2007-10-19 15:00:17 · 16 answers · asked by Stony 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No worries, I'm not going to do anything.
Just wondering if she would notice.
2007-10-19 15:14:24 · update #1
a lot of people feel like this, but don't expect anything to come of it
2007-10-19 15:19:41 · answer #1 · answered by Pyro 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. She would probably notice unless you are very good at hiding it. She is there for a reason and anything she tries to help you with will be because she is trying to help you.
Just be careful as if you have a crush, you may read into things that are meant purely as a form to help you in some way.
2007-10-19 22:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's normal to "fall in love" with our therapist, as you share a great deal of your life with them and you experience something called "transference." It's an unconscious redirection of your past feelings for other people to your therapist. You can have highly erotic feelings as well as intense hatred or resentment---depending on the phase of your therapy. It's actually healthy and a part of a successful therapy. Therapists are trained to recognize the signs and work through them--they see value in this, as the unconscious is becoming available. No need to be ashamed or embarrassed :) I would suggest you speak to her/him and open up---this will help the process.
Good luck :)
2007-10-19 22:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by Lioness 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, in a word "NO". It is called transference and you should get referred to another counsellor so you don't do something you regret. If the counsellor figures it out they will refer you to somebody else because it is unethical for the professional relationship to continue just in case you get the wrong idea. The counsellor is not allowed to have a relationship with a patient. It is not allowed at all.
2007-10-19 22:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its actually very common and is known as transferance. It occurs becouse you see her as a "savior". The counsellor is probably aware of your crush or at least of the possibility. As long as you realize it is only a crush and do not act on it then you will advoid embarassment for you both.
2007-10-19 22:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by buffybot67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no and yes. nip it in the bud and stop obsessing on her. it is really bad for your mental health. a friend of mine got that way and committed suicide in high school. forget it. she could end her career of saying or doing anything along those lines. you, sire, are barking up the damn wrong tree.
you are like henry hawk who was always arguing with leghorn about getting a chicken. wrong!
2007-10-19 22:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's typical. I've fallen for alot of mental counselors. You're in desperate times. You're seeking free treatment if you catch my meaning. lol. If you truly like her then act responsibly. Don't hit on the poor woman. I'm sure she gets alot of that.
2007-10-19 22:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by Spirit-X 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crush bad. Plainly visible to a professional who will never let you know if he/she is aware. I have a crush on my MD who acts like a teenager when she is around me - I think it's mutual but .......
2007-10-19 22:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by pilot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how good she is at her job.
Eventually you may begin to show signs that don't appeal to her, but sometimes it doesn't take being in the menatl health profession to see that.
2007-10-19 22:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by lojix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not unusual to have crushes on people we look up to who help us etc.whether that is teachers,counselors,etc just don't get carried away with your feelings as it's only a crush
2007-10-19 22:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by d s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋