, he should recuse himself from your case and refer you to another case manager.
His job is not to pick brains but to gather information based on agency requirements to effectively render the services that people seek (i.e., case mangement). He does not have to work with you.
I fear for his job, your mental health and your happy marriage if you do not request or he does not make a transfer of cases.
I think you may not realize that you want this situation to unfold into drummer drama.
2007-10-20 16:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by CoCo220 D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karma has a strange sense of humor. Sorry it's coming back to bite you after all this time. Only thing you can do now if you haven't already, is tell the only other person that could get hurt. Anyone else.....its none of their business.
2007-10-20 16:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you say they have limited resources but i am sure if you tell them the circumstances they will change his care worker....here i cannot nurse someone i am related to....and remember that anything you tell anyone there will be confidential.... the person that you speak to could lose heir job for breaking patient confidentiality..
good luck
2007-10-20 16:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight that your child comes at the top of your list and you don't want reminding of the past.
2007-10-20 16:19:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you marry your abusive boyfriend? Does you husband think that he is a father?
2007-10-20 16:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by terliuke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋