i had been carrying this for three months now...im straight with two sons ages 8 and 10,, its just happened while were having fun drinking after sports activities..after that i found myself with this 32 yrs old guy also married with two kids having sex..im 35 and i enjoy the encounter until we make it a date every week to have sex after few bottles of beer..my sex life with my wife had improved very well from preveous but i feel guilty though my mind could not avoid this guy even i try to forget him..i dont know where will it go if my wife finds out. any married guys out there have thesame problem..please share your ideas on how to coup up this matter. i know im now a bi as i enjoy sex for both sexes. please give me your thoughts..
2007-10-19 19:56:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
if you ask my 16 y/o old boy mind...i would say..just keep it to your self. yea you cheat your wife, but who else don't. i personally believed that every husband may 99% cheated there wifes to another woman. your is quit unique since you cheated your wife with another man..but who care, these people who condemn you because you have cheated your wife are bunch of hypocrites. does they tell their wifes that they cheated on them? i think its best to keep it your self and keep your family intact if thats what you like. but telling your wife hhmmmn!! i dont think your wife will not freakout and leave you or put you to jail or drag you to court then everybody will know who you are! your neighbors, your parents, brothers and sisters..etc...that will freak you out and will cause you pain and embarasment and will be labeled as gay...gay...gay...come on dude..is that what you want with your life. i think just keep your relationship with this man top secret..just like the CIA way of keeping secret, make sure your wife will not find out and live a life that you wanted to. if oyuor happy with what you are now the go for it but always love your family..second only is your love affair with this man. since he is also marreid then you are in thesame sutiation..maybe you can plan together whats your next move so that your wives will not found out. to the other here that condemn you i tell you there are but hipocrites. if this will happen to my dad i wil understand it, i may feel bad that my dad is gay, but it will pass by. i dont know dude what else to say..but live your life the way you want it to be not what others will say to you..good luck, alsopray to god that he will give you peace of mind
2007-10-19 21:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
HOnesty is the best policy, especially in a relationship. What I think you need to do is think about where you want to go next. Dragging this problem further by keeping it from your wife is only gonna hurt her more. Now that you know you are bisexual, do you want to continue with your wife or the man you just met? I know it is excited to try something new but the problem is, you have commited yourself to a relationship unfortunately and therefore you do not really have the luxury to "try things out" without being accountable to your wife. I wish you luck.
2007-10-20 14:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter if its was a chap or a lady, you cheated on your wife & hopefully that is where your guilt comes from.
Do you love your wife or this bloke more? If you love your wife, dont go near this bloke again but DONT tell your wife either. if you think honesty in this instance is the best policy, then you are mistaken.
If you love this bloke more then you should split up with your wife. its not fair to carry on with this charade behind her back.
Wake up to yourself. Youy are a disgrace.
2007-10-21 19:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts are that you should do your wife a HUGE favor and divorce her. She's innocent and you are untrue to your marriage vows and may possibly bring home a disease.
Why is everyone so selfish about their own pleasures that they can't even think about their children and the devastation that can be brought on to them.
2007-10-20 06:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by 13th Floor 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Either sex you are still cheating! If you are both married and keep it between each other than there is no chance of disease....so what the hell!
2007-10-20 09:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get out of denial, man. You are gay. the best thing to do is tell your wife and get a divorce. Just be who you are and just be gay. You cannot hide from it. You were born gay and you will always be gay and there is nothing wrong with being gay. It is who you are. YOU ARE GAY. BE PROUD. I wished you had realized it before you got married.
2007-10-20 15:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by thebrowncowcool 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be safe, be careful and be discreet, very discreet. You don't want to bring home any disease that your wife might get. I think telling her would be devastating to her and your family.
2007-10-20 08:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of making him wrong if some one who faced the situation and solved it plese suggest.
2007-10-20 03:12:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you tell me i think you should go ahead and tell your wife i no it will be hard but she has a right to no
2007-10-20 12:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by antoine r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have sex with another man = gay, not straight, first of all. And second of all, what do you expect complete strangers will tell you at this point...huh?
2007-10-20 03:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by NotTheStatusQuo 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋