My husband and I are so in love, we have a very happy marriage. But, his brother is always trying to cause problems between us...he hates me, always has. My husband does his best to keep his relationship between the two of them, but his brother always finds a way to weasel himself back in and start causing problems again. What should I do?
2007-10-20 04:22:14 · 9 answers · asked by loquita.bella 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have confronted him, even told him do not come to my house...this lasts a couple of months then he just shows up like everything is ok again...but the trouble always starts...I want him away from me for good...he is a drunk and a cocaine addict with trashy friends...my husband is a 2 year recovering alcoholic, and a different person than I met. I'm afraid his being around his brother is going to influence him to his old ways, and his brother strives for this, cause he knows that would get rid of me.
2007-10-20 04:30:45 · update #1
he secretly loves you and wants you for himself!!! I'd have a talk with this dude and tell him you're not going anywhere so get your own life and back off.
2007-10-20 04:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sarahz 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
wow, thats a hard one. You are right though, he could be an influence. But you have to try and not be too nutz about the brother or your husband may feeel he needs to side with him. Stay as neutral as is possible. He can turn back if the stress becomes too much. This man is definately athreat. And of course he doesn't like you. You took his party boy away and you are changing his brother and feels that if hes not with him hes against him. You essentially turned his brother from him. Make sense?
2007-10-20 11:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do a lot more for your husband than his brother can...you need to explain that to him. You can hold back if you feel hurt by what your husband and his brother are doing. Eventually your husband will see what is going on and hopefully talk to his brother. Don't expect him not to see his brother, but you should expect him to come to your rescue if there are problems starting because of the brother.
2007-10-20 11:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by rrunner68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to check his brother. You better tell your husband to make a stand for you. YOUR MARRIED... His brother is probably acting this way because he may like or has been liking you and this is his way to show it. Like children. When a child has a toy or something another child desire to has the first impression is the infatuation with it. Then the reasoning of not having it. Then the actual act of destruction of it. Kind of like this, I have a loli pop and my friend does not. He ask for some and their is none. So he snatches it and throws it. Why? because he could have it. Tell your husband it is driving you away. That should help...
2007-10-20 11:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by skawp 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is commit ed to staying sober you have nothing to worry about.My brother is a recovering alcoholic as well.My only brother and two of my sisters are.There are two sisters and myself that don't drink or have ever had drugs. We three are there to support our siblings.WE would never turn our backs on them.We know this is an illness.Your brother in law needs you and your husband to help him.Don't ask your husband to turn his brother away.If my wife ever ask this of me I would be history.WE have been married 49 years.This should tell you something about how to deal with it.Good luck to all three of you
2007-10-20 11:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by I'm Jerry 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My heart goes out to you, troublesome in-laws are such pests! Try to tell your husband you do not feel safe around him, and would like to stop him from coming around until he gets help. Remember misery loves company and if you don't do something, your husbands sobriety could be at stake. If your husband truly cares about his brother he will talk to him about getting the help he needs.
2007-10-20 11:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by Notbusy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a ton of things you could do but to stay on the safe side, why don't you confront this brother n law and ask what is the problem and get this mess resolved once and for all.
2007-10-20 11:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is up to your husband to set his brother straight. He has to tell him in no uncertain terms to be respectful of you or to get lost. If worse comes to worse, you can file a restraining order against him. It sounds like he may have mental problems.
2007-10-20 11:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe this is something your husband has to handle because you wouldn't want to come between him and his brother. But, if he talks to his brother whatever happens, its not on you.
2007-10-20 11:31:56 · answer #9 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋