Are Indian arranged marriages more successful than our American version of love & marriage?

Answer 1

first of all no one can really speak for all of india, because each state is different, they have different languages, religions, values, cultures, etc. the north is also more westernized than the south. also many live in cities that are westernized, and equivalent live in villages or small towns.

i can tell you about a part of south india that i am from. we still have arranged marriages. there are love marriages also, but i would say it's only about 10%.

by successful if you mean less divorce, then yes.
by successful if you mean less fighting, then no. (we all fight the same, we are human beings too).

let me tell you their take on divorce: it is not a good thing for the family (brings shame, etc). we are very community oriented, so you will never live it down. you will be frowned upon by your parents, neighbors, and any random person that comes into your village / neighborhood.

married couples usually live with the husbands parents. the wife usually stays home. takes care of husbands parents, cooks with them, manages the house, and the kids get to grow up with their grandpa and grandma. i don't think there are any fights about one spouse cheating on the other.

so if the wife and husband does have a fight, the wife goes to her parents house stays there for a while. then after a couple of days her parents yell at her to go back and make it work, or the husband comes crying and takes her back.

if you decide to get divorced / or runaway from your husband, you will have to live a widow life, because no one else is gonna marry you. so there is less divorce considering all this.

what we fight about: money, overspending, alcohol problem (usually the men drink), children not being taken care of, etc.

so indian arranged marriages are held together by a lot of things (society, parents, etc), and u have less options if u get a divorce, so no one really considers a divorce.

only thing i can see is that in western countries (USA), the divorce rate is way too high. in western countries, society allows you to remarry and doesn't look down on you. if society didn't care in india, then it would all be the same.

from the outside it looks like indian arranged marriages are more successful because we stay with each other till we die, and it looks like Americans are falling apart because for them divorce is like changing into a new dress. but to really find out, you got to go take a vote or something... now go find out and enlighten ur mind and maybe mine too.

Answer 2

That depends on your definition of success. I don't know how happy a couple could be when they are told who to marry. They may also not remain faithful. Perhaps the culture does not hold with divorce, but are the marriages truly happy? That's a good question. I don't even know if someone who's had an arranged marriage could answer it. If they never got to date different people, how do they know there's not someone better?

On the other hand, I do agree that the divorce rate here is sad. I don't know what it is in other countries (countries that allow divorce and freedom to choose your spouse), but I think that some people jump into marriage too quickly because they don't see it as something sacred anymore. Not to get all religious on you, but the divorce rate has probably gone up as the loss of faith has gone up. Just my thought. Probably get a thumbs down for that...

Answer 3

I don't know any stats but I think that an arranged marriage will stay together because of culture and family pressure. It is what the parents want and their wishes will be respected.

On the other hand there is not the passion and feelings of true love. An arranged marriage will grow and work but might miss some of the things an American marriage has. On the other hand, more American marriages fail.

Answer 4

I live in New Zealand but the marriage stats are about the same as USA. I work with a lot of Indians and their arranged marriages seem to be more successful than ours. But by successful I mean staying together. That does not mean they are happy. A lot of the women are not happy at all. As another answerer suggested, it is their culture to stay together regardless... It is also their nature to accept their unhappy state.

Currently there is a young Indian girl with whom I work who was in love with a young Indian chap of whom her family did not approve. She was seeing him in her break times at work and was always bubbly and bright. She was away for a short time recently. I didn't realize for some time that her family had taken her away to marry someone they chose in Fiji. She has been a very sombre person since she came back. I asked her how she felt about all this. She said she will get used to it.

Answer 5

well that was long time ago... and everywhere int he world there was arranged marraiges so i don't know where your going on about. and now in india its all about love marraiges but people who are in there late 30's and cant find someone then maybe thats a arranged marriage. but i duno where your going. nd arranged marraiges are more successful lol in all races

Answer 6

Wow, the first girl who answered this is a retard. Yes, they are much more succesful, only because they don't have the options of divorce that we have here and because infidelity by men is overlooked.

Answer 7

most tribes didnt have ''aranged'' marreges, though the groom had to have permission from the chief and the perents of the girl.