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What can I do to get over my self esteem issues and be more confidant in myself. It just seems like I always doubt myself or feel inferior to others.

2007-10-19 22:55:26 · 5 answers · asked by Mothra 1 in Social Science Psychology

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Make a list of your more positive qualities on one side of a piece of paper. Ask friends and family for input. Make a list of your not-so-glowing qualities on the other side.
Now, choose one thing from each list each day to work on just for that day. Make every effort to exercise and improve your positive quality and make the same effort to avoid that thing that you don't admire about yourself.
You will soon begin to see improvement in yourself and NOTHING does more for the self-image and self-confidence than making progress in a positive direction.

2007-10-19 23:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by Puzzler 5 · 0 0

its not going to happen over night. As for confidence when out, it sounds stupid but ACT confident. Think of someone who you know is confident, think about how they walk stand and pretend thats how you feel. soon you will just do it without trying. Self esteem, i want you to write down all the things you like about yourself, keep it and read it back to yourself each day. You are not inferior to others you are great, you just need to start realising it. I know there are people that you have come across that will have been jelous of something about you, remember that.

2007-10-19 23:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by mudfish 6 · 0 0

True Self-ishness always leads to joy, because it
is motivated always by the desire to feel as good
as possible. It is only when we are Self-ish
enough to be, do and act in accordance with our
desires (not someone else’s) that it is possible
to stay balanced. Energetically speaking, a desire
is a rush of life force energy, a connection to
the divine inner self, which can never result in
actions that are harmful. It is only when true
desires are blocked that they become twisted and
ugly. This statement goes against the common
wisdom that human nature is greedy, violent and
primitive. Human nature is precisely the opposite:
we are born knowing ourselves as powerful,
eternal, spiritual beings. Petty, competitive,
churlish and violent behavior must be overcome
with suitable practice. Observe your family,
friends and coworkers. Almost all of them are good
people, trying to do the best they can. It would
simply not be possible to build a sophisticated
society if human nature was so base. All
successful societies are based upon cooperation,
not competition. Competition works not because it
is adversarial, but because it inspires teamwork.
Ask two angry guys to get something constructive
done, it is not going to happen. All success is
based upon cooperation. That is because we live in
an attraction based universe.

These natural impulses are supposed to be
dangerous because they stem from a primitive
survival instinct. But human being has a better
mind than animals. Just look around at the mess
the world is in! But that is a delusional
assertion, a denial of the basic nature of
consciousness itself. The natural impulses of
human nature stem from a connection to life force,
and it is resistance to this divine impulse which
causes the selfish behavior people object to.

If you observe people you will quickly see that
those persons who are most alive are full of
desire, and those who look lifeless have little or
no desire. Desire = life force. Shut off desire =
selfish behavior. It's ironic that selfish
behavior actually results from self-denial.

Human nature is not a primitive, biological
instinct based on survival of the fittest, it’s a
pure connection to source energy. It is divine.
It's only when that connection is closed off that
selfish behavior is demonstrated. Every one of
your desires is, in its non-resisted state, joyful
and balanced, because that is an inherent property
of consciousness itself. True selfishness is
allowance of desire, without resistance, and
results in the impulse to give freely to others.
But it is first necessary to allow that impulse
within yourself.

http://kjmaclean.com/Selfishness.html

2007-10-20 01:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by d_r_siva 7 · 0 0

howdy, females would be scared in case you attitude them like that xD there is not a lot incorrect with you dude. I mean, i ought to lie and say you appear to be Orlando Bloom's stunt double... yet how might that ever help? in case you experience down approximately your weight then confide interior the actuality which you would be able to attend to that. How approximately you make sure an exercising programme? or you ought to bypass out working at night (i hate going out during the day). different than for that I see not something incorrect with you, you do not have any spots. yet you ought to bathe your hair! i don't see you as a "fat pathetic grotesque loser" and that's no recommendations-set so which you could have. each and every difficulty grants hazard.

2016-11-09 00:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Never put yourself down.You have the same rights as any other human being.You must never doubt yourself because you are you and nobody can take that away from you.Once you have found self esteem you will find respect for yourself and others will respect you for it.Go and try it and you will see how confident you will become.

2007-10-20 01:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by seafrontane 4 · 1 0

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