What do you do when you see a teen mom?

Question

I am in a child development class and we got baby dolls that look and act very realistc (they cry need to be fed, burped and changed). I went to the movies last night with my friends and the doll and I got the dirtyest looks and they were blatant. So my question is what do you do when you see a teen mom or if you were one what did people do?

When people realised it was a doll most of them knew it was for class

Answer 1

Nothing. I had my daughter when I was 18 and I could care less what other people think. If I was carrying around a baby doll for class and people looked down on me because they thought it was a real baby I would have fun with it... you know, maybe look at it when it is crying and say "shut the f up" or something... then laugh at peoples reactions.

A lot of people tell me I am too young to be someone's mom. I am 21! I disagree about waiting until I am 25 to have a baby. For some people, thats the way to be, but not for me. I don't think there is a right or wrong time to have a baby as long as you are mature enough to care for a child. When I see people abuse their children or call them names or neglet them or pawn them off on other people, THOSE are the parents I look down on at any age. I think a person could be a great parent at 14 and mature enough. People can work when they are 14, they can't work a long time, but they can still work to support the baby. I have seen terrible parents of every age and great parents of every age. To me it doesn't matter. I don't look down on a parent because of their age.

Answer 2

I am 14 years old and I often babysit for a two and a half year old boy. His mother has me take him places: the park and playground, the grocery store, down the block for walks and other things like that. I do look the part of "young mama" when I go out because I usually have my purse and my cellphone with me and I'm pushing a stroller and I often stop to give the boy snacks and I call him names like "Baby" and "Honey".

I know exactly how you felt at the movies...I get the nastiest looks from people who have no idea that I am just the babysitter. The first time I took him out I was only 12 and he was just a newborn. An elderly woman actually tried to give me $10 to "support my family" and I explained to her (loud enough for everyone in the store to hear) that I was the nanny and he was NOT my son. I cried that night and I was so thankful that I had the brains to realize that being a teenage mother was not my future. I do feel pity for the young mothers, but possibly even more for the people who are so close minded when they stare down at people that they consider to be lower than they are.

Being a teenage mother is not the worst thing in the world. Can't we focus on things like curing breast cancer and ending wars?

Answer 3

I don't show any reaction but it plays on my mind. I think what a waste, and how better it would have been if only they had waited or used contraception. I'm 15 and when I'm seen out pushing my baby niece around I get the dirtiest looks ever! Maybe I'm just imagining it because I know how society works, because I am part of society, and just like everyone else; I judge others before knowing the truth. But, that's the way the world is today. Teen mothers will never be accepted. No matter how tragic their story may be. Princess Lola x

Answer 4

Well, that was partly for bringing what they may have thought was a real baby to the movies. That is generally considered poor manners.

Some older people may have neg opinions about teen moms, but it is generally much more accepted today than even 5 years ago. I dont really even pay enough attention to tell how old exactly the mother is. Also with the rise of teenage babysitters its really hard to say if the teen is a mother a sitter or even a sibling.

Answer 5

I personally think that teen moms are just as capable of taking care of their child(ren) as other mothers. They are doing the best they can with that they have and we all have to applaud them for it. When I see a teen mom, I think nothing of it as long as it looks as though she's treating her child the right way, which most all of them do! So many people make teen moms out to be these "sluts" & "whores" but they have no clue what they have to go through! Teen moms get called those names to their faces, they have to deal with relatives not talking to them, parents being disapointed, not having enough money, not having a boyfriend to help with everything...I really support teen moms and the great effort they make for their children. They sacrifice a lot for their children and that's what all mother should do.

People were probably looking at you because you were carrying around a babydoll. If I saw a highschool girl going around with a babydoll, I'd think it was strange, too. Maybe you shouldn't go to the movies when you're dealing with such a big distraction.

Answer 6

I have huge respect for teen mums.
As im a person who doesnt agree with getting rid of a baby, no matta how far there through there pregancy there still killing a living thing! An why is it there fault of a silly mistake?
Teen mums are no different from a 30 year old mum, i have a friend whos yonger than meii and gave birth a few weeks ago an shes couldnt be happyier. Age isnt everythink.

Answer 7

You failed to do one thing...give them your dirtiest look back to them. Ask them what's so fascinating to stare at while glaring at them.

The baby was probably interrupting the movie for them. No one likes people talking in the movies, or going back and forth, or have a crying baby.

I see a teen mom no different than any other teen who's not a mom. I'd probably just think, "ah, she's pregnant" if she has a bump, or not think of anything at all that jumps to conclusion (case in point).

Answer 8

I dont do anything.
I've known teen moms and they're good people.
Just because someone gets pregnant at a young age doesn't mean their bad people.
I've been in the situation where I could verywell be a teen mom right now[only once], so I don't think I have the right to pass judgment on anyone

Answer 9

I don't notice teen Mums. If a girl was carrying round a baby doll who acted like a baby i think i would wounder why. Unless I know the person who was doing it I probably would never relies why.

Answer 10

well my mom was a teen mom and I am a teen mom and we always get looks and people are talking about us because they think it is low for me to be a mom. I guess it gets old but I have learned to live with it. They act really strange around you because you are 17 with a baby and I guess I do a lot with my son that other teen moms don't so people smile at us impressed that I actually do that much with him.