I'm feeling very lost. I wake up every night at abt 3 am and just worry abt where my life is going.?

Question

I'm 47 & live with elderly parents. 7 yrs ago, I moved closer to my family. Since I've been around my family, I've become more & more disconnected. They are always negative towards me & basically treat my like the joke of the family.

In my work life, I'm just not connecting with anyone, I've lost friends over the past few years. Sometimes I say stuff meaning to be funny but nobody gets it.

I just feel like I can't do anything right and will always be a loser. I'm scared b/c when used to feel this way, after a day or two I would be back to normal. Now, there is no normalcy anymore and I just don't know where I'm going or what I'm doing with my life.

I can't say I'm depressed, just feeling lost.

Answer 1

As a whole we find out early in life we don't exist in a bubble.
Three areas of experiences effect all of us no matter who we
are.Critical decisions we make, Defining moments and Pivotal people we encounter.These are not my findings.
Dr. Phil McGraw ( from television) has written a book called
"Self Matters" in it he describes these points. After reading it myself I began to understand how these situations were relevant to me. I thought of all the changes or decisions I made throughout life such as going back to school ( taking courses that I enjoy) or seeing a new move if I felt like it.
In regards to defining moments I remember small things in
life I accomplished as when I passed my driving test as
a young teenager.Another example is how do I feel when I do well in a subject at college(usually pretty good) . I had an uncle when I younger,who had not no children, so kind of adopted me as if I were his son. He would take me to different places and always made sure I had a good time and was happy.
He was a pivotal person for me. The whole idea is everything
in our environment has it's effect. I come from the same generation as you. I take care of a mother as well. What I guess I'm
saying is that we as individuals are responsible for being
our own" Steward of Happiness". We are unique, we know who we are and what we like better then anyone else. I once read somewhere it's ok every once in a while to do something
for yourself to make you feel good. There are at least 2 people that know you are worthwhile (you and that one pivotal
person).Realizing that others need to put in "their 2 cents", you have to know that's probably all it is worth. Self esteem as the word self indicates is what we do for us. Nobody can take anything from you on less you let them(speaking of peace of mind). If you can read the book. It took me awhile
to come to these conclusions but I know that I'm ok. Everyone has doubts,we can't know the future one has to live in the present( that's why it's also known as a gift).
I hope this was a help. Good Luck

Answer 2

I'm really sorry you are feeling so bad. If you think being around your family makes it worse, maybe you should move further away from them.

Sometimes it is better to start fresh. I don't know what kind of skills you have, but start applying for jobs online in a different city or at least somewhere more than a couple of hours from your family. Then, when you find a way to support yourself, move away and try to begin a new life. Even if you feel like a loser inside, try to act like a confident self-assured person. As dumb as it sounds, sometimes you have to fake it until you make it. I'm not saying to not be yourself, but when you meet new people you have to put your best foot forward. Try to reveal only the good parts of yourself. Without any preconceived notions, people will accept you and you will begin to make new friends and create a new life. Then, you won't feel so lost.

Once you have friends and a support group in your new situation, then maybe your family will see that you aren't a joke and your relationship with them will improve as well. Good luck.

Also, about waking up at 3AM...maybe you should just get up and try to do something that will keep your mind of your worries. Clean the kitchen or start reading a book. Try to stop thinking about the things that worry you. Then, after an hour or so, go back to bed.

Answer 3

I'm sorry you're feeling so lost. You do sound a bit depressed.

If your family is not supportive is there any way you can put more space between you and them? Or, do you think you might be able to put more boundaries on their behavior? For example, you can make it clear you won't tolerate being mistreated by cutting them off or changing the subject when they start to say nasty things.

For your mood, how about trying to get some aerobic exercise every day? For connecting with people, maybe you can try a new activity...how about a book club, a cycling club, a group therapy meeting, yoga class, etc.?

Good luck.

Answer 4

something to do with my youngsters and my kinfolk makes me forget my tension and my concerns. i like fidgeting with them. We do all varieties of exciting stuff mutually form examine alouds, to writing memories and performs and appearing them out to construction with legos, to chicken gazing, to enjoying interior the fountain on the community college campus (and that i advise actually interior the fountain), to going to the artwork museum, to laying down and taking a snooze! the full kinfolk alongside with my husband connect in and not something gets carried out. We additionally desire to color the place all human beings paints a ingredient of a image with acrylics and the portray seems so candy. My popular place may well be my friends tepee or my grandmother's farm. the two are relaxing and soothing and extremely spiritually beneficial, the potential flowing there is basically amazing! My popular issues to calm me are the sounds of my youngsters and my mom giggling, and peeper frogs peeping, the scent of peppermint, licorice, toddler powder, and decrease grass. Sunrises, rainbows, gazing birds, telling memories, and counting prepare vehicles with my youngsters.

Answer 5

I read that if you get up at middle of night from worries, pray. It's the best time to pray then .

Answer 6

Move out on you own, spend time getting to know you, and go to church.