like 2weeks ago he asked me to give him head...and i did and then he wanted me to do it everyday and i told him that i didnt want to but he started yelling at me and i felt kinda bad about it so i did it for him again but now he wants to have sex and ive already told him that i dont want to lose my virginity until im married plus im 16 and hes going to be 20 in a week so its not good for us to be doing that. But everytime i tell him that he says that he doesnt care and he gets really really mad at me. He smacked me the last time i outright told him no. Whats a way that i can tell him no w/o pissing him off?
2007-10-19 16:56:45 · 40 answers · asked by Simply Me 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Never let a guy make you feel like you have to do anything that you do not want to!! Its not right and you need to stay strong and stick with no, he obviously doesnt respect or care about you enough to care about your feelings move on girl, stay as far away from him as possible!!!
2007-10-19 17:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by ~Ava~ 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
dump him! If he gets mad at you for not putting out, he's only after one thing! More than likely, once you give him sex, he will be moving on to some other girl!
He's 20 and you are 16.. its illegal for him to have sex with you! Its called statitory rape!!
It also sounds like he is physically abusive.. get out of this relationship NOW, seek some help from a trusted adult!
2007-10-19 17:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by Nekkid Truth! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH HELL NO!! for these things to happen yall would havr to be alone right? so be with an adult as much as possible. And if he's one of them ignorant men who starts stalkin you thenyou can't be all nice you need to let him know! Tell him " Sorry you can't be what i want! And I wont settle for less! Bye!" Then tell the police what he's doing give as much infromation about him as possible! Like Keisha Cole said "If he ain't gonna treat you the way he should the it go"
Good Girl
2007-10-19 18:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by Shairda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to worry about whether or not he's going to get pissed/hit you then you shouldn't be in a relationship with him. You shouldn't be in it anyway. There is a lot of difference between a 16 year old and a 20 year old. Get out now before it gets worse.
2007-10-19 17:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO It is called find another boyfriend! Any body that so much as lays a hand on a female should be shot! once a hitter always a hitter now an abuser later a rapist! Is there someone in your life that you can Trust to tell because this is more serous than you think you need to tell someone as soon as possible and get away from him! He will force himself on you sooner or later and it is already criminal activity that he is doing to you now!
He is the Adult here and you are the MINOR!
He is a PREDATOR!
Maybe you can tell him that you have a virus and turn the tables on him and tell him you have not been with anyone else & maybe he has & maybe you got the virus from him just to maybe scare him away from you and move on!!
Please take my advise!
I will Pray for you!
2007-10-19 16:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by howyozzzdoin 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Leave him alone. He is using you. When you are in school, there's a HUGE chance he's going around sleeping with other girls.
PLEASE do NOT sleep with him. You will catch something. PLEASE get out of this relationship and get back to focusing on more important things like graduating high school.
If you have a supportive family, I suggest you let them know what's going on. You may not want to confess everything you've done, but if he has smacked you around something has to be done about that. If you do not want to get the law involved, go old school and talk to some uncles, cousins, brothers, etc. who would be willing to step in for you and kick his @$$.
Please leave him alone. He is no good for you. Don't continue to disrespect yourself in this way.
With good intentions...
2007-10-19 17:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by gabound75 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First of all he should never hit you!! If he truly loves you he will respect your wishes. Pluse maybe he is to old for you, you dont really need to do any sexual things with anyone! You are only 16! Just dont give in and if he gets to be hitting you, you need to talk to some one (an adult) you should never be hit by any one exspecially a guy!! I would just end the whole thing with him!
2007-10-19 17:03:24 · answer #7 · answered by bridget d 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're being used, and you owe him nothing. He has no love and respect for you. Tell him no, firmly again. And kick him to the curb, get out and stay out. He's not a guy you want to be with. If he continues to harass you, tell your parents or an adult or official. In fact, you can call the police on him and have him arrested and be branded as a sex offender for life for statutory rape, sexual assault, and rape(if he forces). And maybe just assault to go with it too if he hit you.
2007-10-19 17:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by jm7 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First off, whoever you are with they should respect YOU!
This guy is a jerk! Pressuring you and using verbal abuse is not healthy in a relationship. I was with a guy like that and it took me a while to realize but he is long gone. He shouldn't make you feel guilty for something you don't want to do!
Trust me that there are plenty of other guys out there that know how to treat a girl right, but as for the one you have now...DITCH HIM!
2007-10-19 17:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh my goodness. Why is it okay for him to hit you. You need to find a boyfriend who doesn't abuse you...someone who sees you for the nice girl you are. Love isn't sex...sex is the expression of the love. Respecting yourself is one of the most important lessons you must learn. As Dr. Phil says, you teach people how to treat you. Tell this guy "good-bye," because he is only going to get more aggressive and more abusive. Sorry to say, but it's the truth.
2007-10-19 17:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by Deb 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋