im a 27 year old virgin and were going on our honeymoon, my husband is a virgin too. we have read some books on "getting intimate" but maybe your help would be better, any ideas??
2007-10-20 05:26:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im the girl lol
2007-10-20 05:56:40 · update #1
The "honeymoon" stage in a relationship is a time of bonding and of making commitments. It is easier to discuss lifetime commitments while honeymooning. What are life issues that can be difficult yet necessary to agree on?
*Education
*Finances
*The possibility of disease
*Old Age
*Death
*Our relationship with God
You might want to make sure you are choosing a companion that is capable of discussing issues such as mentioned above without losing touch with the touching love reciprocation the two of you have shared.
Some make the mistake of assuming the above mentioned "facts of life" are just depressing and shouldn't be discussed during honeymoon phase. It is a mistake because so many agreements and commitments for present and all the way down the road can be done during honeymooning. It is a time of bonding.
Love between a couple is a sharing experience. They:
*nurture each other
*share experiences
*share realizations
*entertain each other
*share finances
*share educational concerns
*share business concerns
*share foods
*share God with each other
A marriage is always about being a parent even if the couple cannot conceive. If we cannot have a child of our own then we still are parent to all children, all creatures, and a good neighbor to all peoples of the world.
Similarly, the having a child has a bonding period. You kiss your child's little "tootsies" and vow to care for that child through hell or high-water. You vow to nurture that child and act responsibly for that child's sake. You vow to help that child with their psycho-emotional development for there you and your spouse find great joy. You vow to help that child with the education, employment, and they future potential of becoming a parent.
2007-10-28 04:18:05 · answer #1 · answered by devotionalservice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cathy continue to read books is my best advice. That and allow things to come naturally and you will both have the time of your lives. What a wonderful way to experience a honeymoon as both virgins. Best of luck with your wedding and honeymoon. Trust me when I say that we have a natural instinct when it comes to performing the act of making love and it will be fun and adventurous for you two. You could always ask your mom what to expect but do not get too many opinions or ideas as it is different for everyone and you and your new husband will learn of each other's likes and dislikes throughout your happily married life.
2007-10-20 05:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY, oh WHY will our help be any better than what you are doing already. Since you're both are virgins, start with the books. What about those things that are coming to your mind to do? I mean anything is open at this point---you haven't tried anything! Go on your honeymoon and enjoy each other. One tip: If there's no pain then it's a go. Besides the pain of initial contact for her, there shouldn't be any. Be good to you and be happy. Congratulations.
2007-10-20 05:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by IWTK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is is so cute. I have never heard of a situation where both are still virgins. I agree with the others, continuing read up on it and when the time comes just relax don't be tense about the experience or you both wont enjoy it . Don't think of as a job! If you are tensed or stressed then it is going to be hard to have an orgasm. Trust me you will love it and are going to be wanting more and more and more you get the picture.
Good Luck! I think that it is great when you both can share the same experience together.
2007-10-20 05:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by mommie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congradulations on your marriage! I'm recently married myself too, so I'm very excited for you.
It's good that you've done a little reading, so now you know the basics. But sex isn't science doll... you don't have to study it in order to know how to do it. Your bodies will tell you want you want. I remember my first time (with my husband) and the most important thing you two need to do is explore eachother's bodies slowly. Foreplay foreplay foreplay is important to make sure you are lubricated enough to receive his penis. You are unstretched down there, and it will be painful your first few times no matter what you do, but the more lubricated you are, the less painful it will be. And take turns exploring eachother's bodies: while you lie there, let him have liberty with you: don't be shy. You're married now. Allow him to caress your skin, maybe even suck a little on your nipples, touch your most intimate areas, nibble your neck, whatever he wants to do and take mental notes on what feels good to you. And if you really like something he's doing, let him know so he'll learn it and remember for the next time. Likewise with him: let him lie there and you explore his body. Kiss him gently on the neck, his lips, run your fingers through his hair and don't be afraid to play with his genitalia. The best part about all this is that he won't even have to "tell" you what feels good; his body will let you know, and then you'll keep that in mind for the next time. Then, when you feel you both are ready, allow him to enter you. Slowly. Gently. Only do it for as long as you can handle it. There is no rush; you have the rest of your lives with eachother. Just let your bodies take over. Your intrinsic human nature will kick it and you mostly just have to enjoy it. You can work on technique later.
I hope this really helped. It did for me, however (fortunately or unfortunately depending on how you look at it) my husband was not a virgin when I married him, so he helped me a lot. I'd really love to chat more with you about this and possibly answer more questions you may have. Feel free to email me anytime: kit_kat_20052000@msn.com.
Good luck doll~
2007-10-20 06:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well since it's the first time for the both of you. Perhaps a romantic setting would be best, in your hotel room (wherever you'll be staying) with some candles and nice music. Don't take things too fast, just let you two explore each others bodies. It might hurt you for a few secs, when you get your cherry popped but it'll be ok. Because you two love each other. Just do whatever come natural for the both of you. Do what pleases you and your partner.
2007-10-20 05:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by **Mystica** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let nature take its course and let your hearts do the rest.
I tip my hat to you and your hubby for staying virgins till your wedding night. You 2 are awesomeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.
My dream is also to stay a virgin till marriage. Im 100% sure it will be a night you both wont ever forget.
Just have to say it again
You 2 are awesomeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
2007-10-20 19:47:58 · answer #7 · answered by virgin 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on getting married!
Just talk to each other and show him the way you like to be touch and ask him where he wants to be touch. be considerate to each other.
go to Cosmopolitan magazine site, they always have some fantastic moves, suggestions, and ways to make love with love.
Enjoy each other's mind, body and soul and you will have a great married life.
Have a super time on your honeymoon!
2007-10-20 05:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by mycorollababy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a rarity you both are. How lovely! Don't worry, it'll come to you. Just start with the cuddling and see what happens. And it's okay to laugh if you two fumble awkwardly. You two are in love and have the rest of your lives. Happy marriage to you both!
2007-10-20 05:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by zen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and just do what feels natural.. Since you both are virgins, your in the same boat. Remember, Practice makes perfect haha
2007-10-20 05:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by ibrollin05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋