Can u please help me to be straight (as in non-homosexual 4 all who don't kno) Thanks so much2make difference!

Question

So basically, if u want to know my story about this subject, keep reading..just recently realized i was not straight.. i kept denying myself this fact for years,hehe..fortunately now it all makes sense with the warnings, things i've heard, signs that Gods been trying to make me see(i was stubborn not to c it, ways i felt when i was a child, i was unconciously moving towards non-straightness) so u could pls be kind enough to just answer my question n don't try to convince me that this non-straightness thing is ok or its fine to be the way i've been before because it's been obvious why some people avoid me and seem uncomfortable around me and how it's worth getting my real life back cause life really could be funner,seriously..it shows in my classmates' straight lives n they laugh more, believe me when i say thanks so much to people who want to help me and make such a change for me with their answers, whether short or long, a small drop of water stirs an ocean ( can make a big difference

btw, i'm 17 if u must know
n pls try to stay on topic -thanks@
pls don't tell me i was born both a boy and girl? how can i be that way if i was born with a vagina?
pls keep in mind that u don't know my background about my parents and all
don't waste your time trying to type a message to me if you're going to tell me trying to convert into a straight person is impossible, k? thanks!Q

can i be born gay when i wasn't born with a vagina and a penis? if we're going to talk on medical terms , so what u think?

dear Crazy,
how can i not go back to my straightness when i was born straight (witha vagina) and was straight during my younger years?

ppl who are born gay, are born with both a vagina and penis (in that case,i guess God's ok with them being gay) but if someone is born with a one (not some combo of both male n female parts) then they don't become gay until sometime in their life (perhaps sOmEtHinG happens) n they choose to to be gay.. right?

Thank godness, someone like Richard Cohen on

www.gaytostraight.org

proves that there really is no genetic or biological evidence that ppl r born homosexual

thanks to dreamer who answerd my same question on

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20071020102954AAQt4F9&r=w

http://www.gaytostraight.org

sorry i forgot to make clear that dreamer told me about gaytostraight.org

btw, y do u call urself Crazy, Crazy? just wondering

really i'm just wondering if that's your real name Crazy? if u don't want to respond then ok

Answer 1

IT IS NOT POSSIBLE. You don't have to listen to "gay is ok", you don't have to listen to "learn to love yourself", but you DO HAVE TO KNOW that changing sexuality IS NOT POSSIBLE.

It's not an issue of "I want to change so I should be able to". You can cover it up, pretend, repress, etc, but just like dying your hair, your true "colors" will always be there under the surface.

This may not be what you want to hear, but I'd much rather that you at least get it into your head right now so that you don't waste years and years, possibly even decades or your whole life, trying to run from something that you'll eventually have to realize and admit is innate and unchangeable.

Sorry.

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Homosexuality isn't "being both male and female". If a person is both with both female and male genitalia, then that person is a hermaphrodite, an intersexed person, not necessarily homosexual. A homosexual is someone who is attracted to people of the same sex. Being a homosexual doesn't mean that one is "a man in a woman's body", etc. It simply necessitates an alternate kind of attraction. That's all.

"Straightness" isn't defined by your genitals. Being born with a vagina isn't a guarantee of being a straight woman. Some women are lesbians. They still have vaginas. Same goes for men; some are gay and they still have penises. Sexuality is about attraction.

Now... if you DO have both sets of reproductive organs, that's another story entirely. If you have both a penis and a vagina, that would make you a hermaphrodite, not a homosexual.

Answer 2

In science and biology, you are a male which you can only pass sperm to females to make heirs. Maybe it's because you are obsessed about how are female experiencing sexual pleasures. You are not gay, that it. There's about 5% of the hole earth population that are gay which is totely impossible. If god really truly exist and you beleive it, then there's no suck a thing as gay. You are a male not a female. You better just start ingnore that wierd idea and do some menly activities stating by now. Good luck and Vote for me! Wait I forgot a detail, you are truly gay and that's in your brain, there's an transsexual operation that you can do in today's science but there's a 50% of chance that you can die of it. Still even after that, you can't have babys. I'm not sure where you can get it but there's prove that a japenese survived at this operation and now he/she's a girl. She's now married with a men not gay. Good luck on both side. May you find the answer that you seek. You can e-mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 3

There are a lot of reasons for what you feel, probably too many to list here but if you read the book Anne Hesche wrote you may find some answers there, to begin with. She was the one, by the way, who had a lesbian affair with Ellen DeGenerous.
One girl I knew felt that she was lesbian but it was because of a desire to be closer to her mother as I found out when I got to know her better - she didn't become straight - but that had a lot to do with it being my fault, a long story which I won't go into here - but I found out after she died that apparently she had been looking for me and couldn't find me.
You can try counseling but another thing to remember is that there are also shades between what you see as male and female as well, for example the very female girl who likes to work on cars with the guys and yet still have affairs, get married and have children.
There is the fact that, if you have had a sexual relationship already with another girl, a girl knows more how to please another girl sometimes better than a man so it is easy to mistake sexual happiness with life happiness. Anne Hesche once said that the sex with Ellen was fantastic, yet she went on to be married, have children, get a divorce and is now involved with another man.
How you see ourself has a lot to do with who and what you are but counseling can often give you another way of looking at yourself. There is much more I could probably say but this is a journey that you have to take on your own and find your own path with the help that you are able to get whether through counseling, Anne's book, or hopefully from something I may have said. Good Luck to you!!

Answer 4

okay. woah. first off, you should talk to a counselor instead of strangers. i know you want our help, but none of us know you or your story. you're completely right about that. second, there are different things, besides sexuality, that make you question your sexuality. a lot of people don't know that OCD greatly affects people questioning their sexuality. if you have obsessive compulsive disorder, you will have very, very convincing questions, feelings, struggles that you are gay, but that doesn't mean you are. if you have borderline personality disorder, you also will experience a great deal of turmoil in trying to figure out if you feel like you are a boy or girl, if you are sexually attracted to boys or girls, etc. you don't necessarily have to be gay to have the questions and inner chaos you are feeling.

none of us can tell you what you are. in the end, you are what you WANT to be. do you want to be gay? do you feel gay and don't want to be gay? because you might not be. i raise this idea because you're asking us if you are, and asking how you can be straight. you need to research a lot more before letting a society - that is very adamant about accepting and promoting homosexuality - tell you who and what you are. seriously. talk to someone. all the things you listed here, unfortunately, don't make it easy to say if you're gay or not. being gay has simply to do with your sexual actions and what you want to do with them.

i'm sorry i can't help you more, but i hope like crazy that your pain ends and you find peace! you can do this. seriously. you can.

Answer 5

Try sleeping with women, that might help shake the feeling away. Get a gf, go out and have a good time, get to know her body real intimately, in ways, that she only knows her body. if a succsses, then you are straight, if you are turned off by the idea, just come outside the closet.

Answer 6

its not possible to change. you can however deny it. but it will come back and you wont be able to handle it anymore and everything will come out. just accept the way you are. if people still dont like you, then their not real friends. I dont have any problems with people who are gay, lesbian, etc. Because those people are the ones who actually don't care what people think. They just live their lives. and make them better.

Answer 7

I agree with Crazy. You are who you are. But, I will say this, prayer goes a long way. Keep praying and ask God to reveal what he has in store for you. Pray for understanding with these feelings your having. You'll be ok. Gay or straight.

Answer 8

Dont worry, just cos you are gay doesnt mean you have to be different. i have a couple gay males mates, and i knew them before i knew they were gay. if your friends dont accept the fact you are the way you are then they arent good friends. also my gay male mate is just like a normal man, he isnt a wimp cos he is gay, i go out on a night out with mates (him included) he will help any friend out who is in a fight, all thats different is he will try and kiss a guy whilst other mates kiss women...........accept your sexuality it is fine, it doesnt have to change your personality though!

Answer 9

You won't be happy until you own who you are. Seriously, the reason that everyone else is happy is because they are ok with who they are and they don't need other people to approve of them. I know you said not to say this, but you can't change who you are, and people will accept you when you accept yourself.

Answer 10

Don't listen to anyone. I believe that You can be anything you choose to be. And I don't think you're gonna find an answer to your problem by asking complete strangers on yahoo answers try to get help or something.