Low self-esteem can often lead even the most extraordinary person into destructive relationships?

Answer 1

You are correct with this characterization.People with Low self- esteem often become depressed, are unstable and then turn to Drugs or Alcohol to try and relieve their pain. This can and does happen to anyone, extraordinary people or not!.The combination of either one or both of these symptoms statistics show, can and do lead into destructive relationships.

Answer 2

This self-esteem is really about how you size up yourself truthfully and honestly. If you have a low self-esteem of yourself, it will affect your relationships for the worse with other people. If you have a good, healthy self-esteem, then no matter what kind of let downs others would do on you, you would still be standing tall and erect, with forehead tilted high.

Now, even if no matter how others would prop you up, but if you have a low regard of yourself, you would come out less confident and sissy.

The mysterious side of this low self-esteem is that it can not be typecasted. It does not follow that if you are beautiful, intelligent, tall, muscular, wealthy or whatever, you would then feel having a good self-esteem. You cannot derive having a good self-esteem by comparing yourself with others.

One thing you need is to love yourself, but not in a narcissistic way. Another thing is that you need to have a good sizing up of yourself - no frills, no lying - and then accept yourself for whatever you are worth. Unless you can accept yourself fully, you will always have a void from within.

Also, you can try God. I have been bombarded with a sleaze of intrigues - that I am a trouble-maker, that I am a nut, that I am . . . - and yet it did not affect me. I mean, I got hurt by the innuendoes, but I need not believe their foul accusations. All I know is that as a child of God, someone up there loves me much no matter what. And it has kept me sane even when the chips were down.

Tough times never last, but tough people do. If God is for you, who can be against you?

So, seek out a better way on how to "procure" a good, healthy dose of self-esteem. You will need it as you travel the bumpy and slippery road of life. If you have it in good measure, I tell you, you will become a blessing - to yourself and to others around you.

Answer 3

yes it can... so how do we get away from self-esteem and on an up beat life... First look at what has dropped me to this level... Now can I over come this or do I want to over come it.. Is it my relationship doing the damage... All I know is that when I feel a downward spiral coming on. I take a step back and the next step forward is towards the good feeling and away from the destructive... Good luck Grant M in Pennsylvania

Answer 4

Yes, it can, especially if the extraordinary comes from the low self-esteem.

Answer 5

It can, but it can also turn the ordinary person into a great person as they take the steps to raise their own self esteem in one manner or another and achieve something those with high self esteem might not think to worry about or concern themselves with.

Answer 6

Low self esteem can led extraordinary people to do anything.

Answer 7

generally people with low self esteem go for the abusers and controllers not always their fault these people can seek them out and treat them like a queen or king which ever the situation may be until they have them under their control then after what I call the honey moon period any where from 3 - 6 months the abuse will start first verbal then physical. By this time the person's self esteem what little they did have is shattered and the abuser has them convinced they can't get anyone else because no one will want them. I had very high self esteem and married the wrong man he had me convinced that I couldn't do any better and my self esteem went down. Then he started by not letting me eat until his kids had eaten. One day I served myself because I was hungry and he took the plate away and fed his children then when they finished he threw the rest of the food on the ground and told me I could eat it off the ground if i was that hungry I went without. I ended up leaving him 3 weeks after we married bleeding from head to toe and the cops took me back to him when he came at me with them there after he had a bon fire going with all of my personal belongings including clothes they took me to a motel for the night my dad took me to a shelter. I eventually went back to him (advised by my preacher) and things were great for 6 months until I left him the last time on crutches. That's my story I have a wonderful boyfriend and never filed for divorce because he said if I did he would find me and kill me. Now I dare him to find me I am armed and know how to use it. I was lucky I got out my self esteem is very high now and I have a wonderful supportive group of people looking out for me they know my story which I gladly share. It isn't easy to leave when you have kids I was lucky the kids were his from a previous marriage. The laws have changes since then now if there is even a scratch or red mark the police will arrest who ever is not injured it might only be for the night but it is enough time to get away. If you know someone who is in this situation the best thing you can do is ahave a plan of action some place safe where they cannot be found not with family or friends because the abuser will look there first. When I left mine I had to deal with police he knew all of his life and worked with at one time. I had no rights according to them and should have stayed where I was as long as I wasn't dying exact words. Protective order at court was told there were not enough instances where he hit me this was both times I left him after that I felt alone. I moved around alot and changed my last name after he called my moms house with her having changed the number and having it kept private. I consider myself lucky. I would find a friend of a friend of a friend if you know what I mean make it hard for them to be found. get them enough money to get a bus to any where else and they can always stay at the salvation army a womans shelter will also help they have rules but it is strictly confidential I stayed a Phoebe's home when I left the first time. Do research for your friend and find the closest one to you or in another town. Help them get out

Answer 8

Yup. I would know. Everyone I meet tells me I'm special, I've got something that no one else does, that I'm amazing and unique when honestly my self estem is horrible. Thats were people like me get problems like Anorexia, Bulimia, Compulsive over eating, and we also date people who are controlling, abusive, mean, mentally disturbed and such. Its a horrible but true thing.

Answer 9

No not all the time