2007-10-19 18:26:15 · 23 answers · asked by Fancy You 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why not just enjoy life now the way it is?!!
2007-10-19 18:31:40 · update #1
Royrox- No I don't wish I was single at all. I love being married but I think the key was that I waited until I was ready to settle down and only when I found Mr. Right.
2007-10-20 11:25:46 · update #2
I'm torn between YahooGuru2u and yaken... Both great answers!
2007-10-22 17:30:49 · update #3
That my friend is human nature. Just think how much hair dye is sold every day. Somewhere someone is dying their hair so it will be your natural color, meanwhile you are dying yours to be their natural color. Women with curly hair buy hair straightener, meanwhile those with straight hair have it curled. Working stiffs dream of retirement, while the retired wish they were back at work. Part of the problem MUST be the media infested society in which we live. Every day we are bombarded by thousands of messages that tell us we should want what we don't have and we should be different than we are. I think a lot of married folks blame their partner when their lives don't turn out to be the fantasy they had hoped for. "It must be the other person's fault right? It's NOT me!" As for singles wishing they were married, that's part of the problem too. Wishing you were married is only an excuse for putting off being fully actualized in your present situation. Wishing to be married too much can and often does lead to marrying the wrong person. The marriage is based on a person fullfilling a wished for arrangement. A good marriage is based on a relationship that grew into a lifelong partnership. I think the best chance for a happy marriage is when two people who can enjoy being single find that they would enjoy being together more.
2007-10-20 01:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by YahooGuru2u 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... I wonder upon what this statement is based. I must say I am VERY happily married and the thought of not being married freaks me out. My best friend, recently divorced, is on the dating scene and already she has been involved in a relationship she regrets and one where he drops her and comes back to her over and over. Yuck!
Sure, marriage is work and not always fun, but I certainly wouldn't trade it for anything.
When I was single, though, I desperately wanted to be married. I felt like life didn't truly begin until I was married. But I was so intent on finding the perfect one that I waited much longer than my friends before settling down.
Maintaining high standards has made all the difference.
I also want to add that people appear to be generally discontent. Brunettes want to be blondes, short people want to be tall, smart people want to be kind... I really think this is just another in a long list of reasons to be discontent. I thank God I am fairly content with everything in life. I guess that's what happens when you're perfect. Lol.
2007-10-20 09:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by MommaT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of the married people I know think that way. I guess it depends on what you want out of life. Some people want the whole family thing and others would rather just concentrate on making money and advancing in their career. The people I have known in that category ended up finding themselves regretting that decision (to stay single) by age 50 as life starts to slow down.
It's probably a lot more work being married than single as you are always having to deal with someone else's issues as well as your own. Sometimes single-by-choice people are looked at as being selfish.
2007-10-20 01:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by The LG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love being married and would not for the world trade my husband to be single again. I remember how lonely that was at times, even if it was more exciting sometimes. Some married people remember the excitement and fun of being single and wish for it at times, and some single people want the closeness of being in a relationship. I however, and very happy with where I am!!
2007-10-20 02:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by questseeker17 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*LOL* Yep, that's because the grass is always going to look greener. Once we get involved with someone, we want our freedom. And when we're free, we wonder why we don't have someone in our lives. I guess that's just the way relationships were meant to be. Some people are totally and completely content in their relationships--great for them! But there are times when I get bored and wish I could just date a million men to see what's out there. But you know what? At the end of the day, I think I'd still end up with my husband!
2007-10-20 01:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the grass is greener on the other side. I don't wish to be single ( i am very happily married) but I can understand people who are not happy in their relationships wishing they could be happier, or they are just curious, or maybe they just need to know they are still attracted to other people, or that others find them attractive.
2007-10-20 01:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everybody always feels like they're "missing out" and live by that Grass is Greener on The Other Side notion. They probably just cant deal, and think either will be the perfect solution to thier "problems"
2007-10-20 01:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by charmed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't belong on the "most"..... single here & never bothered whether to marry or not.
Your Right! life is ought to be savored now. Cheers!
2007-10-20 02:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by jables 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im married and proud to be his wife. there has not been a day that i wish i was single.
2007-10-20 01:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the saying. The grass is greener on the other side. People always want what they don't have.
2007-10-20 01:29:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋