me and my wife have been together since teenagers and we are considering have some fun sexually with others we have been together 15 yrs and are child is older and now we get to have some fun...anyone out there that can help with advice on how the best way to approach this by the way me and willing are both in agreement on this but havent decided if another woman , and or man would be best first step!
2007-10-20 04:17:28 · 24 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
See if there's any swingers clubs in the area to go to and you can just check it out before deciding what might be best for the two of you.
2007-10-20 04:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sarahz 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Considering A Threesome
2016-12-13 08:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by oreilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been down this road and made the wrong choice. It seems harmless enough at the time and seems like it would be fun and adventurous. However, it causes problems that you just don't see or anticipate before hand. It can scar you in ways that you didn't realize it would. Also, we discovered that the thought of it was more exciting than the act. The earth did not move when it happened. We also have seen many people split up after making such a decision. Be careful and smart. We are still healing from this mutual decision we made, not realizing the negative impact it would have on our marriage.
2007-10-20 04:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by Katie 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It may sound like a fun fantasy but when the reality steps in do you really really want that? Sex involes a lot of emotion and jealousy for either partner. plus what if one of you get some kind of secret affair going one with the person from the outside that you brought in.
What if your wife likes the other man or woman more than you or vice versa. It is a know fact that during that 3sum - something might go down that you do not like.
2007-10-20 05:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by lalagirly 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
go for it
and then start looking for a divorce attorney
though you both may want it
eventually one will cheat
and that's when the real fun begins
as after that both will make accusations of each other
of infidelity
and so on
and then out come the dogs of divorce
the lawyers
who will rip your lives ( mainly you the man ) apart
all for a few fleeting moments of sex
oh yeah, and you kids are going to think both of you sick
and probably never see the the same way
they'll never see you a a good set of parents
but rather one set that went astray
then in return they will not want commit or divorce themselves since you have transferred insecurity issues to them
nice going there bob
2007-10-20 05:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First you need to be clear with your partner about safe sex and being jealous. Fantasy is good, but when it comes to reality, many times it doesn't work for all the parties involved. Talk it out and read some books on the subject. Go to house parties and watch the different people, or go to a swingers club and see how the two of you react. What ever you do...go slow and if one of you isn't really interested in a threesome anymore, stop and find something exciting for the both of you in your marriage.
2007-10-20 04:29:46 · answer #6 · answered by rrunner68 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Dont do it, thats not marriage. Your both giving in on your vows and the commitment it takes to be a real man or woman. Your taking the easy way out instead of spicing up your own marriage, thats a real task. IF you really can see your self actually sleeping with someone else get divorced first.
2007-10-20 04:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Instead of swinging why don't you try some toys or spontaneity. Bringing other people into your marriage creates problems no matter what agreements have been arranged. I can understand wanting to spice things up, and I am very open-minded, but marriage is best when it is just a husband and a wife. Please reconsider this decision before it is too late!!!
2007-10-20 04:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by Notbusy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here is the BEST advice I can give you both.
DO NOT DO IT!!!
Having sex with ANYONE who your not married to is adultery, and is cheating.
Be happy with each other, because if you bring in a 3rd, your inviting the possibility of jealousy into your marriage, and also your wife may think if you bring another woman in, that she's not good enough.
There's a verse in the book of Proverbs chapter 5, that says May your wife's breasts satisfy you ALWAYS!!! Don't go outside of your marriage for sexual fun. Keep it in your marriage and DON'T bring in other people, because you could be bringing alot of trouble with it.
2007-10-20 04:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Hi...it takes very special people to get involved in threesomes...and i mean special...you have to have no emotions because when you see your wife enjoying the penis of another man you will sooner or later question yourself about this...same goes for your wife...when she watches you getting pleasured by another woman sooner or later she will ask herself the same questions you will ask yourself...does my partner still love me or the sex...forget what you see in porno's...those people are actors with no feelings for the people they are acting with...you and your wife will experience jealousy regardless how you both feel now...in your head is one thing and reality is another thing...i am not saying that you shouldn't get involved in threesomes but i am saying you are going to put your relationship to the test at some point...be it maybe your wife falling for a man who is better at sex than you or you falling for a woman who is better than your wife...like i said...emotionless anything less and your in trouble
2007-10-20 04:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by hanz2602 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Just imagine how fun it will be until your family, friends, child find out what kind of life you are living. Can you life with that... when everyone knows that you are out screwing around, risking your lives, your marriage..... are you ready for things like AIDS, or an unwanted pregancy???
This is a STUPID idea... don't risk the life and respect you have for something so stupid and dumb.
2007-10-20 04:35:16 · answer #11 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋