I am on maternity leave and am his primary caregiver. My husband only sees our son every evening and weekend. In the evenings when my husband wants to play with him, he freaks out until he sees me and only wants me to hold him. I understand it is just a stage. It bothers me as I need "me time" some evenings, not to mention that I think my husband is hurt by it. How long does this stage last, and what can be done to help him warm up to my husband?
2007-10-19 16:01:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Your not alone in this boat. I just answered a question like this today with a nine month old (Ill leave link on bottom). Try having your husband do more for the baby including feeding (solids if baby is breastfed), giving night time bath and just playing but all while your there. As well its probably just a stage. I'm some what in the same boat. My 5 month old DD really likes me the best and I find it difficult to get out at night. She really doesn't fair well with others for long periods (like more then an hour or so) so I have to stay home allot. I'm hoping it gets better soon. My partner is really trying to get her to attach to him but he works full time so its tough.
2007-10-19 16:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by lovelylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girl went through this around that age too. You know, of course, that it is part of the whole separation anxiety thing. Anytime I would try to walk out and leave her with my hubby, she would flip. But he said that she did okay when I would just leave. She would fuss for a minute and then be okay. Maybe it would help if your hubby played a more caregiving role. Is he just there to play and you do everything else? What if you leave and he totally takes care of the baby...like feeds, changes diapers, etc. Maybe if baby sees that daddy can take care of his needs, he will feel more comfortable.
2007-10-19 16:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by ladybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son is 7 months and luckily he isnt like that. I am a very social person and stem from a very large family so my son is always around groups of people and people are always passing him around. He is the happiest baby and rarely ever cries. I would try and make him more social, that may help. That Would be really tough on the hubby. I sometimes have "boppy parties" where all my friends with babies or kids comes over for the afternoon.
2007-10-19 16:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by ~So much FUN~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 1 year old that is still like this. Give them uninterupted time together. I do this with my husband and son and it pays off. After a while my little guy starts to play with his dad. But a few months ago I was the only one who would do. He still wants me at bed time and during feedings, but he will go to his Dad now, and let him cuddle him and play, he even lets him feed him sometimes. I know how you feel about needing me time, but hang in there, before you know it he will be running off with friends embarrassed because you tried to kiss him goodbye :). Good Luck!
2007-10-19 16:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by melissaw77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. My son only wanted me for a long while. He did go back and forth on ocassion but generally I was his fav for a while. Now he's 20 months old and if his Daddy is in the room I'm chopped liver! :o) So Daddy will have his time to shine. Hang in there.
2007-10-19 16:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that stage will last....... my aunt is a stay at home mom and her daughter who is two is still in that stage..... if her mom isn't in view for a while she gets a bit better but is still pretty upset........ my much younger brother 6 is also very attached to our mother who was his primary caregiver as an infant and later as a toddler and even with pre-school and now school he hangs on mom constantly...... perhaps talk to your physician to see if they could offer any advice, more time with his dad could help or perhaps even less time with you (which i know sounds horrible)
2007-10-19 16:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by suesue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play with him together.
Or, have daddy play with baby's toys while you're sitting just a little bit away. Sooner or later, baby's going to see that the stuff Daddy is doing is a lot of fun and want to join in.
TX Mom
2007-10-19 16:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can leave for a while one evening - go out with a friend to dinner or something - this behavior goes back and forth for years!!
Totally normal, I assure you. I used to flee!
2007-10-19 16:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by SA38 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe daddy could do little puppet shows and feed him things that he likes just a taste of ice cream or such here and there never chocolate
2007-10-19 16:23:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband needs to find things to do with him that he likes. must be some favorite books or movies or toys they can play with together. he must be really hurt.
2007-10-19 16:05:12 · answer #10 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋