I have no reason to go on..?

Question

I have no real friends,no boyfriend,nothing to motivate me. The only thing I really care at this moment is my big brother,nothing else is important to me in this moment.He is the only person I can talk to. I have good parents,but I don't like talking to them. I go to church every Saturday,but still...nothing is different.Every day is so freaking boring! My grades are going down,I had all A but now I have only 2 A,3 B and one C.That is like...imposible for the old me.But I just don't care anymore!I never thought of suicide as an option(do I tried to do it 3 years ago,which was very stupid)I just hate my life!!! What can I do to make my life better???

I am 14...

I don't like going out of the space,I only go out to go to the church and to school....I just feel out of place out there

Answer 1

life is awesome. you need help.... believe me sweety, there is NOTHING that bad that will be resolved by you taking your life.
You HAVE to talk to someone! Your problems can be resolved. Talk to your big brother. Think of how your family, how he will feel if you decided to end your life!

Answer 2

You should start with what got yu to this point in the first place. There are good people out there and most teenagers feel like you at some point and time, I know I did and you just have to pick yourself up and look beyond the negative. Atleast you get to go to school some kids will never experience that. And I know things look down right now but they aren't going to get any better unless you start to let them. If you think all your friends are fake then get new ones and if some of them suck get rid of those ones eventually you will find good friends but there will always be people out there that are catty and mean you just seperate yourself from them. Try doing stuff you really like or finding a hobby art is an excellent way of expressing yourself and just letting your emotions flow with out saying a word to anyone and in the end you've accomplished something that might make you feel good about yourself. Just know that you are NOT alone and everyone has been to that point in thier life I'm 23 and still get down really low and I'm married! My husband is in the USAF and is gone alot and when we move I have no friends and we are far away from family sometimes I wonder "what the hell am I doing here" and then I take a step back and look around and realize that I am worth somthing and all we go thruogh is not for nothing. and I'll make new friends and weed out the catty ones and go on with my life. Life is too short to be sad and upset and angry all the time. Please know your self-worth is so much more then you feel right now. Good luck and I really do hope things get better for you. :)

Answer 3

I know I used to think the same way, it wasn't counseling that helped me I found something I liked. Try something new, something different, something that you've never done before. If you feel out of place, work with animals. I work with horses and they make me feel better the way they look up to you and you can just hate them and they don't care they'll still love you but they'll listen too. Find something you're passionate about. Animal rights? Your life can be used for so much good. You have so much potential and I don't even know you, but I know you do, because everyone's born with it, it's how you use it that matters. You could influence the world. I'm not being cheesy either.
Here there's this really inspirational meeting coming up on the thirtieth of October at the San Jose Convention Center
it starts at nineam and lasts until 340 pm. It's an all girls meeting where a thousand people in the bay area (CA) meet up and do workshops ( there are choices) run by activists and ex-models (people who have done stuff) Then we form groups and help in our community. If you don't live in CA then here's the link, maybe start something like it in your school; a club or something. The first step to anything is making people more aware. For instance emotional disabilities bipolar disorder? Should people be judged unfairly if they thought of committing suicide? It's a thought that takes over you, I know. But a lot of other people don't, so why not tell them if you feel it's important.
so the link...
www.girlsforachange.com
or it might be .org
but check it out
especially the videos they're pretty interesting, the registration forms are on there too in case you wanted to come.

Answer 4

What! you have good grades, C's make degrees! Go out of your box and join something that has nothing to do with your family or church. Like, drama club or photography club. I don't know how old you are but getting ajob in the summer or part time can help ease the boardom and give you more freedom. Are you sick of church? No biggie just tell mom that you only want to go to the regular service and not the other things at church (religion classes ect) Everyone goes through ups and downs and most of it is normal. You should speak with a doctor and have your hormones checked as they could be out of balance. Maybe you need to be on anti-depressants (but they can cause more problems too) Write in a journal everyday and then forget about it. Train your brain to think happy even with you are down. YOu are the one who makes your happiness. Be an optimist not a pesimist. Everyday tell yourself some affirmation like, I am smart and funny even if you don't believe it at that time, keep telling yourself that every day and believe it like it is true. If that does not work, call the suicide helpline in your area.

Answer 5

Hey throw those stupid suicide thoughts away. You are very young and have a lot of life left. Thing of life as a wheel it goes around and around. You are one point on that wheel. As it goes around you will see high points which are fun and great, and low points which are not. Take a hold of your life and get the grades back together. I don't want to preach here, but make friends with your parents. I am a little older then you and believe me there will come a day when you miss and need them and it's to late because they are gone. Make them an important part of your life while you can.

Answer 6

Find a doctor ASAP and get on an anti-depressant. Next, find a hobby, cause, etc. and make a committment to it. By focusing on others, you can temporarily take your mind off your own life. In the mean time, you might make friends or find you are enjoying yourself. As for boredom- it doesn't go away. Unless you are living a rather hectic lifestyle, you will be bored at some point every week for the rest of your life. When you get older though, you don't mind those down times as much. No one kills themselves over boredom though. One of my friends killed himself last month. My brother and I were on the phone last night still trying to figure out how bad life has to get for you to set your house on fire and shoot yourself. He has no idea how many people have cried about his death this month and will continue to mourn it for years to come. Don't do that to your family and friends.

Answer 7

I know how you feel. I went through the same thing as a teenager. What I would do is talk with your doctor and have them do some blood tests and check your hormones. This may be a hormonal thing and can be helped. I know that it is hard being a teen now-a-days. There is so much pressure and teens can be cruel.
I am sorry that you are going through this. I'll say a a prayer for you and I hope that you will see a doctor and talk with someone.
Good Luck!

Answer 8

You give us a few clues to go on.

Let me tell you about this experiment done several years ago. They took a bunch of people and stuck them out in the wild to fend for themselves, create a life in the 1800's sort of.

There were families, and some kids.

When the experiment was over, the kids who had a real hard time adjusting to life without TV, cellphones, computers, etc., had the hardest time adjusting to a life WITH it again.

They said exactly what you said. Its so boring, nothing matters.

Teens live in a world of instant this and instant that. We have provided them with cell phones, and TV's. They can socialize, and be entertained.... at the same time. But a common complaint is: "Every day is so freaking boring! "

Our bodies, and our minds are not built for this. We yearn for something else. We need (not want) something else. A purpose, a reason to get out of bed in the morning.

Adults have less of this. They have to get up in the morning and go to work, to pay the bills, so their children can enjoy the cell phones and TV's (and cellphoneTV's). They have a purpose, they have a reason.

When I was a child, all my friends were at school. We met there, communicated, socialized, we needed school to meet that need. So even though we did not necessarily 'like' school, we went there because we needed it. For entertainment we would go to the football games (yes I predate Cable TV, we had one channel on the TV where I grew up and it stopped broadcasting at 10pm), or basketball games. Younger kids would play outside.... older kids would play outside too (just different kind of play). It fulfilled our needs for entertainment. We needed to "get out" in order to have this need filled.




Your options are many. You should go see a counselor and tell them about your issues. They may have a bunch of different ideas about what you can do or take in order to start feeling better.

You definitely should talk to your minister or youth leader at church. They will give you a reason, and a motivation.

I would suggest a long walk outside.... (3 hours minimum) if it makes you feel better, then your course of action is simple.... get rid of the Cellphone, turn off the TV, stop it with the computer and start taking long walks more often.

Answer 9

There are many things that you can do. I am sure that the friends you have even though they arent "real" friends would be there for you to talk to and help you with what you are going through. Another thing is to talk to your mom i am sure that she doesnt always seem like that best answer but i do know that she can try to help you. or think of something that you really like to do and go do it. Personally i like to go to the local animal shelter when i am down and just play with the animals. Life will get better in time. I promise!

Answer 10

I would try to look at life as a motivation. Begin to appreciate being alive! What kind of things do you like doing? What are you good at doing? What would you like to get better at? Get a hobby, litteraly. Talk to your parents more, teens usually think their parents are lame, but you need to communicate with them. Perhaps counseling is the answer. Try it all. Go outside. Being active will help your outlook on yourself and life. We all need people to talk to, but I wouldnt stress friends too much, you need to work on you. You are in control of your thoughts and actions. Take control and get busy....dont forget the studdying, but once you feel better about yourself, that will come along. There are so many people dying of sicknesses and all, they would love to be healthy again....try visiting elderly homes, do something for others to brighten their day. Does your church have a teens group...if not...just get active..and go outside! It is Saturday. Good luck!

Answer 11

You need to give yourself a good shake to motivate yourself because you are stuck in a rut.There are lots of things you can do such as, learning something new, you could help people voluntary, do things for your neighbours, do the shopping for your parents, something that will make you feel better about yourself.

We all feel this way and the only way to deal with it is to give yourself a shake and do something about it. You are the only person who can do this.