I met a guy in July, he's your typical bad boy. We ended up hooking up, i got his #, never called,I knew he wanted nothing serious. 3 months later i contacted him thru myspace, he said we should meet up for drinks. we did the other night. i got really drunk and acted stupid. He had said earlier in the nite he'd fix my car. Next day, i texted saying, can you help me with my car still? he said, yes and he did help. He told me i had acted kind of crazy the night b4, but he laughed. He still has more of car to work on, but made it seem like he was really busy and woudnt be able to do it till next week. I went home (didnt hook up with him) but he thought i was going to stay. He said, ill call you next week. I feel a little bad that i havent heard from him. I mean my friend kept telling me he would ask about me, tell me he said hi, etc. he doesnt seem interested whatsoever! I feel like i will just text him sunday and ask if he can still fix my car?
2007-10-19 18:24:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well he is giving me a great deal...he's giving me new breaks. I dont think he's using me...because the other day he didnt get anythign whatsoever and i havent paid him yet even tho he did 2 breaks. I could just never call him again and he'd never get his money.
2007-10-19 18:30:40 · update #1
we did grab dinner after he fixed my car and i paid. We went back to his place, i used the bathroom, then left. He had been going on and on about how he wanted to get in bed and watch the sox...i also feel like he is a huge player and has stuff going on with other girls.
2007-10-19 18:38:29 · update #2
it is definitely not a permanent or even semi committed thing for him.....maybe he thinks of it as friends with benefits. Some people think that way when they are single. If you want more out of this than he is giving you probably should pay what you owe and let him go along his way and find someone that is more up to your standards.
2007-10-19 18:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already have the answer to all your questions:
1- He's a bad boy---bad boys are just that: bad
2- He is a player--- he's not interested in anything of a serious nature and doesn't care to get to know you. If a man wants you, cared to know you, he'd make time and effort to do it. When a man is not interested, making yourself more available, making excuses for him etc. will only make him want you even less. Besides, men pick up on things. He knows you're hooked on him most likely--why would you want to put power in his hands?
3- You're using new brakes and your car as an excuse to be connected to him because you feel powerless and want him to want you---this of course will never work, you'll dig your powerless hole deeper-- new brakes may cost you a couple of hundred dollars, but you're mental and emotional stability/health cost more than that.
4- Changing a man is the last business you want to get into. You don't even have strong feelings for him, just drawn to him because he's unavailable.
Let it go. Do some self reflection and see what attracts you to the unhealthy (bad boy) type. Spend the time and energy on building yourself up (physically/mentally/financially)---and you'll eventually have all of them coming to you-- player and no player.
I know all about the compulsion but next time you have the urge to call him or tempted by the challenge of changing his behavior, just take a deep breathe and realize you're just chasing a rainbow that you can never get to. Good luck :)
2007-10-19 21:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lioness 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's confused by your behavior. If you "acted crazy" when you guys went out for drinks, were you sending him signals? Were you making out with him? Because then when he came to fix your car and he didn't get anything out of you, mabye he's sitting there wondering how he should read your actions.
Sometimes guys are just as confused as we gals are. So maybe you can call him up and ask him to come help with your car, and tell him you'll take him to dinner or something after he fixes it...or lunch before he fixes...so that he feels that you're not just interested in him for his car fixing abilities, but also for him as a person.
2007-10-19 18:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just playing games with you. forget him and get a repair shop to fix whatever is wrong with your car, as someone else said or even, depending upon what it is, try to fix it yourself if you can. If he does fix your car, he may expect something in return that will only cause you problems in the long run.
2007-10-19 18:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you using him? why aren't you calling him and asking him out on a date instead of having him fix your car.
cheaper way to get your car fixed?
he sounds like a nice yet busy man.
2007-10-19 18:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by TM25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a reputable car repairman and pay to have your car fixed.
He is probably hoping if he fixes your car, you will give him sex. You keep calling him and he will keep it up thinking your going to give it up so to speak sooner or later.
I hope you are not that naive.
2007-10-19 18:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he might be using you but then again he might not sorry i cant help you but i really would like to but the only thing i a can say is STAY ON THE LOOK OUT HE MIGHT BE TRYING TO GET YOU comfortable and then he might do something to you
2007-10-20 02:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This bum is using you. FInd a real reapir shop and get your number changed.
2007-10-19 18:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you wanna do about this guy. Apparantly you're gaining something......or you wouldnt bother.
2007-10-19 18:35:13 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋