i live with my gran and she treats me like i am 7
e.g. i wanna go to the asda store down our road then shell get someone to take me.
why the hell ????
2007-10-19 21:09:30 · 26 answers · asked by darth_ashmore 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Sorry but 13 years old is a little kid. It is not safe for you to walk down the streets by yourself. There are sick people out there just waiting to see a kid like you alone on side of the road.
2007-10-19 23:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Respect the older members of your family.
You are still a child and have a lot of learning and growing to do. By asking this question it shows that you are not yet ready for the responsibility you crave. Learn from and show respect to your elders and then they will consider that you are mature enough to handle a solo shopping trip. Your age is nothing but a number. Your mental ability is what counts. You appear to have a lot more learning to do. You are at a difficult time in your young life and it is a time that should be spent learnig about life rather than worrying about being allowed to go shopping on your own. The faster you learn then the sooner the solo shopping trip comes.
Remember, Old people did not get to be old by being irresponsible - they got old by learning.
Anyway - do not take this as criticism, just take it as advice.
2007-10-20 04:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh hun its because shes worried about you. She loves and cares for you so much and unfortunately wants to keep you wrapped up in cotton wool!!!! its a parent/guardian thing.
You see our siblings are the most precious, valuable thing we can ever have and society today is quite an evil place !!
Sit down with her and have a chat, just say that you know shes worried about you and your glad shes like that but can you have a little bit of Independence and that you will be sensible and let her know where you're going and what time you will be home.....and don't be late !!!! unless you let her know. Also let her meet some of your friends, so she can see that you will be ok doing stuff without an adult.
Good Luck and have a great birthday xX
P.S One day when you have children you will have the same feelings, and look back and say I can see now why I wasnt allowed to do something Xx
2007-10-20 04:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by LITTLE NUGGET 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is worried about you. Older people see things and worry about them. Younger people tend not to have such a pronounced fear of things, and tend not to worry about things as much.
If you want to be teated like an adult then you have to act like one and sit down with your gran and explain the situation in a calm manner. Make her think back to when she was 13 and ask what she was doing at 13. Hopefully she will realise that you are growing up and start to give you some space. Good luck. Remember that she loves and cares for you that is why she does these things.
2007-10-20 04:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Start with trips out but not to shops. When you as a 13 year old enter a store alone you are immediately looked on with suspicion as you are in their eyes a potential thief. Next time you go with mum or gran have a look around on your own and meet them at the check out. This will help them to be comfortable with you in the shop but not with them.
2007-10-20 04:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by ANF 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She sees you as her priority - though you are nearly a teenager it is only natural for her to see you as not growing up as quickly as you may feel you are.
Perhaps you could do something for her that she would appreciate, what I mean by that is something that she may ask from time to time, but this time simply show her you can be responsible and do things without being asked.....that may encourage her to allow you to do that one thing you want - to go to Asda on your own.
Or you could talk to her about your feelings - explain that you want to show her that you can be responsible and sensible when you are on your own......but don't abuse any trust given to you!!
2007-10-20 12:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by Leu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a parent and have 2 children 11 ad 13, and i have only just let them go to the local shops ,bu not on own, its just society and u hear all bad things happening. a lady who i work with her 14 year old on thursday night got attacked and is in intensive care at the moment and its touch and go, as some idiots stamped on his head (these are 20 years olds) this lad is so quite an attacked him for no reason.
2007-10-20 06:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by HELEND 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop whinging and try to prove to her that you are mature and responsible enough to go to the shop on your own. Alternatively, talk to her and find out why she is not prepared to let you go on your own- maybe just maybe, she loves you and would hate to be responsible for anything bad happening to you. Or maybe, you behave like a 7 year old......... and nearly 13 isn't grown up.
2007-10-22 06:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by rami #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes only try and protect you as you dont live with your mum and dad she wants the best of you and your 13 thats still a little bit young to be going places on your own mabe with a responsibe best friend but not on your own.
this is a very dangerous world and you need to reliase that
andything can happen when just walking next door
take my advise and relise she loves you to the extend that she dont want you hurt
2007-10-20 04:17:49 · answer #9 · answered by x~just me~x 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im 18 and im still not allowed to go out without an "adult".
to ur parents and grand ma ur always going to be a kid even if ur 30. it is annoying most of the time, but i think u should just get used to it. im trying.
2007-10-20 05:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by junkie-D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋