Should i invite her over for a night of fun? She has been secretly admiring us both. I am not bi but dont mind watching. So should i invite her over? lets see what can of worms i opened. lol.
2007-10-19 17:34:58 · 14 answers · asked by alicia s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't because your hubby will always expect it. Then when you are not around they continue. Then they fall for each other and you are a thing of the past.
2007-10-19 17:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by v_bird26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alamoblue is the only person so far to (IMO) answer this question sensibly.
What you propose can be loads of fun, and thousands of couples do it every week without negative consequence.
There are all sorts of risks to consider, but I am going to assume you are mature enough to protect yourself, your husband and your playmate.
If you are doing this because you want to have fun watching and all parties are comfortable with it, by all means do so.
If you are doing this just to add a wildcard to your relationship and "open a can of worms" as you put it - that is much less healthy, and probably a very bad idea.
In any event, remember that there may be consequences so you need to be adult enough to accept them.
If you can do that, and not make anyone "pay" for this little adventure (which is your idea after all), then go for it.
2007-10-20 00:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by vic91106 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
My wife have been there, done that, and MORE! But just understand that once you cross that line there's no going back. Just like you can't un-ring a bell. So before you do it, just make sure you're willing to accept the consiquences. Best case is that you both love it, enjoy it, and are willing to do it again and have that be an extension of your sex life. On the other hand, be prepared to listen to your husband begging to do it again for the rest of your life if you decide it wasn't for you! (not bi? that's what my wife said until after her 5th tequilla shot!)
One last thing............it's a lot easier to turn friends into lovers, but it's almost impossible to turn lovers back into being just friends. TRUST me on that one!
2007-10-20 01:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We get this quesiton about twice a week here. You would be very, very stupid to go through with this. Your marriage will never be the same, and the change won't be for the good. What if she gets pregnant and you have to pay child support? How do you explain all that to your kids? What if she demands your husband takes an active role in the kids life? You'll be stuck with that for the next 18 years. What if you get herpes? What if it turns out your husband likes her better? You are being very, very stupid inviting this kind of chaos into your life.
Kent in SD
2007-10-20 00:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by duckgrabber 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
NEVER! You are married, don't you ever do that. Most of the time bringing in another person will routine the marriage. If you do beware that some time they might start and do without you!
2007-10-20 00:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes
its normal to still be interested in others even though you love some one and are in a committed relationship
its fun to experiment
and fun to have new lovers
you can still be in love
and still have fun with new ppl
just agree before hand that its just fun sex and not love
if you are confident that its just sex you dont have to be jealous
its just sex not love!
2007-10-20 00:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by alamoblue2003 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I guess if adultery is ok with you then just be ready for the consequences. There will be some.
2007-10-20 02:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you should really think this out before you give it a try, it could ruin your marriage.
2007-10-20 00:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by ♥mary♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm...
tricky.
as long as you can be absolutely positive it won't turn into anything with emotions.
but then, you can't be absolutely sure of that can you?
ultimitely, it's your risk to take.
just remember that there is always the chance.
anyways, have fun
:D
2007-10-20 00:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by chaps'n'love 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yeah, give it a go otherwise you will always be wondering what if.....
2007-10-20 00:58:22 · answer #10 · answered by tayhay 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋