2007-10-20 07:09:22 · 19 answers · asked by Jennifer P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its pretty straightforward-don't marry him.
2007-10-20 07:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever he is - if you marry, you are stuck with a person you do not love. Maybe in time it might happen But that would be a risk you would have to face. Surely you can simply have a serious talk with him and express you respect for his character yet tell him the truth about your feelings - which he should respect.
If you start of a relationship on a lie (Covering your real feelings) the chances of eventual happyness is quite slim. You are faced with living that lie and perhaps a life of misery and "If Only..." or the trauma of a divorce he may bring to a bitter court fight.
Follow your heart. It is your life as well as his. You cannot have a happy married life if you have negative feeling before you even begin.
2007-10-20 14:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by organbuilder272 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him than don't marry him why would you want to hurt someone twice. My husband and I married for the wrong reasons. I do love him but I am slowly turning all that to rage because of the games he plays. I don't think he knows what he wants either he'll tell me he loves me than he'll turn around and say he never loved me. Games get old find someone else and leave the good ones alone if that ain't what you want than you need to tell him. I hope you find what your looking for. But just don't use him in the process.
2007-10-20 14:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by ~~Just me~~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry for this, but what a selfish doosh.Being nice is one thing, scaring someone by lying to them is another. Trust me, What you need to do is be honest. It dont matter how much you like him, or want to see him, if you don't love him, you cheating him, and your self. You might as well be robbing wal-mart and not sears. First your robbing then, your going for 2nd best. No matter how great, kind, generous he may be, keep leading him wrong and he will be crushed, and might treat the next one like crap. Don't give the far few good guys out there a bad image!
2007-10-20 14:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by Robert W 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with him and yourself. If you don't love him, is that really fair to him. Let him go and give him a chance to be with someone who CAN give him the love that he deserves and maybe then you can find someone who you can truly love. Just because he is generous and kind does not make him the guy for you. There are other fish in the sea that will be your total package. :)
2007-10-20 14:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by Meggie Smalls 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jenn, You marry for love.~~ You must be honest.~~
At this point it sounds like you admire some very good qualities about him.
One simple question to ask yourself when in doubt about LOVE is " Can I imagine my life without him ?"
When your answer is "NO", then you are in love or falling in love. Remember that !!!
I have been married for 54 yrs. and I am happier today then when I first married. We grew together through Peaks & Valley's. We raised 5 happily married children.
The man I admired in his Military Uniform, when I was 22 & he 26 is the man that I am deeply in love with today.
We grew in our Christian love. God is Good.~~~~~~~~
2007-10-20 14:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no sense of you marrying him if you don't love him. Marriage is a lot of work. Tell him how you feel and take it from there. Maybe you can be friends and he'll meet the right person whose going to return his love.
2007-10-20 14:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by peaches6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best thing here. If you don't love him, and you marry him, you will probably be unhappy and the realtionship is bound to fail.
You must be honest to him and to yourself. Find a nice way to tell him how you feel, and then tell him that it is time for you both to move on.
2007-10-20 14:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you aren't ready for marriage. I understand hes' a caring, generous and kind person and there aren't a lot out there, but if you don't love him, follow your heart. Just tell him you're not ready and be friends.
2007-10-20 14:13:20 · answer #9 · answered by mamanut02 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him, you should not marry him.. can't live a lie forever.. ITs for your own good and his as well. He can still find someone else, who loves him too.
2007-10-20 14:14:24 · answer #10 · answered by scoobydoo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him, it wouldn't be fair to either of you if you married him. You would regret it for the rest of your life.
There are plenty of men out there. Don't give up.
2007-10-20 14:14:12 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋