My life sucks! What can I do to change that?

Question

I have no real friends,no boyfriend,nothing to motivate me. The only thing I really care at this moment is my big brother,nothing else is important to me in this moment.He is the only person I can talk to. I have good parents,but I don't like talking to them. I go to church every Saturday,but still...nothing is different.Every day is so freaking boring! My grades are going down,I had all A but now I have only 2 A,3 B and one C.That is like...imposible for the old me.But I just don't care anymore!I never thought of suicide as an option(do I tried to do it 3 years ago,which was very stupid)I just hate my life!!! What can I do to make my life better???

now is my older brother who is getting all the honors in school.By the way I am 14

Answer 1

My younger sister had the same problem, She went to this phycologist and he told her to watch this movie called the secret. I you dont want to go out and rent it go to thesecret.tv, its amazing and changed my sisters whole life, shes an actress now and is going to be in a movie next year called journal time and she has tons of friends and a boyfriend.

Answer 2

Get active in a sport. Kayaking / canoing is fun, badminton is tons of fun and is not so demanding as tennis perhaps.

Bicycling is also really fun, but depending where you live may be too hazardous both in regard to traffic and dangerous neighborhoods, and people.

All this indoor activity and TV makes life a bit boring. Become active, then when you are indoors and have time, read a good book.

If you want a fun indoor activity try speed chess (3 to 5 min is exhilarating if you know the game.) A whole afternoon goes by in like minutes.

Such good times once or twice a week will help you to get through life without being too self-centered on how bored you are.

Answer 3

How about books? You can touch minds with some of the brightest, most compassionate people by reading what they wrote. And it's a great escape. Try 'Youth in Revolt' by CD Payne. It's a diary from a 14-year old boy, and funny as hell. Anything that makes you laugh is good. And, let's face it, you are 14 and can't really do much of anything else yet anyway. If you spend your free time over the next few years reading books, you'll end up wise and knowledgable by the time you are old enough to make the changes that will break the monotony of your life. And you'll always get A's in english class. Good luck.

Answer 4

read the book called the secret!
also write the things down that made your life suck and write beside the things that happended in your life that made it great!
i just moved from a large town to a big city over the suimmer and i absolutly hate it!
its a 7 and a half hour drive to my home town.
all my friends but two have forgotten me
and those two i hear once every other week
i have no friends here and deffently no boyfriend..
i tried out for the volleyball team and a couple weeks later i tore my ACL so i could not finish my season nor basketball or soccer! my grades went from mostly all As to 1B 1A 2Cs 2 Ds...
i lost my motivation!
but now its starting to lighten up..
i listen to music
such as alaynis morrisette, luciouse ladies or sarah mclalen (they are all spelled wrong sorry going mind blank)
try not to spend so much time on your computer or watch to much tv.
that will make your life more deppressing..
take a walk!
for some reason the sun makes me in a better mood..
tell your self that it sould always be worse and you should be greatful.
my mother sends me these articles once in a while about a person who is struggling or on the lines like that and it makes me apprectiate life!
you only have one shot at it so make the best of it
good luck

Answer 5

Please do NOT even think of suicide--that is just a very permanent "solution" to a TEMPORARY problem...your main "problem" being that you are a teenager and that is ONE OF THE most difficult times of your life. But believe me, these years don't last forever and somehow you WILL get through them. And then you're my age you'll look back and laugh at some of the silly things you may have thought or done!

Maybe you are showing a few signs of depression, since you say that nothing seems to interest you and everything's boring. Have you ever thought about talking to someone about it (school counselor, pastor at church, crisis hotline, professional counselor?)....You wouldn't even need to go into anything deep and dark, just talking about life in general and getting little stuff off your chest helps ALOT. Support is good. :)

Don't worry about having tons of friends--maybe you're the type of person who only opens up to very few people. Not everyone can be "Mr. or Mrs. Popularity"; I know I wasn't, but I learned to like myself anyway.

Your school grades are not that bad; school always gets harder right around now (middle school) so you just do the best you can do. Are your parents pressuring you about grades? Maybe there's some extra help available at your school... but don't put so much pressure on yourself--sometimes you are your own worst enemy. Like I said, you can only do your best.

Also, it's really damaging to your self esteem to constantly compare yourself to your older brother. You and he are two SEPARATE people, so nobody should expect you to live up to the things that he does. You probably have lots of strengths and gifts that he does not have (school grades are not everything). And it's great that you can talk to him...that means a lot to have a sibling that you can get along with; some siblings do nothing but fight!

And, what helped me (and still does) thru some very hard times is to put on your ipod or your stereo--or whatever you have, and just crank up the music that you really love. I ride my bike or run; you might like to do other physical stuff.
Good luck to you, Kiddo--hang in there!

Answer 6

You need to learn that you live for yourself, not for other people. If you are bored, then you need to figure out what interests you and go for it. Read a good book. Teach yourself a foreign language. Take up knitting or drawing. In 10 years you will more than likely have a great guy and a group of good friends who will stay with you throughout your life. You won't care that your social life wasn't great at 14, but you will really be kicking yourself if you screwed up in school and didn't get into the college of your choice or get the job you really wanted.

If you want to meet some really great people, take up volunteer work.

Answer 7

Well first off, being a teen is tough. Some of your feelings are normal. What is it that you want in your life that you don't have? Think about some goals you would like to attain. What do you want to be when you're older? It's exciting to be young because you have so many options. You can be whatever you want! Work hard in school so you can get there. I promise--the things that seem important now, won't be in 10 years. Things do get better. Trust me, I hated being a teen. I'm 25, and things are much better now.

Answer 8

At 14 you have no real worries in the world! Stop being so selfish and think about all the kids in the world who don't even have an older brother to talk to.
Try getting involved in some charity work or do something new like a new sport or extra curriculum activities. Or just walk up to a boy you like and just ask him if he wants to go out on a date with you. Most guys love that.

Answer 9

You have to think POSITIVE, I recommend you read "The Secret", it changed my life!
First off, you DO NOT need a boyfriend!
Try hanging out more with your brother and your parents.
Try getting involved in after-school activities or clubs.
Start studying more and get your grades back on track.
Remember, everyone has those times when nothing is working with them, it's happened to me, but you have to have HOPE and FAITH, and everything will become better little by little. EVERYONE has gone through such moments, and it will continue to happen throughout your life. You have to know to "hang on", and maintain a positive attitude.
Try making some new friends, and remember what I said, READ "The Secret"!!!!
Good luck!

Answer 10

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Answer 11

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