Hi guys!
its great to be back! as you may or may not know i was in hospital having had a c section where my babies were born at 22 weeks gestation.
the babies are currently stable but critical condition and im fine after having my stitches out yesterday
ive got lots of questions but one in particular im torn on.
i had a huge bust up with my ex just after id had the babies. he was demanding to know which hospital i was in, because of background situation i told him he would need to meet me first then i would take him to the hospital to see the babies if we got past issues sorted, no i dont want him back before you all say... he still demanded to know where i was and started to get threatening, the last thing he said to me was i was lying and there prob was no babies and that he was gonna block me from his phone. again no great loss to me,
im unsure what to do now, do i leave him to it or do i sue his *** for every penny i can get? any advice on the whole situation would
2007-10-20 00:26:11 · 11 answers · asked by spongebobs biggest fan 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
be fantastic and thanks for listening to me!
sorry for posting twice! im slightly out of practice
2007-10-20 00:26:40 · update #1
i should add that im a defence lawyer and know the law,im just not sure if its worth letting him into my kids life for the sake of not much financial support,
2007-10-20 01:17:11 · update #2
First of all Congrats!
Well I don't know if my advice is the best, but I think you should be prudent, do not sue him yet,wait but if you see the situation is getting worse then you should take action,what I mean is, sue him or do what ever you consider correct when ever you see that your childs or you are in troubles.Sorry not being more useful ;)
2007-10-20 00:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ KaTe ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Rammie, Congrats on the birth of your little cherubs lol,
I split with my ex a year ago and i was honest about things and i demanded that she let me support my daughter each month i got paid i gave £135 per month for my girl, but you see i was co-operative with my ex and we didnt get on at all.
But if he hasnt offered then leave him to it, let him choose what he wants if there aint no support dont stop him seeing the kids as they grow older they will want to know in the ned who there no good father is, but if you let him in now they will soon figure out how much of a bad person he is, as i was told they will only hate your for protecting themin the end so the decision is yours as you say we can only advise you in our own way hun!
You take care dont stress and keep cool for the kids sake.
God bless and talk later, email me if you wanna let stress out i can help in some ways lol.
x x x x
2007-10-23 02:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly congratulations on the 3 degrees im sure they are amazing! wht i think you should do is do it all properly go see a lawyer set out rules and boundries from day 1!! then if you truly are over him then put your issues with him aside and let him see his children believe me they will want him in thier lives ! you will need money so do it all by the book honey...one bit of advice before the kids get home xx rest up sweetness xxxxxill pray for the babes to get stronger by the day
2007-10-20 04:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by Country Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on the birth of your babies sorry can't help with law without knowing where you're from - as a mother,
concentrate your effort on those kids and leave your ex 'till last!
2007-10-20 00:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by renclrk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before everything congratulations, i'm hoping your infant's would be positive. Omg what an entire jerk your ex sounds!. do no longer difficulty approximately him or something that he has to assert. sounds like he has quite a number of becoming as much as do. focus all your means on your infant's in the intervening time then, while they get the all sparkling, be sure he will pay his way. you are able to no longer stress him to be of their lives if he would not opt to be, yet while that's the case its his loss and sounds like no great loss to any of you the two. you have adequate love and help on your infant's, they do no longer choose a destructive excuse of a father messing them approximately. solid success sweetie xx
2016-10-04 05:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, I wish every thing be ok for you and your baby soon.
Well, I tell you that if getting pregnant from this man and he is father of this kid, think well about it.
Ask yourself can you continue your life with a man like him or not?
If you think you can give him another chance, I would say continue your relationship with him and if not finish it right now.
Good luck
2007-10-20 00:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel threatened, you'll 1st need an order of protection. Secondly, you'll need to petition the court for child support. Be prepared for him to sue for visitation rights (They're his children too). God bless & good luck!!
2007-10-20 00:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by M. Rod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to pay for the kids,but speak to a lawyer 1st before allowing him to see them
good luck
2007-10-20 01:12:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is good that you are fine and your babies are doing okay. I believe you and I believe you should give your ex a good lesson about how hard it is to have children
2007-10-20 00:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by Dreaming♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must pay maintenance, but don't keep the children from him after all a child needs two parents.!!!
No need for the children to suffer because you two cannot get along.!!!
Good Luck.!!!
2007-10-20 00:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by JAM123 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋