First Time no condom...Please Help!!!!?

Question

I have been dating this girl for alomst 7 months now, and we have been very careful about when we have sex. We are crazy in bed and have had sex a lot, but recently it wasnt enough for us, and we have been tempting ourselves, until it finally happened last night when she pushed me in. It was so amazing, but we are both really scared now, its been about 9 hours now since. We had sex with a condom prior to this happenening, and I did ejaculate. It was the second time I didnt use it about 10 minutes after the first time. I made sure not to ejaculate the second time in fear, but I have heard of pre-*** that can do things. But would there even be any pre-*** since I had already ejaculated? What should I do?!!! She is 18 and I am 16, soon to be 17, should she go get the Morning After Pill? and if so where? Or should we wait, her period starts soon, well hopefully, please advice, as much as possible. Thank you so much.

Answer 1

Wow, such hate-filled responses for a guy who is genuinely seeking some guidance. Not cool people!

First things first there buddy ... calm down! Worrying about it isn't going to change anything, what's done is done, right? Don’t stress yourself out and make it worse.

Now, a word of warning ... if you knocked her up then you need to make sure you do the right thing and take care of the kid because being able to make a baby is a huge responsibility, and there’s nothing wrong with engaging in the activities that can result in a child just make sure you’re prepared for the possible consequences, and based on your question I get the impression that you’re really not ready for that. It sounds like your girlfriend is kinda pressuring you to do something you’re not really ready for. But the genie is out of the bottle now and I doubt you’re going to stop, so here’s my input on the subject.

That being said there’s really no way to be 100% certain based on this circumstance or that circumstance. I know that’s not the answer you’re seeking. You’d like it to be a nice neat yes or no answer, y’all will just have to get a pregnancy test and find out.

I have a friend who got married and on his honeymoon he got his wife pregnant on the first try. She was on the pill, he wore a rubber, and he pulled out before he ejaculated, and she still got pregnant. Actually I think they’re expecting their third kid now, and they’ve used birth control throughout their entire marriage.

And on the opposite end of this spectrum I have a buddy who wants a son very badly. He and his wife do everything possible. No condom, no pill, no birth control of any kind. He ate a diet that was designed to increase his potency, they would have sex all the time and they also timed it with her cycles to do everything possible to ensure pregnancy, and two years later they’re still childless. I think they’ve even started using hormone therapy in the last six months with no success.

The fact that you just ejaculated 10 minutes prior may not be the positive you think it is, because if you may or may not have noticed while “flogging the dolphin” after you ejaculate there’s still a little left “in the barrel” so to speak and it comes out after your primary ejaculation. You may have left a little bit of yourself inside her and not even known it. And yes, there can be sperm in “pre-***”. And let’s not forget you’re a young 16 year old buck. I can remember that when I was 16 I was ready to go again in five minutes, by ten minutes I could’ve been ready for a three way. And your next ejaculation could have the same volume & potency of the previous one. So the fact that you had just previously ejaculated 10 minutes prior doesn’t really mean a thing.

Now, you’re a freaked out 16 year old boy (and yes, even though you’re having sex you’re still a boy) and the possibility of having a kid at your age has you on edge ... good ... you need to be, hopefully it’s the shock you need to never forget to wear a rubber again.

On a side note you should also be concerned about are the possibility of catching an STD. It’s a lot easier to catch a nasty bug than it is to knock a girl up sometimes, and crabs suck! Which is all the more reason to buy condoms in bulk when you’re having lots of sex.

Yes, having sex au naturale ... the way it was meant is a heck of a lot of fun, just be ready for the consequences, and hopefully be married.

You’ll make it through this just fine! Just like thousands upon thousands of other young men/boys who went through the exact same situation you’re going through now. I wouldn’t be surprised to find out that the majority of people in this world were “accident babies”; it’s what makes the world go ‘round.

Answer 2

She is an adult and should know much better. She knows all the options out there. You are 16 but still should know not to have unprotected sex. My son did the exact same thing and now I have a Granddaughter.
She is old enough to go get the morning after pill. She should be on the pill or some other form of birth control at her age, especially if you two are going at it like rabbits like you say.
There is no excuse for what you did except you must be trying to get her pregnant.
Either get her on birth control or use a condom everytime. Better yet, get her on birth control and still use a condom.

Answer 3

First Time Without Condom

Answer 4

First of all, what state do you live in?

Second get control of yourselves for Goodness sake!

Third, Yes you should be concerned and the morning after pill is a form of abortion. See below:

RU486
RU486 is Mifeprex (Mifepristone), The Abortion Pill

Statutory rape is illegal sexual activity between two people when it would otherwise be legal if not for their age
In accordance with the FBI definition, statutory rape is characterized as non-forcible sexual intercourse with a person who is younger than the statutory age of consent. The actual ages for these laws vary greatly from state-to-state, as do the punishments for offenders. Many states do not use the actual term "statutory rape," simply calling it rape or unlawful sexual penetration among a variety of other titles. These laws rarely apply only to intercourse, but rather to any type of sexual contact. Dating someone without sexual contact cannot be considered a form of statutory rape, and is almost never illegal.

All states have an "age of consent," or an age at which a person can legally consent to sexual activity and can then no longer be a victim of statutory rape.

Some states also have laws that take into consideration the "age difference" between both people involved. In many states, the more years there are between the adult and the minor, the more serious the offense. All states have laws with special consideration and age restrictions where a relationship involves a person of authority over a minor; this includes but is not limited to, teachers, coaches, assistant coaches, or tutors. Generally, the age of consent is 18 in these situations and the penalties for violation of these laws are more severe. These laws change, and can vary depending on other circumstances. For more information on how these laws apply in your state, visit the Answer Board





Talk to your parents and learn to be more careful.

Answer 5

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First Time no condom...Please Help!!!!?
I have been dating this girl for alomst 7 months now, and we have been very careful about when we have sex. We are crazy in bed and have had sex a lot, but recently it wasnt enough for us, and we have been tempting ourselves, until it finally happened last night when she pushed me in. It was so...

Answer 7

If your really that worried tell her to go to planned parenthood they will give her the morning after pill. And while she is there tell her to get birth control. It doesn't cost anything. I've done it and its easy. But you guys are stupid for not using any kind of birth control. I dont think either one of you want a baby at your age. And trust me im not old either im only 19!! Just go to planned parenthood!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Give the babies to the fire dept. They will not ask questions. If you knew what it costs to raise a kid, and the zillions of guys who are paying unwanted child support, you'd change your behavior moron.They give free birth control with a shot at any welfare dept, or plaqnned parenthood. See them for this.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

In some states her having sex with you is illegal.
You know better, so learn from this.
She needs to make sure she is not pregnant, but your problem is std.

You can die from unprotected sex.
Control yourself.