Look I got this deaf guy who used to work for me and I saw him at a bar. So he said he wanted to chill so I said alright but I didn't know he was gay. He came over my house and was making some sex motion with his hand.(Please resist the urge to find this funny) I told him I wasn't gay and he looked upset and it made me very uncomfortable I wanted to hit him at a certain point because I thought he kept flirting with me. He kept trying to feel my muscles and rub my hair. But he seemed like he was getting into it. Not like your friend rubbing your head saying what's up. I don't know if he was or wasn't but I didn't like the whole situation. He said he wanted me to go to the movies with him next week as friends and tell you the truth I don't want to I don't even want to hang out with him agin or talk to him for that matter. Am I being prejudice? You see he's deaf and can't talk so I didn't even know he was gay. I'm afraid of bad karma but how are you supposed to handle something like this
2007-10-20 08:37:35 · 29 answers · asked by Mr. Basketnutz 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
If you do not want to hang out with him, DON'T! That does not make you prejudiced!
2007-10-20 08:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by animalover 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are probably not against gays,just uncomfortable because he came on to you,so now you are weary what he is going to do next,you dont have to avoid the situation just tell hem straight that he is just a mate and nothing else,maybe he has got the wrong idea about you,if he isnt happy with that then keep away,if he excepts it then you can still be mates,i dont know if you feel feel funny hanging around with someone who is gay just incase people talk and think you are as will,gays can make good mates but just make it clear how you feel
good luck
2007-10-20 15:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by meg 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gay or not - Deaf or not - if this person makes you fell uncomforable, arkward or bad - then you should not hang out with him.. Bad karma will not come to you for this - Because you are not wishing him harm or ill will - You just don't have to be around ANYBODY that makes you feel unhappy. Good question by the way.
2007-10-20 15:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by Monica 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont think ur being prejudice . . . but the fact of the matter is "why did he keep on flirting after u told him u werent gay?". he should have respected that. I mean I am bi and if a chick tell me they ARE the same way and i like them i'll go for it... but if i dont get a hint they are i wont even try... whats up with that. I think u not hanging out with him after he disrespected u is a good choice.
2007-10-20 15:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you're not being prejudice.
If someone is doing something to you that you don't like, then you have all the right to stay the **** away from them. It doesn't matter if they're gay, deaf, or gay and deaf, if someone is doing something against your will, then you can stay away from them without any worries.
2007-10-20 15:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by I haz a bucket 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rude knows no sexual preference or hearing boundaries. When he saw you clearly weren't interested, he should have backed off. If he's deaf, he probably (or should) relies a lot on body language, and he's refusing to take the hint. Write it down for him if you have to. You're not being predjudiced--unless you count prejudice against rude people. Don't feel guilty.
2007-10-20 15:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by purpleallium 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OF COURSE NOT!!
Try some of these tactics...
1. Hire a person who does sign language. Ask them to tell the gay man that you are NOT gay. And be sure it's a professional that doesn't mess up.
2. Write down on a peice of paper that you are no gay. Be legible too.
3. Just stay away from him.
And once again, you are NOT being predjudice.
2007-10-20 15:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by i_wuv_green_day123 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When I first read the question, I thought yes to myself. However, after reading your details, I wouldn't want to hang out with him either. That'd be too akward, his being deaf and motioning things in that kind of situation....I could deal with the gay part but mixing that with being deaf and weird funky misunderstandings...just avoid all of it.
2007-10-20 15:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
nope. doesn't sound prejudice. Your aren't describing a great friendship and camaraderie. we all go through many people over time, finding the ones we have fun with, are comfortable with etc.
If you want to move on, then do so, its ok to say no. If you were talking about racial, ethnic or status i'd say it was prejudice.
2007-10-20 15:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by almondsarenuts 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, you aren't being prejudiced. You just don't like being made to feel uncomfortable, and he is making you feel uncomfortable. Don't feel bad making that clear to him and/or avoiding him. I'm sure that if there was a girl out there who wanted to jump your bones and you were just not into it, you would not feel bad about letting her know. You should not feel bad.
2007-10-20 15:42:37 · answer #10 · answered by krystel.rinaman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it is. If this person is hitting on you, they have crossed the line, not you. You made it very clear to him that you are straight, and he is still trying to touch you.
It would be different if it was a gay man that was acting normal towards you, and you didn't want to speak to him solely based on his sexual preferences.
You have the right to be friends with whomever you choose. He shouldn't have crossed the line.
2007-10-20 15:41:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋