I've heard both sides of the story. Some say "It's great! I wouldn't trade it with anything in the world." In the other hand, I've also heard from others that it's bad and that I should never do it.
2007-10-19 18:26:39 · 21 answers · asked by Mr. Main Event 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is 100% what you make of it. If you love it and work at it, it will be great. If you ignore it and put off time with your family it will suck. Remember, love is a VERB, an action word. Lust and "in love" come and they go and they come back. Love is what you do.
Just for the record: I married a man with 3 little girls 14 1/2 years ago. We have a 13 year old. 4 girls! I love it. I love them. I love him. Most days I like all of them too, but not every day. But I do LOVE them EVERYDAY!!!
2007-10-19 18:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by tambos67camaro 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not in itself a total guarantee of happiness....just like having a lot of money is not....but it does add to your having a happy, fulfilled life if you do it for the right reasons, with the right person. The reason you get different answers is that some have not used wisdom in choosing a life partner....and it has gone sour on them.
I taught my children ahead of time about looking for a life partner. There are rules that make that more successful....and many just ignore them.
First find someone who has the same faith as your own.
Find someone you know you can't live without for the rest of your life....that there is no one else who could take their place.
If that is not the case, don't marry them.
Find someone you want to be the mother (or father) of your children.
Notice their own parents, because it is a pretty sure thing the woman will be in some ways like her mother, and the guy will have charactaristics of his Father. Can you live with that?
Also consider families, because they will be in your lives and influence your children.
Do you want to be with this person, and when you are away miss them, and only want to be back with them?
Are you willing to consider that person's well being over your own?...You both have to give 100%/100o%...not 50/50.
If you do it right....marry the person right for you....raise your children together, teach them values and standards and to love each other...it is the greatest thing...that will grow all your life, and your children will be there for you later in life.
If you marry the wrong person, it can be the worst thing you ever did.
There are two crucial decisions in your life that matter more than anything else. One is paying attention to what God says about where you will spend eternity after you die. The other is
who you marry. It will affect the whole rest of your life.
My advice. Stay single until you find that person to be a partner for life. (I am talking from experience...raise five children and have been married for 49 years and am truly blessed).
I told my kids to make a list of what you are looking for and as you date....check the list for what really matters.
2007-10-20 01:40:59 · answer #2 · answered by samantha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are pluses and minuses to each side. I am married (2nd) I was single for a very long time before I decided to get married again(13 years) My husband is loving and caring and I know that I have someone that will take care of me when I get old or sick and that will not cheat on me. He loves me for me. On the other hand he can be mean/says mean things) and I don't like it. I also don't like having someone telling me what to do. I sometimes wish I could be free and do what I want when I want. That said however I look forward to having a life together (we have been married for 5 years now) I mean the future. We are building a life, there is commitment, and trust. I like these. There is no fear.
It really is about what you are ready for. No one is perfect and if you want to get married my advice is to find someone that has the same marital goals as you. Someone who is will ing to be as commited as you are. You will have arguments maybe even big blow ups but if you treat each other fairly, and have respect for each other and what each other needs and wants then marriage is worthwhile. It is what makes a family. I like family. My husband is now my family, yes I have a mother, father, brothers, and sisters and even children, but, this person that I married is my family now. I didn't have that when I was single. I had my children but not an equal. So yes do it when you are ready, not just to anyone but to someone who is your equal, accepts you for who you are, wants the best for you, and when you are ready to do the same.
2007-10-20 01:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by bssd12000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how happy you are with yourself and how happy this person is with themselves and if the two of you have a lot in common and are compatible! Only you can answer this question! Try imaging what the future would be like with this person-5,10,15 years down the road. Would they be a good parent? Would they be a partner and support your efforts and vice-versa? I have been married-I married young and it was a wrong decision for me-but only because I didn't know my true self then. Would I do it again? YES-but only if I knew for sure that this person and I would be able to stand one another long enough to get to the death do you part of old age!
2007-10-20 01:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about focusing on every word. The correct answer is
YES
It's ONE of the happiest things a person can do.
It's NOT..... THE happiest thing a person can do.
Different people will prefer different forms of happiness. For many men (and women alike), remaining single is the best form of happiness. But others like a big family.
I like being married, with kids. But for me just MAKING LOVE to my wife is when I'm at my happiest.
2007-10-20 01:32:12 · answer #5 · answered by gabound75 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The institution of marriage is truly one of the most sacred things in life. It also takes the most work. It is difficult, and there will be challenges in the marriage. But anything that is worth it takes work. If it doesn't take work, it's not a real marriage, and isn't worth having. I wouldn't trade my marriage or husband for anyone or anything. God designed marriage to be the most fulfilling companionship. I intend to do whatever it takes to make mine last a lifetime.
Besides, getting divorced is one of the most painful and regretful hurts that could ever exist.
2007-10-20 01:32:17 · answer #6 · answered by notarycat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is when you are ready i think!
I am not married but have a daughter, and i am happy like that! Of course i got pregnant at 17, but that was my choice and i have no regrets about that! i do love her, and it is so fun to have a kid, they will make you laugh when you are sad, they are so funny! But they will make you mad and you will want to run away sometimes (depends on the kid) but at the end of the day, it is all worth it! especially when they come to see you for a hug and tell you that they love you!
But like someone said before, it is not for everybody, it depends on the person!
My 'lil angel is now 4, so it is really challenging with her yelling and everything but i love her sooo much!
2007-10-20 10:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, it was the best thing to ever happen to me. For you, well, that's up to you. I've known plenty of people that didn't want kids and stuff and they're happy with their choices. Me, I always wanted to have a family...if I never do anything else with my life, I'll be perfectly happy having raised my children the way I think is fit.
2007-10-20 01:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cinderella and Cinderfella thought so.
EDITED:
I thought my answer was self explanatory.......NO! apparently when someone here is a troll they thumbs down the obvious answer.
The question called for an OPINION not a FACT! If my sense of humor along with my answer is offensive, then no doubt that person should NOT marry.
2007-10-20 01:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by LucySD 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the person. Personally Id be happier starting a band and going on tour, to each his own.
2007-10-20 01:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋