all our friends are fighting and he's in a realy mood. I don't want to deal with him today, so I'm on Yahoo.
What should I do?
2007-10-20 01:41:44 · 14 answers · asked by Fancy That 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let him be in his mood and go about your day. We decide if we are going to let others affect our mood or not. You decide to be happy and have a great day, let him be the dink.
2007-10-20 01:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
There are some really great suggestions here. Of course his mood is his mood, but sometimes even if you don't want to, his mood can infect yours. Suggest you try talking to him first, letting him know you understand why the friends fights are influencing him because he is so close to them. It's kind of natural, in a way, that they rub off on him. However, it is not fair to your marriage that a fight from another couple poisons it. Perhaps suggest he and you go out on your own and do something fun, a nice drive in the country, a romantic dinner out, something like that to help get your minds off of the trouble.
If he wont listen to reason, then I suggest you grab someone from one of those fighting couples, and go out just the 2 of you. Do something fun and don't talk about the fights. Go see a movie, maybe a comedy, or go bowling.... do people still bowl? LOL Anything to keep another company and get your combined minds off of the fights for a little while.
Once some of you are calmer, it will be easier to deal with the issues around the fights.
You could also go for counseling together, and/or separately as well. One thing counseling can do is help you both learn to fight or argue, fair. Yep, all couples fight from time to time, but, how do you fight fair? Depends on our style of fighting.
Best of luck to you all. God bless.
2007-10-20 11:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some control here. Don't let anyone feel like fighting with you. Get some self respect, pride and dignity and threaten that this will stop!
Tell him if he wants to act like an immature child, this will definitely cause a problem in your marriage. Say that you will only stay married to a man, because only men know how to treat a woman.
So ask him, which are you going to choose? A child fighting with his wife, upsetting her and causing a problem in his marriage? Or a man that takes care of his wife with love and respect, always makes her happy and has an excellent marriage?
If he chooses to be a man, that's the only time that a man will have it all. If he chooses to be a child he is just playing himself for a fool and is obviously a failure.
2007-10-20 09:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been there before. It could be a number of reasons why men do this.t My advice to you is and i wish someone would have given to me is just let him have his space.. when u see that he's about to start an arguement..girl take a deep breathe, don't feed in to it and just go chill, doing something you like to do and free your mind of the drama. This soon shall pass only if you handle him the right way. BOTTOM LINE: DON'T FEED IN TO HIS DRAMA-he can't argue by himself. you don't have to be sassy about it when you ignore his ignorance just be classy and walk away, when he calms down than you can explain, why- if you so choose. My thing is if you know your not going to leave'em find a way that's comfortable for you to deal with'em. GOOD LUCK!
2007-10-20 12:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably dealing with some underlying issues. Point out his behavior to him. Ask him what is wrong, if he doesn't feel like sharing. Then give him his space. I agree with one of the answers on here. Others cannot effect our emotions unless we allow them to. His bad mood is his. Go do something with friends, or something you enjoying doing. and have a great day.
2007-10-20 09:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by Len 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Fighting is a two way street.
One chooses fighting or one chooses to make peace, marriages have ups and downs all the time.
You cope.. you compromise.
2007-10-20 08:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Put his bad mood to shame and tell him this is what happens when he tries to pick on the wrong person.
2007-10-20 08:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dink? That's a new one... Dink.... You dink..... dink, dink, dink.....
I like it. That is now my word of the day!
But what does your friends fighting have to do with your relationship?
2007-10-20 08:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by Spring 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Like tango, it takes two to fight. Stay calm, don't raise your voice and try to be logical. If this doesn't work with him, forget him. And talk to me. I never ever fight. Ask my wife, she'll tell you. Good luck.
2007-10-20 08:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by elgil 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have kids go vist some family members if single relax get your toes done.
2007-10-20 08:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋