He let him come in our house & sit on the couch while we were upstairs getting dressed. He also invited him to go with him to a football game tonight.
My concern is that my husband is being too nice, he has no type of guard up. I think that maybe we should get to know him a little better before we invite him in our house & all that. He could be someone who is scoping out the situation to possibly rob us or even a rapist, who knows.
My husband is always making new friends. I think he is too nice all the time, always giving others the benefit of the doubt before he get's stabbed in the back or something like that.
How should I go about confronting him with my concerns about having a stranger in our home. We have 2 young boys & my 2 nieces live with us as well. We are a young family @ 27 years old, but I still think we have a responsibility as parents & family to make sure our home is as safe as possible. I don't think that inviting strangers in is doing so!
Am I over-reacting?
2007-10-19 19:17:52 · 14 answers · asked by Ballagirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you're not over-reacting. You have every right to want to keep your family safe. Just tell your husband of your concerns.
2007-10-19 19:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by Kiki 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I'm going to tell you a story that is true it happened about 15 years ago in my home town. A couple like you hadn't been married to long and her husband made friends like your husband.One night the husband came home from a bar with a friend he had just met two day prier they came in woke the wife up and started to drink. It got late so they said he could spend the night. The next day his wife's mother was concerned and came to their apartment because her daughter didn't go to work the front door was unlock leading up to their apartment. They found the husband dead on the steps leading up to the apartment and found the wife in her bed she had been raped and stabbed to death. The guy the husband let spend the night killed them both. Tell your husband bad things do happen to people that are to friendly.
2007-10-19 19:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No , you are not over reacting at all. Do have a talk with your hubby and explain to him what you wrote here. On this times, one can't be too nice with strangers. He just might be a good kid and all, but before he wants to help some stranger he should have all the trust in him or her. Know everything there is to know about that person before you bring him in your house. I agree with you 100% You tell ur hubby it is a bad idea and you are not comfortable. Your husband is just a good man who likes to help others, but you don't know who is who and just say NOOOOOO!!
2007-10-19 19:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by Esther 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your overreacting on some aspects. warning is definetly solid, like I wouldnt enable somebody I relatively knew into my homestead the two. however the new child is 12, hes unlikely to kidnap absolutely everyone and particular as could be isn't a rapist. thats the place youre getting too paranoid. Your husband is in all probability in simple terms attempting to help the new child transition into the community, exchange at that age is complicated. yet at 12, hes unlikely to be making plans a theft, rape or kidnapping. suitable desires!
2016-10-04 05:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..dear....you are 100% correct....and I appreciate your concern for the safety of you and your family.., and its your duty / responsibility to object / rise your voice against your husband s attitude towards his habits.
2007-10-19 19:39:32 · answer #5 · answered by 2bros 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok to screen a bit, but I also think you are over-reacting. You and hubby are not that much older than the 20-year-old.
I also think it's wonderful that your husband gives people the benefit of the doubt....too many people are so afraid to trust these days. I think you should be happy that your husband is not a hermit or an anti-social freakazoid.
2007-10-19 19:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by equal_opposites 5 · 3⤊ 4⤋
The "mark" of a mature man is one who will listen to what his wife has to say. Express yourself to him, with the same concern you are showing in your post. He'll listen.
2007-10-19 19:31:18 · answer #7 · answered by 9iron 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are not over reacting. Tell your husband to stop picking up strays because someday, he will pick up the wrong one.
2007-10-19 19:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes and no who knows your husband might be taken by him by being a man and then it could be bad case lke you said
2007-10-19 19:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by dessika2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are correct in your thinking.
Show your husband this post.
2007-10-19 19:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by Fancy You 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋