I'm 30 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I'm really stressed out. My puppy who was only ten and a half months old got hit by a car on Wednesday and I'm having a really hard time dealing with her death.
She was more than my puppy. I saw her when she was being born and knew the second she came out that she was going to be mine. I instantly had an attatchment/bond with her ever since then. She was like my baby...my shoulder to cry on...the one thing I would go to whenever I was upset. She was my pretty little girl and my best friend and now she's gone.
I was so upset when my brother found her that I started to throw up and just cry nonstop. I'm doing somewhat better. I stopped getting myself so worked up that I'm not throwing up anymore, but whenever I think about her, I just breakdown. The only thing that is keeping me together is this baby. I'm doing my best to stay strong and calm for my daughter. but sometimes it's just so hard.
How do I deal with this w/o gettin stressed?
2007-10-20 02:17:49 · 4 answers · asked by Amanda 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm 22 and due with my daughter on December 28th which is my 23rd birthday. I've had people close to me pass away, but this...this is just hard. I just feel so empty without my puppy.
Someone please tell me how I can deal with this without getting so stressed out.
2007-10-20 02:20:17 · update #1
Thank you so much to everyone who responded. I know it's going to take some time for me to get over this. I think what upsets me the most is the fact that she was just a baby and she didn't deserve it.
To the person who said:
"Now she can be your guardian angel for you and your baby."
I never thought about that. You're right and it helped a lot, so thank you.
2007-10-20 02:56:15 · update #2
Unfortunately there's not much that you can do. Time heals all wounds. Try to focus on the positives. You know what happened to her as opposed to her being stolen or simply gone. Her death was an accident. She wasn't poisoned. Now she can be your guardian angel for you and your baby.
2007-10-20 02:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact of the matter is, life doesn't stop when you are pregnant. I'm am really terribly sorry that your puppy has passed away. I know that losing a pet can feel horrible especially when it's only a baby. The good news is, there are new studies that show that stress during pregnancy isn't always harmful. Babies born to stressed out moms can sometimes have higher IQs and develop quicker than moms that had little or no stress. I read that in my Parenting magazine last month! Just to let you know I am 37 1/2 weeks pregnant and during this pregnancy I have had a lot of really bad things said about me by my brother-in-law for NO reason, I have had 2 close friends stop talking to me (one b/c of B-I-L and the other b/c of my sister), my sister flipped out on me b/c of some stupid pictures of a diaper cake (seriously? and I'm the prego one?) and my mom stopped talking to me b/c of the mentioned fight with my sister. NONE of them came to my 3 year old's birthday party and I cancelled my baby shower (after rescheduling it once b/c of B-I-L drama) because none of them were going to come. My mom and my sister didn't come to my wedding a couple years ago either so I KNEW they weren't coming to my shower. I have also had a few minor medical problems here and there. If that isn't a stressed pregnancy I dont know what is. And guess what? Me and my baby are doing perfectly fine! In fact, the baby has had a couple of non-stress tests and passed with flying colors. One nurse even told me that this was the happiest she'd ever seen a baby because of his heart rate responses. Don't worry. It's normal to grieve after losing a pet and you need to do that but know that puking and crying aren't going to bring him back. Go buy the book Marley and Me by John Grogan. There is an adult version and a children's version so make sure you get the adult one. This book is everything from comedy to drama to sad to pretty much any emotion possible. I laughed so hard one night I woke my husband up. It's a great book about the bond we have with our animals that I think will help you. Good luck hun!
2007-10-20 02:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by Chelsea H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We lost our 5-month-old baby last year and two things that helped me the most were
1. Prayer (constant - throughout the day)
2. Journal (record all your thoughts - the good, the bad, the ugly)
I'm so glad you have a new life inside of you to give you hope and keep you busy. Thank God every day for this gift. And in time, maybe you will find room in your heart for another little puppy. Time will tell.
Bless you.
2007-10-20 02:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun i just want to say am sorry for your loss. but to behonest. maybe it was her time. see when a baby is being born someone or a pet we love dearly passes away. i know it is hard for you. but for this baby's sake do not stress. keep your head up. and after words when you have your baby you can finally morn properly. i would think aboutthe good times and how much you loved her. she is always going to be in your heart. no matter what. that is all i can say.
2007-10-20 03:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by tommysgurl_4502214 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋