For people who have cheated before.....answer this.?

Question

There's that old saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" which I totally disagree with. I've cheated before, but I don't cheat anymore, for personal reasons. This question is not to find out who thinks this is true or false....this is for people who have cheated before or God forbid, cheating now.. Do you think this is something you will do all your life or when you feel it's time are you willing to make a change?

Answer 1

I have cheated before and to be honest well it sucked. Not only did I feel horrible but I had to lie which is just wrong. It wasn't fair to my BF or the person that I was cheating on him with. I have done a ton of growing up since then. I really think the phrase "Once a cheater always a cheater" is somewhat right. It really depends on what stage you are currently in, in your life. I think that when you are young well cheating is something new, something you need to learn from. It's when you don't learn from it and continue to do it that makes the phrase true. I believe that people can change if they want to. So if a person enjoys cheating, gets a rush from it or something like this well then they might never change. Love is blind, love is funny and love well makes you change. If you find that right person even the "chronic" cheater can change.

Answer 2

I also disagree that a cheater will always will be one. I think we learn lessons and the guilt factor prevents one from doing it again. On the other hand, cheating once can lead to doing it again because it is easier the next time. "I've already cheated, so why not do it again?"

For me, no, I will never cheat again. I suffered the guilt once and I do not welcome it again. I was honest and fessed up to what I did and it was the most gut wrenching thing I have ever admitted to. I do know of other people who think nothing of it and my opinion of them is that they have no conscience for the other person.

My indiscretion was decades ago and I have come to grips with my guilt. People who cheat regularly are in error and should not be trusted. Those who have done it once and learned from it should be forgiven, if their partner can do that.

Cheating is an otherwise unforgivable sin, however it does happen. The people in the relationship have to discuss it and vent accordingly in order for that relationship to continue. Multiple occasions of cheating cannot be tolerated and the relationship should therefore be dissolved.

Answer 3

It just comes with maturing in life.
Sex feels great, but is it worth hurting your loved ones or little ones at home or ruining your whole marriage.
If you're single, it may feel good to have a little sex on the side with something different, but a penis is a penis at the end of the day, is it worth hurting or being unfaithful to the person you are with? No. You still have to look this person in the eye, and although you had that little something and he doesn;t know about it, you'll always be the one who cheated. But to answer your question, NO i do not believe a cheater is always a cheater, you just have to grow up and realize your responsibility and be faithful to that person that was given to you, or brought in to your life so to speak. PLus that shiz gets old. Sneaking around and hiding numbers and all that. I used to do that until it hit me, I just grew up and realized what was important.

Take Care!

Answer 4

I have cheated before. Two horrible marriages that we (me and my exes) were both unhappy and unfaithful in. I met my third husband 14 years ago. I was married to my second husband when we met and he was married to his ex-wife but seperated when we met. As I said we have been together 14 years now and would never dream or even think about cheating on eachother. I believe that you are in a loving relationship and when you find real love in that relationship the need to cheat or look else where for it is no longer there. People tend to cheat for a reason. They are lacking something in the current relationship that they need. They cheat with the hopes of finding what ever it is that they felt was lacking. Once they find it they will no longer have to go and look for it and they will no longer be cheaters

Answer 5

I cheated once when I was a teenager. Haven't done so since. It is selfish to do so and seeing how hurt someone can be can make all the difference for a cheater to become an ex-cheater.

Answer 6

I have before and i haven't cheated anymore. I hate cheaters though and now im so insecure about my boyfriend if he would cheat on me. I know and his act doesnt show that he wont cheat on me, but it's hard to trust people even my own boyfriend. By the way I cheated because i was mad at him and i was drunk and that was the first we were going out, so i didnt think that our relationship would go that far.
Sounds like you hate cheaters too, why did you cheat then ?

Answer 7

I think that if you are with someone who you know will never be "marriage type" but are time worthy, there is always going to be a chance that while you are with that person, you cheat, or decide to see multiple partners.

I believe that once you "truely" given your heart to someone, you are just as vulnerable to "losing" something too, so your commitment level is a lot higher.
I cheated a lot when I was younger, had 3 girlfriends at the sametime, and I got caught several times. I'm completely different now...
Thats all I got
Good Luck with everything

Answer 8

i have cheated before
once a cheater NOT always a cheater
i think that if i were loved totally and treated as such that i would not be out looking for someone who would love me and treat me as such...when the time comes to find that person, i would not cheat...
anymore, i just don't get involved with someone who doesn't treat me that way...i would leave before i cheated on a good man

Answer 9

I have cheated before. I told my husband at the time that I was through with the marraige, I did not love him in fact I could not stand him. He could get a divorce whenever he wanted to as far as I was concerned I was divorced and then I did as I pleased and told him that he could do the same. I would never cheat on someone I loved.

Answer 10

It is my beleif that when we cheat we are only cheating ourselves,speaking about life in general,but true in relationships as well.As far as "once a cheater always a cheater" i interpret that to mean that we cannot go back in time and erase those mistakes,not that we will continue to do it again and again throughout our entire lifes.You know....we all make mistakes and it is good to "face the music" how else will we ever learn!!Good for you and good luck!!!