me and the father have been broking up since 2nd month of the pregnancy and i am now 5 months pregnant and now he doesnt want anything to do with the baby but his grandmother does should i just leave him alone or just continue to try
2007-10-20 01:44:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
A man can't be forced to be a good father. I would leave him alone, and be glad he walked away because your baby will be better off without such an influence in his/her life.
Very kindly and gently inform the grandmother that you are trying to cut ties with the father, and that means you won't be in touch with his family anymore. Tell her it's nothing personal but you are doing this in the interest of the child.
If you try to stay close to the grandmother, you're going to get involved with the father again eventually and that's a situation you want to avoid.
Make a clean break of it, especially if you have family and friends of your own to support you.
You might send the grandmother a picture or make a rare phone call or send an email now and then, but that's it.
Best of luck.
2007-10-22 04:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you are in this situation. It is nice to hear that his grandmother is still interested in staying in touch with the baby. Believe me, when you have a child, it is so nice to have as many people around him or her as possible. I am sorry it isn't working out between you and the father - but perhaps he will come around and be in the child's life more. However, I don't think you should try to push the issue. If you push it, and the two of you fight or have bad relations, the child will not benefit at all from this. But if the grandmother is going to stay in touch, then there is a chance that the father will be able to see the child and keep track of him/her. I say - stay as close to the grandmother as you feel comfortable and give the father time. He should be involved in his child's life - but not necessarily so close to you. Good luck!
2007-10-20 01:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I dont know what I would do if I were in your situation. Would it be hard on you to allow the grandmother in the childs life with the father not being there as well? Sounds to me like this man is not a man at all, and he just doesn't want to own up to his responsibilities. You also dont want this man in and out of your childs life, confusing your child. So if you think he will do that I would just leave him alone now. You have to think about yourself and your child in this matter and go with what will be better for the both of you in the long run. Good Luck.
2007-10-20 01:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot force a man to participate in your pregnancy or take part in your child's life once it's born. In fact, the more you pressure him, odds are the less receptive he will be. I'd back off. Keep contact with his family members that want to be involved and allow them to be a part to whatever extent you feel comfortable with. Hopefully once the baby is here and the situation is more "real" to him, he will take part.
But from the sound of it, you should be prepared to raise this child without his help. No matter what, get a child support order, your child is entitled to it regardless of whether he wants to pay or not.
Good luck.
2007-10-20 03:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by Take A Test! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, but you have to keep it movin'...hopefully, things will get better and he WILL want to be involved, but if he does not, you have to think about you and your baby...it is a good thing that his grandmother wants to be involved, but really try not to focus on him and his behavior...a child is a blessing, so think happy thoughts, and just be happy...you may not be able to do that right now, but in time, it will be easier...you just have to work towards it. He will be the loser in the long run, and unfortunately he is missing out on someting beautiful and amazing. If you pray, continue to pray, stay strong and THINK POSITIVE!!! I wish you the best.
2007-10-20 02:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by BLBHF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain here, my husband does not ask about the baby, or how I am feeling, he gets mad when I talk about getting ready for the baby, etc. And we live in the same house. He acts like he wants us to just disappear.
My advice to you is to focus on you and the baby. Rest, relax and take care of yourself. If he is a good man he will come around on his own and if not let him be.
2007-10-20 01:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 06:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that will be your decision...if you want to force him to accept the child...but if i wear you i'll just let him go...it is not your lost anyway it's his...just be strong for your baby....and make him/her love even his/her father is not around...goodluck
2007-10-20 01:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by kissertoni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋