Im 16 and me and my boyfriend have sex alot, sometimes i dont like having sex all the time but im afraid of saying something cuz im scared he will get mad..we always have used withdrawl for about 4 months now and i havent got pregnant. but i wanted to use a condom but it doesnt feel good and he says he cant feel anything with one on and i dont like it either.. and my mom is soppose to get me on birth control but she hasnt yet. should i keep using the withdrawl method??
2007-10-20 03:19:44 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
only if you want a baby
2007-10-20 03:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Autumn & Jayden's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend thinks wearing a condom is uncomfortable...what does he think being a teen father will be like?
You need to take more responsibility for your body and self. You are allowing things to be done to you which you know are not wise, or that you don't feel like doing. How uncomfortable do you think being a teen mom will be compared to making him wear a condom? I am 29, have a loving, educated husband, I have a college education, we have a home, new vehicles, and a supporting family, and I am 36 weeks pregnant, and I can tell, it gets pretty damn "uncomfortable." ;)
The penis secretes a lubricant that has sperm in it. So even if he doesn't ejaculate in you, he still deposits his DNA in you. Pregnancies have occured from pre-***.
If you are ready for a babe, keep doing what you're doing. If not, use condoms until you can get on birth control pills...then the only thing you will have to worry about are the myriad of sexually transmitted diseases out there...and just because a guy, no matter how well you know him, tells you he's "clean" doesn't make it so...lots of diseases, such as hiv, don't have symptoms to look for...the rates of infection in your age range are high. Remember that pre-***? It can have more than just sperm in it.
Good luck and please take care of yourself.
2007-10-20 04:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can keep using it, but just because you haven't gotten pregnant yet doesn't mean you won't. In fact, go ask my niece's parents how they got pregnant with her!
Get on birth control, or at LEAST use a condom. If you don't have BC, and your boyfriend won't wear a condom, tell him no more sex. If he gets mad or even threatens to break up with you, he isn't worth it. What would you rather have - a mad boyfriend who might break up with you, or one who will run off and abandon you when you become a mom at 17? Stand up for yourself, hun. Unfortunately, you'll be the one to have to live with the consequences if you do get pregnant. Despite what he'll tell you, there's a good chance he'll abandon you. So many girls are told by their boyfriends that they'll always stay together, and then they find themselves completely alone to raise their baby. Think about it, and good luck.
2007-10-20 03:31:07 · answer #3 · answered by SoBox 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a start get your self down to a family planning clinic or go to your doctor and get yourself on the pill, it takes about 5 min to do. Secondly withdrawl is the the worst method of them all,
The pre-*** still contains sperm.
I used to use that method until I had a pregnancey scare.
It's just not worth the risk.
Oh and when you don't want sex tell your boyfriend and if he does go mad then you should find yourself someone else!!
2007-10-20 03:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just b/c you have not gotten pregnant yet using the method you are using, doesn't mean it won't happen. You most definately should get on birth control as soon as possible. Your only 16 and you dont want to get pregnant at that age when you could have easily prevented it. Plus you don't always have to give in to your boyfriends needs or wants. If you don't want to have sex than you DO NOT HAVE TO! Let him throw his tantrum. Nobody wants to be with a baby. I don't think at your age you should be having sex at all, but since you are please get on birth control. I also think you should wait on having sex until your mother has gotten you on birth control. Don"t let your boyfriend dictate you about sex. You can make your own choices on your own.
2007-10-20 03:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by Erica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go right ahead if you want to be a 16 year old parent. Dear, it's not wise. I understand not wanting to wear a condom for lack of "feeling" but at your age, what it feels like really doesn't matter. I'd rather wear a condom and loose a bit of sensation than be 16 changing diapers and trying to go to Homecoming. Your bf sounds like the typical teenage boy. All is wants is sex. He's playing you for a fool. Because as soon as you get pregnant, he's gone and out of the picture. So now...ask yourself if it's really worth it.
2007-10-20 03:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by bernie2u4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel like you cannot make decisions over your own body, if you don't want sex, tell him no, if he gets mad - he is an *ss!!! If he won't respect you and wear a condom, he isn't worth your time! I'm sure you could ask him what he thinks would feel better sex with a condom, or no sex at all???
I had a baby at 16 with a guy just like this, although I wouldn't give my baby back, I sure would have wished I would have picked a better guy!
Be careful, and have respect for yourself!
2007-10-20 03:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ ~Isabelle's mommy~ ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure - go ahead and keep using it.....as long as you don't mind getting pregnant. You are playing with fire and you will get burned. It's just a matter of time.
If your BF doesn't love you enough to respect the fact that you are not ready for all this and won't even wear a condom to protect you then DUMP THE LOSER! Show some pride in yourself. NO MAN is worth losing yourself for. Think about it
2007-10-20 03:24:27 · answer #8 · answered by jachooz 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i was with my ex for 2 an a half years and we always used the withdrawal method and i never got pregnant. i met my new boyfriend and we used to have alot of sex with him always ejaculating inside me and i fell pregnant straight away. im not saying that withdrawal is birth control cuz its NOT you CAN get pregnant im just sharing my experience. i was lucky not to fall pregnant when using the withdrawal method. i chose to take a chance at falling pregnant with my new boyfriend and i am happy but sounds to me like you dont want a baby yet. you need to get on birth control soon as until then use condoms. good luck.
2007-10-20 03:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by Hannah S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've been lucky. And the lucky streak is bound to end eventually.
You don't need your mom to get you on birth control. You can go to Planned Parenthood or a similar clinic for birth control all on your own without your mother's permission.
In the meantime, USE CONDOMS. If it doesn't feel as good for him, tough sh*t - it feels better than getting pregnant at 16 and having your whole life changed forever. Stand your ground, and don't let him talk you into sex without it. Be responsible. If you think you're old enough and mature enough to be in a sexual relationship, then you better act mature enough to protect your body from STDs and pregnancy.
If this boyfriend of yours really loved you and cared about your well being, he should be just as interested in protecting you from the consequences of unprotected sex.
2007-10-20 03:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by Take A Test! 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him no condom no sex. easy as that, no guy should make you feel like you need to have sex with them to just make them happy and not be mad at you. That is a form of abuse did you know that. Sounds like he is very controling and your 16 and dont need any part of that. You mom doesnt have to get you on B.C just go to the planned parenthood near you and you can do everything your self and not pay a dime for any of it. Good luck and just remember you do what you want to do
2007-10-20 03:23:55 · answer #11 · answered by h0neybee1000 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋