I am with a man who says he loves me, a bigger woman, but I get the feeling that i am not enough. Now I don't care if he checks out other women, he's a man he is going to look anyways, but why does he only check out skinny women? And if this is what he likes then why should I believe him when he says he wants to be with me? I know not all men tell the truth when it comes to issues like this, they just dance around the subject, so I want to know why would men say one thing and do another?
2007-10-20 03:34:17 · 20 answers · asked by Kikikins 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is why men shouldn't be looking at other women. Because by men lookin at porn or other women, it tells their wives that she's not good enough for him, or not enough.
Guys looking at porn or other women is a VERY selfish thing to do, because your wife MUST be the most important person in your life. And by looking at other women and porn, your telling her by your actions that she's not.
2007-10-20 05:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Men say things like they like bigger women or your butt doesn't look big, because they know if they tell the truth we would probably throw it up in their face forever. Since he hasn't said anything about your weight, and you are obviously feeling a little insecure about him checking out skinny women, try to lose a few pounds without telling him why.
2007-10-20 10:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because he already has a bigger woman, so why should he look at others of the same quality. He's just looking at what he doesn't see all of the time.
I don't know if you get that or not. If he was looking at other bigger women then he might be comparing you to them, thinking of what he doesn't have. When he looks at skinny women he isn't comparing them to you or wanting them (usually), it's just that they are different so he notices them. It's like if I love the smell of flowers and am standing in a field of them. If the smell of something burning blows by me on the wind then it is going to catch my attention, but that doesn't mean I like the smell or even wish to chase after it.
2007-10-20 10:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by Jacob A 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
He feels secure with you, however, he also likes shopping around. I am not saying that is okay, why don't you confront him and ask him about your problem?
One suggestion to you, why don't you surprise him by starting to loose weight and start looking like the types he is looking at. You would be doing to yourself also a very healthy favour. It would be a good choice to loose weight to a healthy level. Who knows he might not be able to keep his hand off you when that happens.
2007-10-20 10:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They want a skinny woman for the streets and a thick one for the sheets. Can you pull that off? lol
Just be you and let them adjust their taste accordingly, no need to adjust yourself. Who knows why people say one thing and do another, it's their problem, not yours.
2007-10-20 11:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lioness 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He loves you but is also attracted to skinny. They say they like padding the skinny ones are bones and no fun to love on... Who knows all men are pigs.... I just join in and pick out girls for them to look at too and maybe he will stop looking in front of you but keep in mind he is looking.
2007-10-20 10:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by friend 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
They love big woman love, but want skinny woman on the arm to show off. That and all men lie at some time.
2007-10-20 10:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I'm going to be honest, most men would, given the choice prefer to be with a fairly skinny thin woman.
This doesn't mean he doesn't love you, but if he could wave a magic wand and you became a healthy weight, he would probably do it.
I don't mean to be unkind, but being 'bigger' is rarely something you are stuck with. If you exercise, cut junk food and soda out of your diet, lower your sodium intake, and eat healthy food, you too can be a normal weight. Maybe not a waif, but most men don't want that. But you don't have to settle for being overweight and therefore unhealthy if you don't want to.
2007-10-20 10:37:59 · answer #8 · answered by ZCT 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
i dont get it
he said he loves you, he stays with you and you now asks yourself why he say one thing but do the other thing. looking at skinny woman while you are not skinny doesnt mean he doesnt love you or he doesnt stay woth you.
2007-10-20 10:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by gjmb1960 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore where a man puts his eyes, if a clown juggling torches riding a unicycle passed by he would certainly look.
Does not mean he is interested in a relationship with one.
2007-10-20 10:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by Vultureman 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋