You meet someone and there is an instant attraction. You become friends with that person, and then you become really good friends with that person. After you've been really good friends for a while, you both decide to date each other. After dating for a few years, you both decide to get married. After marriage, you both live happily ever after.
Is this a good pattern for a "happily ever after" marriage?
*Please just answer the question. I already know that every couple does their own thing, and relationships are all different. So, please don't give me a lecture about that.
2007-10-19 18:19:16 · 6 answers · asked by Mr. Main Event 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not saying that you won't have any arguments or differences with your partner. I'm just asking is this one of the PATTERNS to a good/strong/happy marriage?
2007-10-19 18:31:10 · update #1
I think your point of being friends and getting to know each other well, then dating and later getting married is a good foundation for a lasting marriage.
2007-10-19 18:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's what I did, minus the "instant attraction". It took a while. But we met, became friends (in the same country), then penpals, then serious relationship, then engaged (all while living in 2 different countries, only meeting once a year!), then married. I reckon that is the BEST pattern--friends first. I mean, you need something you enjoy when all the fireworks die down to embers. If you only get married because of romance, it will eventually fail. And feeling a connection is not the same as having a relationship, or even being compatible. And yeah, it does take hard work and sometimes disagreements and tough times, but that's what friends are for.
2007-10-20 01:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Linni 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally, after attraction i feel its happily ever after if both people have integrity and kindness towards one another.
and perhaps, depending upon the ages of each....i know of many happy couples that began their relationships with a long weekend of friendship and intimacy ....now having children and built a wonderful marriage with patience and compassion. love find its beginnings in many ways
2007-10-20 01:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a good pattern to me. That's about how it happened to me.
2007-10-20 02:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by questseeker17 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so.......There is no such thing as happily ever after.
Something called 'LIFE' usually interfers.
2007-10-20 01:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats how the fairy tale is supposed to go
2007-10-20 01:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by itsjust me123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋