It's appropriate for young people to live together before they get married?

Question

do you agree or disagree
why
thanks a lot

Answer 1

My grandfather is a very old school dude and he told me its a sin but I d0n't give a crap. I'm 19 and my fiance is 28 but yeah Im not sure.

Answer 2

It is perfectly fine to live together. i think that it's important to live together for a while before you get married so you are not jumping into something you may not be ok with after a year. It's being realistic. 2 generations ago, people got married, then moved in, then had kids, and stuck it out even f it sucked. But now, people divorce, are single parents, etc etc.

Don't you want to be sure he's the one before you marry him? And not have annoying habits that you will complain about the rest of your life?

Answer 3

Appropriate to what?

There are pluses and minuses. I think living with housemates is plenty of "practice" at sharing space, and even unforeseen power struggles after moving in are far easier to cope with when married than before. The motivation is higher, the priorities are different; there isn't a fear of losing what's "mine" anymore once you're married. More often than not I think living together is a great way to destroy a relationship.

But that is based on my own experience -- living with 2 different fiances throughout my 20s. I know there are people who live together very well for a long time and end up marrying, who swear by the practice. I guess it depends on the turf & control issues each partner brings to the scene.

Answer 4

It is not appropriate for young people to live together before marriage because pre-marital sex before marriage is a grave sin against God. Young girls should not give their very precious womanhood which is the only thing that you could hold on so that men should be crazy following and having you as a wife before the eyes of God. Don't give yourself without any security at all.

Answer 5

I definitely think it is appropriate to live together before you get married. It is a good idea to see what they are like to live together before you get married as they may be too lazy etc for you to live with forever. The times have changed where it is wrong to live together, so i say go for it. I am living with my boyfriend (we live with 2 other friends) and we only knew each other for 6 months before we moved in, but I know we will be together forever. i think that it is fine if you are over 18, howevre in some circumstances it might be fine for a young person to live together. I say go for it if you want to. If it feels right dont wait.

Answer 6

Through much of its history marriage has been arranged between families more for material reasons than love . Now people choose their partner themselves and marry for love . This kind of marriage is much closer and more intimate than were arranged marriages . Living together isn't the same as being married , in that each , party can please themselves , come and go at will . When you have lived together with a person , you have a good idea as to whether you can get along with them on a day to day basis .
You know where you stand , when you make a commitment to marry and to a certain extent compromise your lives to please your husband or wife .

Answer 7

It is not only in-appropriate, it is a statistical FACT that when couples live together without the responsibility of a marriage commitment prior to getting married, they are more likely to have a failed marriage

Answer 8

We had made all the arrangements for our wedding and we bought a house 6 months before we got married and we lived in it. So you can say we lived together before we were married.

Answer 9

Statistically speaking, it used to be that couples who lived together first had a higher divorce rate, but if we look at current statistics from the last 10 to 20 years, we'll find that the divorce rate for couples who have lived together and those who have not is equal. Meaning that the chances of divorce do not increase nor decrease if a couple lives together before marriage.

Now, if we want to look at another issue. That is that often couples who live together get married to 'fix' problems. They think that marriage has some magical way of fixing problems and get married in order to make things better for themselves. This may lead to eventual divorce.

Other issues that occur happen when a couple decides to get married in order to have legitimate children. This couple who was fine before children, find that the stress of children decrease the quality of their relationship. This occurs with many couples who were married before living together too. The fact of the matter is that children, to no fault of their own, can destroy relationships.

Other times couples who live together think that marriage will somehow change their roles. Sometimes couples who live together do not pool their money and start to do so after marriage finding themselves in arguments over finances. Other times a man may think that his live-in girlfriend will start to do the majority of housework after aquiring the title wife. This will add to stress. Studies have shown that men in common law relationships do tend to do more housework than their married counterparts.

It is important for couples who live together first to talk about expectations of marriage and how they think their relationship will change or how they think it will stay the same. Personally, my partner and I live together and we believe that nothing will change. In all practical ways we are married. Psychologically and emotionally we are committed and nothing about our style of living is going to change anymore because we threw a party.

Answer 10

I think it is. My husband and I, at the time just boyfriend & girlfriend, did right out of high school. We were together for 3 years then in 05 when I graud. we moved into an apartment together. If you are positive you wont break a lease or anything I would say go for it. It was the best time in my life to live with someone I loved! You really get to know someone better that way and find out if you want that person in your life forever.

Answer 11

I am one of the dreaded "Baby Boomers" and I have mixed feelings. Sometimes a relationship lasts longer than most marriages do. (Goldie and Kurk, Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins). Why I do not know, but find it a little sad when couples who have cohabitated for years decide to tie the knot and that knot unravels after a few years. LIving together gives you the chance to know that person and there is no pretense between you. So, I'm divided. Some couples last longer unmarried, yet many others find the stability of the piece of paper necessary.

Don't you just hate it when you have given a honest, heartfelt answer and some creep comes along and gives thumbs down to everyone. Doen't take a lot to do that, but it takes more to read and digest every word. Makes me very angry!