He told me that it started off with him just wanting a finger in his butt when he was younger, and eventually he ended up talking to transexuals. He has never had sex with one, but says that once he had one perform oral sex on him. However, he says HE DOES NOT WANT A MAN! He says he only likes booty play, and he says he does not want to perform oral on a transexual. He told me that if I used a strap on with him that he would not talk to them at all. Im wondering, if all he wanted was for me to use a strap on, then why is he talking to transexuals, unless he does want a REAL dick? In that case, would it make him gay?
2007-10-19 18:37:06 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It would be very unlikely that he's talking to 'transexuals'(sic) on a dating or porn website; transsexual people don't frequent them.
It's far more likely that he's talking to transvestites, or transgender fetishists; men who like to pretend they're women for sexual purposes, and who claim to be transsexual because it's perceived as slightly more socially acceptable.
He may simply enjoy anal sex; that doesn't necessarily make him gay.
Many straight men find anal stimulation very pleasurable, but don't want the 'stigma' of being considered gay; so they get their pleasure from men who LOOK like, or pretend to be, women.
Talk to him; see if you can't reach an arrangement where you can incorporate some form of anal sex play in your lovelife. Who knows, you might BOTH enjoy it....
2007-10-20 03:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, cool down, try to have an unemotional conversation with him about it. Ask him if it is just the physical sensation from the booty play he likes, or if he is attracted to men. If it's just physical, it is not uncommon. They like it because the prostate is up there, and it is a sexual organ. My bf actually got a dildo for me to use on him, and he loved it. It doesn't mean he's gay, it means he is a man who recognizes that his penis is not his only sex organ. Gay means he is attracted sexually to men, not that he likes his butt played with. If he wants a woman to do it, he's NOT gay. A lot of men freak over this because it threatens what they perceive as their masculinity, but it doesn't make them gay. Talk to him. Don't be emotional about it, so he can be comfortable talking honestly to you. If you freak out, he won't want to be honest with you.
2007-10-19 18:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
conversation will make your thought upon him more clear. ask and talk to him nicely about that matter,but not too rush and not too depress on him.do know most of the men who had learnt at boarding school, live in hostel, at college and uni was perform same sex. at prison, man perform sex on other man, and at instituitional that have only accept male as their part of organizational (schools, uni, and college).maybe your man fantasize about women when making oral sex. i had read from many books about man behaviour, how their can control their sex fantasies, and how their life going on. usually when a man cant control their sex needs, he tend to masturbate, perform same sex, and other forms of sex that could satisfy him. you must open your ming, read a lot of books, and make some research before point your finger into your man. good luck.
2007-10-19 18:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by sweetylemonmas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a gay friend so i got him to read this and give his advise and the verdict is in............HE IS GAY OR BISEXUAL
100% VOTES GAY...all jokes aside all my gay friends says yes and he ll sooner or later be all gay just a matter of time its just not the strap on thats a turn on,
2007-10-19 18:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by kitty jorden 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well,sweetie I'd have to say that yes ur boyfriend is gay...
Heres somthing!
Tell your boyfriend that male-2-male sex is just like takeing a dump but its going up instead(which is how I think of it)
I think he is making a decision whether to to have anal sex ,or he wants to know what it feels like to be a girl...
and thats all I can say sweetie =]
2007-10-19 18:46:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that he is the only one who knows whether he is gay or not, I would not judge too quickly on him. people are weird and different, maybe he's telling the truth. or maybe he's afraid to come out of the closet? but maybe he's bi? I would listen to him and not what other people judge about him.
2007-10-19 18:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by blndecowgrl34 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say...at the least I would think there is something that he finds interesting or maybe even fantasized about. Rather or not he would act on these urges is another thing.
2007-10-19 18:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't necessarily mean that he is gay...but he could be bi-curious. By talking to transsexuals he may just want to know what he might be missing out on. You do need to ask him this though...If he doesn't want a man than why did he let a man perform oral sex on him. Please be safe!!!
2007-10-19 18:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by raebsoto 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Okay well if he ain't gay then he's really confused. I've been asked to do that before. I turned around and walked away.
2007-10-19 18:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by love4fun4life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well in my opinion from what you are telling us. he is not homosexual. he is just bi curious. the fact that they are transexuals should help you understand that they were women but are now men.. so in other words to him it is not being homosexual.. if you are comfortable with it.. try the strap on it may excite you also.
2007-10-19 18:41:31 · answer #10 · answered by SecretSquirrel 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋