I am a thirty year old divorcee who am now dating my best friend but here is the problem. He has been totally scarred by his last relationships and I am terrified because I am in total love with him! I just want to know what to do, I can't let him go it would absolutely kill me, so should I just continue to shower him with love and hope that he can move past his past and open up to me or what do you all think! Am I fighting a loosing battle? We have been together for 6 months and we have not ever argued and we have too many things in common I truly believe he is my true love!
2007-10-20 05:33:48 · 5 answers · asked by Lisa K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi Lisa, Why put up ur real pic & ask persnl Q like this? Gee wiz get some confidents. Hes yur best frend Singapore?!
2007-10-20 06:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by loidfish 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lisa I hope that you are correct and have found your soul mate. But do not attempt to alter his perceptions at present. Eventually things will progress naturally and when it does you will both be much happier with the outcome. Rather than challenging him to change and to prove you are worthy allow him to discover this on his own. Conversation is very important and seeing as you are both mature adults you should be having a lot of these also. During some talks you can discuss past loves, future dreams, and true feelings for one and other. Best of luck and do not play games but allow things to progress at their own pace.
2007-10-20 12:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him space. If he's so scarred bout his last relationship than he isnt on the same level in love with you. Give him space, tell him how u feel and tell him that whenever he is ready, he will call you. Showering him with love and all just wont make him see what he has unless he loses you. And it wont kill you, it will hurt you, it will leave you hollow. But every next step takes a lot of effort.
2007-10-20 12:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Alive & Well 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First explore and define your own motives and reasons. How long have both of you been divorced? Is he a safety? Absolutely do not smother him but be available and it's not a bad thing to be a little elusive yourself. He won't move if he is not requred to. If he is interested he will let you know as long as he knows you are available and interested. Communicate ...but give both of you room to breath and discover alternatives. Then if it is real it will happen.
2007-10-20 12:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by hvfunwme2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, dont smother him. he needs to know that all women are not 100% evil. so by showing him you love him and you are not like his ex's it will loosen him up a bit, and you will be able to move forward. there is no reason to let go right now. if he continues to be distant , maybe discuss it with him and share with him your feelings. dont rush it.
2007-10-20 12:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by lavenderliss@yahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋