I am 18 and never had a girlfriend, not even my first kiss, or been on a date. I just graduated highschool and no girl ever found me attractive in all my years.I am in college now and still no girls find me attractive. I am a nice, kind, caring guy. I am built/athletic got really nice abs. I am pretty good looking. I love pretty much all sports. I am smart always had good grades. I like to have fun doing just about anything. The only thing I can think of is that I am really shy, but for no girl ever be attracted to me ever just because I am shy, so that cant be it. I just dont get why girls dont find me attractive what so ever, I cant understand what is so wrong with me,please help what is wrong with me??????????????????
I am in college and never even been close to a girl ever, I have also had very few friends that were girls, I dont know why but I must just not be cool enough or something I dont know I am just sick of it
2007-10-19 19:51:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girls don't find you attractive because you think you are unattractive. They can smell that a mile away and they steer clear of it. It is time for a major attitude adjustment, maybe some new clothes, help with the hair, and you really have to get over the shy thing. You have to. Girls often mistake shyness for disinterest. Just talk to people, girls, guys, just be attentive and social in some non dating situations and you will learn how to talk to girls. You have to put yourself out there and don't be so self concious. Be confident, show confidence, and girls will be drawn to you. And if you still feel unattractive, you should really consider therapy.
2007-10-19 20:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok. First take a chill pill. I was almost in tears. And I'm sad enough. So stop it.
Being really shy have possibly gotten you some missed opportunities. Meaning there were probably at lot of girls attracted to you. But to them you possibly didn't look interested in them. I felt the same way in high school about boys. but then again I was always so playful that noone took me serious.
And few questions for you to think about. How is your approach with girls? You've got to get in the middle . Not too strong and not too silent. May be watching the movie HITCH
will help you out. I absolutely love this movie. It is a little fairytale-ish.
Why are you so shy? What are you afraid of. A little rejection. That is life my boy. The more rejection you the more experience you get with how to approach a lady.
my guess is you are always looking for that special girl.
Are you also wondering if this or that girl likes. with all your wondering you are missing opps. so take a chill pill. And please watch Hitch.
2007-10-19 20:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A nice point for sure but who is to say what unattractive really is? A lot of those who are considered by the "mainstream" society to be physically attractive are really ugly underneath and once those "attractive" people open their mouth to speak and this hateful, hurtful, mean, ugly, conceited speech seeps out. Physical attractiveness is also fleeting with time so those who are only "window-dressing" or "arm-candy" will end up being old and wrinkled just like everyone else, even if they have plastic surgery, it still cannot stop the rages of time.
2016-03-13 09:42:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why Am I So Unattractive
2016-11-15 01:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no. You are mysterious instead. Pretend that you don't care what they think. Unless there's a girl that you think is cute. In which case, you need to ask her if she has a couple of minutes because you need to find out something? Then ask her if you should buy a suede coat or a leather jacket? You've been thinking about this... you say. Ask her if it's possible for her to help you go pick one out next Saturday?
2007-10-19 20:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by Chiksita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself...YOU'RE SHY!! that's why!!! go out there and talk to girls! Girls don't like to make the first move...they want guys to come up to them and start talking...if you're intimidated, start on the average looking girls. Start talking to everyone to overcome your shyness...You only live once! make the best of it! Don't worry, I used to be shy too but over came it...I consider myself average or OK looking, and have only been with 3 girls...The first was in high school, and the only reason was because SHE came up to me FIRST! I guess I was just lucky that time or something...the other 2 times I was in college and decided to make a change for myself - I started talking to them and made the first moves...you'll be amazed...also, get a book called "the art of seduction" it will help
2007-10-19 20:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by mma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think shyness has a great role in you not getting a girlfriend, most decent women don't really care about the outer beauty, it's the inner lining that will attract them to you, smile more often, and say high to all the girls you meet on campus, feel good about yourself, just force yourself to engage in a healthy conversation, and before you know it you will be in bed with them.
2007-10-19 20:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear friend, you are undoubtely handsome guy, bear that in mind. You are a rising "STAR". God has created each one of us unique in his image and crafted us and gifted with the best qualities, one deserves. I am sure you will have the best girls lined up - beleive me before your next B'Day. It is only a matter of right time, and when God decides.
For the moment, try to concentrate on studies and sports which is very important. Very soon you will See the results - your muscles will pull the crowd around you. Try singlets where ever you have the opportunity to flex your muscles in college campus or crowd - shopping / travelling. Smile in every situation . I am sure - will attract, catch the dream girl by the hook. Will you advise when you hook one? All the best.
2007-10-19 21:47:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Have you noticed any ugly guys getting dates. Yup they are doing it all the time. Why? Attitude.
Collage is a big undertaking and is best if you stick to your studies and learn what it will take to get rich,
Well it worked for Gates.
OK, seriously, You are the one to choose who your friends are. By not choosing you have said without words that the people you are around are not worth your time or your efforts.
Being shy is another way of being passive aggressive. If you want to be noticed, Do Something About it.
I suggest that anyone who has low self esteem find somewhere to volunteer their time. It picks up the inner feelings of worth. As you show yourself responsible and worthy of trust you will be rubbing shoulders with people that are quality, giving and worthy of your time.
Look around, The quality lady that you are looking for is out there volunteering and giving of her time to help others. She does not have time for games. You will know her when you see her. Then just lend her a hand and let nature take its coarse.
Good luck
2007-10-19 20:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by noyoungun 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your confidence will carry you. Think more of yourself. Gotta have charisma. You got the body and all that, just put yourself out there, be the aggressor. You'll be alright. You could also just focus on you. Maybe you trying too hard. When I met my wife I was in a simalar situation. I stopped dating and focused on me. Then she just came. Maybe it isn't your time. Be patient. Get that degree. Get those dollars. Then she'll come. Trust me
2007-10-23 19:22:59 · answer #10 · answered by Christopher R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋