I'm in my early 30s and I've been in just 2 relationships of 1.5 years each. I know is nice to have company, but until now, the "nice" girl that cross my path, I can see is a wolf with a sheep custome and it doesn't take a long time for me to see the truth, and why I don't commit. My point is I am considering to spend the rest of my life by myself, has anyone out there took a similar decision and got to his 40, 50 and say it's been a good decision?, have you thought on staying single for the rest of your life in your 20s or 30s?
2007-10-19 14:40:02 · 17 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my aunt married a man and it did not turn out, years past and she never had another relationship, never married. than one day she grew old, no kids, just a lonely existence. one day we spoke about why she hadn't pursued love ever since her divorce, she claimed she could never trust love again. it left her bitter, angry, in her own little world, and now she is 90, never tried again, found fault with everything after the divorce, she let one thing and one man destroy her motivation to find love, because she wouldn't chance it again.
2007-10-19 15:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 5⤋
I am 40 and I love woman,but so far no luck with relationships. I can tell you straight up, I hate being single!!! Just like I told my friends,I never thought I would be single, I always dreamed about finding that lady of my dreams,get married,and have a family of my own,but that never happened. Either I would ask the ladies out,and they would have boyfriends,or they would be married. My friends tell me, if you have not found anyone yet,you are not going to find anyone,and you will be single all of your life. I hate the fact that I am single,but maybe GOD just has a different plan for me,I do not know. I look at all my friends,and hear my friends talking about what they did with their wives or girlfriends,and sometimes I wish it was me instead of them. If it was me,I would say no and keep on trying to find that love of your life. Someone told me,that they believe there is someone for everyone,and even though I am single,and I hate it!!! I believe that saying!!! I know I am not going to give up,and I am a nice guy,and they say nice guys finish last,but deep down I truely believe there is someone out there,so do nt give up. Sorry for being so long,you hang in there!!!
2014-11-10 04:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by russell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't decide on whether you should stay single or not, because you might avoid meeting the woman that is meant for you and that you will truly fall in love with.
Love is natural. It's not like a job. Early 30's is the time when you know exactly what you want in a woman, because you've been dating.
Just relax, because the woman of your dreams is out there. Remember, only a true man knows how to treat a woman and he could have the best life.
2007-10-19 15:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I think this is something that, if happens, should not have been decided beforehand. It could happen since we are not 'entitled' to find our love; sometimes it doesn't happen and we should try to have a happy life in spite of that. Your asking this question seems to imply that you feel like that at the moment, which is absolutely fine. But why should this be 'for the rest of your life'? Who knows...don't even wonder about that. Life is a surprise.
2016-03-13 03:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously don't think about staying single for the rest of your life..its too early for you to say that.. besides one or two bad relationships don't mean that you cant find a good woman later on life.
Being alone is really bad, it gets lonely sometimes unless you buy a lot of cats and dogs...
think about it before you decide though..
2007-10-19 14:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by Cedes! 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's a good idea to stay single for the rest of your life after you've married and had, at least, a couple of kids. Yes, I divorced at 35 and have spent 30 years as a single person and I have love my single life, tremendously. Of course, I was married in my early twenties and had two kids. After that, I dedicated my time to college and got a carreer in education. I recommend single life after you've had, at, least, a couple of kids and then stay single, forever.
2007-10-19 15:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by Teach 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I will tell you that I am 30 now and I feel that I will be single forever. I am told that I am a handsome guy but it seems that the women I attract are damn crazy. They are lazy or don't know what they want in thier lives. I really want to be single but you really never know who you may fall in love with someone......love is the souls recognition of another...good luck
2007-10-19 15:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by Kurt S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are hurting right now so it's certainly fine to lay off the dating scene for a while, but no need to limit your options for life at this early age!
My husband was 42 when we got married and he always thought he would be a life-long bachelor, so you never know what might come your way in the future!
2007-10-19 14:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by looneybin90 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced for 4 years now. I don't know if I would ever get married again. Each woman I have dated since my divorce talks about money and them being secure financially. I thought being together, or getting married was about love...not money. I have even gone out with women that made almost twice as much as me, and she is of the opinion that a man should provide for her now and in the future. She has stated that her money is hers...and my money would be ours. Does anybody see anything wrong with that? I certainly do.
2007-10-19 14:57:15 · answer #9 · answered by rrunner68 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I didn't think about having a relationship until I met someone who seems perfect for me.
I think you shouldn't make a decision like that.....what you should do is take it as it comes.
If you don't find anyone who you want to share your life with then stay single However if you met someone and she seems perfect for you...take it slow, really get to know her and see where it takes you.
2007-10-19 15:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some of us are meant to be married, and some of us are meant to be single. Consider yourself lucky that you found out the true self of the people you were dating before marriage. The age has no bearing when it comes to relationships. But regardless of the outcome of your life, live life to the fullest and be happy. Besides, I think you already are happy. I just sense it.
2007-10-19 14:50:28 · answer #11 · answered by tagara 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋