2007-10-20 08:54:12 · 15 answers · asked by Alex J 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I got married at a young age and divorced pretty quickly [long story]
After many years of sort of piddling along by my self more or less I finally got remarried about 4 years ago and can say hand on heart that THIS is what it is all about, this is the love that my parents have had for their entire lives and what I was looking for, luckily I am also what he had been looking for.
BUT often mistakes are repeated and until you address those inner demons then it would be unfair to go onwards.
regards
2007-10-20 09:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by candy g 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that depends upon who is divorcing who and what was learned. Too often women, and men also for that matter, get married to someone they don't know well enough and when that ends they try the same type person again instead of learning from the experience. Some who go through a divorce because of abuse don't take time to raise their self esteem that the abuser has lowered and so they get into another relationship with another abuser. the longer it is between divorce and remarriage, the better the chance that he or she learned what they want or do not want in the next relationship and the more chance that it may work the second time.
2007-10-20 09:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The scripture does handle remarriage and while that's authorised and while it is not. Divorce in the old testomony replaced into uncomplicated - in case you have been a guy. in the hot testomony, that's a lot extra constrained. There are people who say that scripture touching directly to divorce is extremely absolute in in simple terms what it says, and ther are people who say that it factors out that there are exceptions. i won't grant you with a scriptural answer. i know a solid many divorced and remarried Christians who're very pleased of their marriages, and serving God under no condemnation from guy, and curiously a sparkling experience of right and incorrect (sp?) under God. no longer lots of an answer, however the suitable i'm able to do for now. Pray, and ask God's preparation. he will help you. He would not opt to work out yo make a mistake the two way. Your guy, inspite of the indisputable fact that, desires to be very particular, in the different case you're in for a complicated existence with somebody who believes that that's a sin to be with you. once you the two can anticipate God to bless your union - run to the chapel!
2016-10-04 05:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to give you a big NO on that one. My husband had been divorced once before I married him. It is my first and only marriage. I will give a little credit on both our sides though, I was stupid at 19 and he was 32. There have been many times when he falls back on something and compares it as if it had happened to him in his first marriage and that leads to big problems. We have been married for 33 years and I will never do again. It has been very tough at times and takes very much patience and being able to communicate effectively and even then sometimes it still doesnot help.
2007-10-20 09:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, studies have shown that the rates of divorce are higher in a second (and 3rd and 4th...) marriage than in the 1st. i think a lot of people jump into the second marriage without figuring out what really went wrong in the first marriage. i think they assume all the blame lay with their ex and that they didn't contribute to the marital issues. so, these issues arise in the subsequent marriages as well.
example: donald trump cheated on ivanka for marla maples. he then married and had a kid with marla maples. guess what...he cheated on marla maples. he is now married for the third time and has 1 yr old child.
http://marriage.families.com/blog/marriage-after-divorce
http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsUS.shtml
http://blog.worldvillage.com/family/the_second_marriage_divorce_rate_is_it_possible_to_beat_the_odds_and_make_your_second_marriage_a_success.html
2007-10-20 08:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
According to surveys, there are more chances of an unhappy second marriage and break ups. The pattern repeats and the cycle goes on. You can never be smart about a marriage. Its all about love and emotions and when you make such decisions, chances are that you will most likely follow your first pattern.
like they say, marriage is a gamble :-(
2007-10-20 09:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by Romi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many factors at work there....if they are bitter and self absorbed and especially blaming...they will never make good choices for themselves. If they go thru the process of healing and starting over and not rush into dating etc, there is a good chance they will do better in the realtionship dept... and life in general.
2007-10-20 08:59:26 · answer #7 · answered by that judi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person...sometimes they keep being attracted to the same type of person they divorced firstly...or else they end up being over wary and never letting anyone "in" again and hold back an awful lot!!!
2007-10-20 09:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope. First and second, I still remember cause I got pregnant both times.
They both were an act of hell.
The first one thought he was God and I didn't.
The second one he got possessed by demons evertime he drank alcohol.
The third I am still waiting for someone with common sense and emotional stable. Haven't yet met up to my expections. Mens heads are not use in the correct area of their thoughts.
2007-10-20 09:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by arburndragon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not necessarily. you want to believe that you have learned from your last relationship and that things will be so much better. the thing is that you may be doing the same things that you did in your first relationship without realizing that you are making the same mistakes.
also you tend to overlook it because you don't want to believe that it's all the same thing as your previous relationship.
2007-10-20 09:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by basic324 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋