Did anyone watch Dr. Phil yesterday on cheating?

Question

Ok I have to ask.....They were talking about the law that is in some states where one spouse can sue the mistress or lover of the hubby/wife..If you watched it what do you think about it and making it a common law among all states?
You think it is fair to only be able to sue the person with whom they are sleeping with or should they be able to sue hubby/wife too? Cause what if they didn't tell the lover they were married?
That one woman sued for 500,000.00 and settled for 50,000.00
Think less people would cheat?
And no I am not cheating just wanted to know what everyone thought about this......

lol.....Oprah had somewhat of the same show on yesterday. She had the wife of the woman whom she sued. I myself normally don't watch these shows either but, my sister was watching them and, I thought it was interesting......

Answer 1

I love Dr. Phil, but I didn't get to see yesterdays show. I read about it on the message boards though.

Personally, while I'm not sure "suing" is the route to go.. I do think that when two people choose to have an affair, that there should be some sort of punishment for what they've done to the spouse/family cheated on. It shouldn't be so easy for them to break up a family, and then move on with their life like nothing happened.

In a sense, I think that when the two people having the affair stay together, that they do get what's coming to them.. eventually. I mean, it's like they always say "If they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you". I believe that is 100% truth, especially in cases like these. I don't think they're headed for "wedded bliss" by any means.. and to be honest, they don't deserve it anyways (at least, not with each other).

So as far as this law goes, I think it's a great idea. Mind you, I don't think it's right to award large sums of money for things like this (money won't fix the pain they caused), but I am all for the idea of them being held legally responsible for the break up of the home. I just think it should be BOTH people involved, not just the "other man/woman".

I just think that if more cheaters were held responsible for what they've done, people may think twice before jumping into someone else's bed.

Answer 2

That is just a law passed by some attorneys who want another way to make money. A person doesn't cheat and expect to be caught any more than a criminal commits a crime and expects to get caught so passing a law like this will do no good at all and in fact, if a man knew he was about to be sued for cheating on his wife by her, he may end up killing her instead.
If simply passing a law was the way to stop something, there would be no more crime.
the only ones really to gain from a law like this would be the insurance companies perhaps because they will then be able to sell insurance against that as well as the other things which they ensure.

Answer 3

I didn't see it. I suppose if this law was in affect, it would make someone reconsider getting into a relationship with a married man or woman. Yes, the cheating spouse is 100% responsible for their infidelity, but, without someone willing to participate in the act of infidelity, they would not be able to do so. The o/m or o/w does hold some responsibility for the desolution of the mariage.

Don't think the law would actually have much of an impact on stopping infidelity. It is the morals and character so many lack today that should be addressed. Society is accepting the behaviour, when years ago anyone who entered into an affair was looked upon as immoral and people shunned them and wanted nothing to do with them. We have to change how we react; laws won't do it.

Answer 4

I didn't watch the show but going on what you have written, I think they should be able to sue if they are given a sexually transmissable disease. However, there are problems there because it would be difficult to prove who had it first. I don't think they should fill courts up with silly cases of people suing their partners for cheating. There are far more important issues for the law.

Answer 5

HI, i dont watch doctor phil, live in spain, but ive heard all about. and as a cheating spouse (and there are reasons why these things happen, not just cos im satans ***** sporn!!) i say that that there should be a fine for the likes of me that comes with the marriage contract. the lover often has nothing to do with your problems, they are the escape, the fix or the solution. its not their fault if they tempt a married or envolved person to be unfaithful. and if they are involved or married thats then their problem and they pay the fine within their own relationship..... what do you all think?...am i a scarlet woman!!ha ha ha

Answer 6

I think you were watching Oprah, not Dr. Phil. But anyway...most states have a "no fault" divorce law that prohibits court systems from labeling fault during divorce proceedings. Because of this law, you cannot sue your husband/soon to be ex-husband.

Personally I could never sue for that. Every time I spent money, I would be reminded of being cheated on. Wouldn't there be enough things to remind you of that without creating more?

Answer 7

Well that is very interesting law, would want to know how they proved it, and with what kind of evidence. Did they hire a private detective like on the show cheaters?
Who exactly would enforce such a law, I mean the police what a joke!
I am happily married and never plan on cheating but I think it would be a good idea to make both parties responsible for the actions, and consequences!

Answer 8

Adultery" IS "alienation of affection...ON divorce paper it is a legal term...The law suit should land on the cheating spouse....
YET when someone who is the Accessorer to the Adultery for them to be sued also is GREAT!!!! A good deter er to those who like to TAKE someone Else's spouse instead of invest time and patience in finding their OWN...

Answer 9

i think it's ridiculous and against human freedom. but on the other hand it would make someone think twice before sleeping with a married person. i think people would be more secretive about their cheating but cheating wouldn't stop.
in fact, there was a similar law in Europe, Italy and Greece (I don't know about other countries) and the cheating couple was busted and deported naked in the police station. this law was valid till the eighties but they abolished it due to cruelty humiliation and violation of human rights .
so, you have to prove cheating to get money, so you have to get them arrested naked on a bed. that means that an officer of the law has to do this for you and be the official witness to the crime of cheating.
what you are talking about is declaring cheating a crime. i don't know if cheating is a crime in the states. i don't think it is.
declaring cheating a crime, would snowball a lot of law procedures, human rights issues and frankly i think the police is already burned with chasing a lot of real criminals than busting into hotels and appartments and arresting ppl naked on the act (you cannot prove cheating any other way).
if you want a p.i. to get evidence of sexual acts that too i think is a violation of privacy and human rights.
so the criminalization of adultery would open the Pandora's box.

Answer 10

Dr Phil is an idiot, like those who watch his ridiculous show.

The fool discovers a couple of extremely rare cases, parades them on his TV show for ratings and now every fool who has a cheating spouse thinks they may have found their new lottery ticket.

The truth is, you can sue *anyone* for *anything* and every once in a while a few people will win some odd-ball lawsuit due to some extraordinary circumstance.

However, 99.99% of all divorces with adultery as a cause will never see a penny.